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My situation mirrored @samspade's pretty closely--though I had other experience beyond that. Basically, in my pre-SS, pre-game LTR, I had extremely strong boundaries--but those boundaries were from a place of trying to preserve a narrative about the girl and about myself and preserving how other...

Paradoxical maybe, but not contradictory (a lot of game is paradoxical). At the lowest level, a man won’t set boundaries out of insecurity, scarcity, neediness, and fear. Then, at a slightly higher level, he will set boundaries—but those boundaries will still be rooted in insecurity, scarcity...

It’s up to you to set the frame—ideally early rather than later (I always tell girls upfront I’m not much of a texter and I think it’s better for people to have time to themselves and talk about things in person). You didn’t set that frame proactively so you’re in a bit of tighter spot (esp if...

Bump. Just cause it’s true

Around your age, I just started going out by myself and focusing on improving my life. Some of my old friends got on board eventually, made some new ones, and I still have some of those lifelong friends--who though our lives moved in drastically different directions--are still my boys and I...

Still do sometimes lol. Just less of them believe me now. However, what I do for a living rarely ever comes up and when it does I just keep in vague and move on. If girls get too pushy about it, just bust on them for being a gold digger or make some conspiracy out of it where you can't tell them...

Hot girls in the 18-22 y/o range flake. It’s what they do. They’re just going with their emotions and those emotions change constantly. Getting upset about it or scheming ways to avoid it is a total waste of energy. The only reliable way to avoid flaking is to sleep with her the night you meet...

The amount of grown men who still care about rejection is absolutely pathetic lol. Life is all about asymmetric returns: You spend months at the gym, before you see growth. You start a business--it'll take years potentially to start to see a return; statistically 2/3 of every business you start...

For me, I gave up on OLD when I started pulling girls IRL with very little effort who had swerved me on Tinder. I also encourage every guy who has female friends to ask to use their Tinder some time (say you want to scope out the competition and make it into a joke) and see what's out there. I...

Right, I’m familiar with the theory. But I’ve also gone out to the college bars just about every weekend, for the past 5 years (I’ve slowed down a little—was probably logging 4 nights a week the first couple years). I worked in the nightlife for 2 years before that. Every guy here is can go...

Missed this, but totally agree. Men want a sure bet--and they're wise to hedge their bets as best they can--but ultimately all you can do is be a high value man and let the chips fall where they may. If you stay a high value man, either outcome shouldn't be too much of an issue Anyway I think...

Right, but the idea that women want everything in one man as the ideal is one idea the manosphere and Blue Pill society at large have in common ;) IRL that hasn't been my experience (both firsthand and observed) at all--at least not long-term. Some women are more monogamously inclined than...

100% disagree. There are two sides to every woman—the PR version that needs to have security and emotional investment and a special connection before and after sex and the side of her that will have depraved NSA sex with no investment and no connection. Just two different responses to different...

If she’s hot, fun, and social then her number is wayyy higher than anything you’d be comfortable with and you’ll probably never know. If you’re judgmental, then you’ll always get her PR version (“I’ve only been with 3 guys and I haven’t had sex in months” lol). If you’re nonjudgmental and tell...

You have to accept it, brotha. Quit judging your emotions. Fvck it lol. It it what it is--and the more you resist those emotions, the more they'll persist. Quit fvcking her. It's over--you know it's over and so does she--and that's just you being too pvssy to rip off the band aid. Getting back...

This. Right now your though process is, “I’m the sh1t because I have a bad b1tch.” Ideally, it should be, “I have a bad b1tch because I’m the sh1t.” Subtle, but there’s a difference. You have to stop looking outside of yourself to feel good about yourself. You’re the exact same guy no matter...

Right. And I'm disagreeing with that. If you're making an emotional impact, then none of that other stuff matters. Ya, no girls are gonna find me on instagram with a couple hundred followers that I update like 3x a year and slide in my DMs; I probably won't match with that girl on Tinder (or if...

Disagree 100%. That's just sh1tty self-limiting beliefs. I'm 29 still hitting the college bars where I'm a solid 6-10 years older than everybody there. No issues at all--and I tell girls I'm a virgin and work low status fast food jobs. I'm also completely upfront about my age. I think most girls...

I'd say for anything 22 or younger, it's all about being fun and casual. If you have to go on dates, then keep them drinks only and don't call them dates, but I'd be shooting for that night or, if logistics don't shake out, trying to get them over for wine the next day (or later in the week if...

I think you're getting too caught up on the idea of direct/indirect. You can open direct--show intent--then talk about other things. You can open indirect and then go direct. It's all the same stuff. The only thing that really matters is the subcommunication: eye contact, tonality, the vibe...