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I've been out with a few women ranging from 6-13 years older than me (I'm in my mid 20s). I find I connect better with these women, maybe it is because I find the banality of most 20-something girls totally nauseating. At any rate they're so far much more direct about what they want, and in...

Well this what threw me for a loop. She made the comment that one of her friends told her she should date casually, but said "I just can't do that". I moved the conversation onto something else. I guess that is what caused my dilemma, that she is insinuating she desires something more than...

What a different world I live in compared to 8 months ago. I was a major AFC, and I have made serious progress, but I wouldn't say I have reached total DJness just yet. Here is my dilemma. There is this girl I went out with twice, and made out with her for an hour or so on our second date...

Is it ok to keep them in your car's glove box? By this time of year it gets really hot in there during the day, and the package says to keep them in cool dry place (until they're being used ;)). I'm wondering if it is risky to use one that's been in a hot car for a few days, does heat degrade...

First of all, I got laid last night. I attribute this entirely to the DJ techniques discussed here. In my case C+F was the trick. So let the Doubting Thomases take note. :cool: This is the problem though. It having been some extended period of no bedroom activity, I was a bit...

Yes, it is best to next immediately. I wrote back to that girl with a sort of "I won't take any bvll**** but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt" email. She contacted me later that night on IM and was saying how she wanted to make it up to me blah blah blah. Anyway we were supposed to...

Yeah, in her message she said something about not expecting forgiveness or any kind of response. I am wondering if this is just her oblique way of blowing me off, by implying that there will be no more contact, or if she is trying to get me to give her another chance. Can't seem to catch a...

Long story short, I was supposed to meet this girl Sunday for a second date and she did not show up. Naturally I was supremely irritated and figured nexting her was the obvious choice. Monday night she sends this apologetic email (too afraid to use the phone obviously) with a pretty lame...

I reluctantly began dabbling with match.com and similar sites a few months ago, since I wasn't getting much going on in the real world I figured what the hell. So I have met around four girls from online, and so far all of them have turned out to be flakes. The most recent one, who happened to...

Whatever you do, don't be a "sweet guy" anymore if you want her to have any romantic interest in you at all. Go for the number, but don't ask for it in a way that makes it easy for her to say no. One of the classic examples on the site is "why don't you write down your number". Also pay...

Any other opinions on this? She was "out" Saturday but threw herself back in by calling to say she had gotten tickets for Sunday, then cancels on that one too. That is what perplexes me the most. It's hard to tell if this is legit or an overly complicated blow-off.

I should also add that I am going out with another chick later this week, so I am not thinking about this setback too much. That's probably the #1 lesson anyone can learn here: pursue multiple girls! It really does work. Your confidence with each of them is so much higher because you know she...

Married women are some of the biggest flirts, I have found. I think it is because they like the idea that they can still get attention from guys, yet they have the security of the marriage to fall back on, and in fact in most cases probably have no intention of getting with you anyway. I say...

The other day I went out with this chick, to an amusement park. I thought it went quite well, I was being C+F, using light neg-hits, etc, and I wasn't even consciously thinking about it. She mentions having tickets to this sporting event that is going on here for a few days and asks if I want...

Actually this is a good opportunity for you. She is going to pay, and you will get to find out if the friend is hot! At any rate, make a point of giving the friend more attention. If the other girl does have any romantic interest in you, it will drive her crazy that her friend is getting...

A lot of women in their thirties are aggressively husband-hunting. This is just common guy knowledge. Even if it's not the case at all for you, maybe it's a concern he has. I would agree with the previous poster who suggested that you limit contact for a while and let him be the one to...

You're only a loser if you continue in that mentality. Right now you are using it as an excuse to not take the risks required. I am your same age and was like that until not long ago. I finally decided I had not taken advantage of my late teens and early twenties in the way I could have done...

I actually used to be somewhat like that guy, well not quite as bad, but similar. Then one day you realize that when you meet a "Miss Perfect" you don't have any skills or experience to draw from! What good is it to wait for a Miss Perfect, and then when you find one, you realize you're a...

I know what you are talking about. I guess I am in the "jerk phase" of recovering from my former AFC self. I have gotten the impression that everything is so tentative, and that the slightest insignificant error in my behavior will snowball into failure with every woman. In other words I feel...

Later in the week I am going to an amusement park with this chick. Our first date. I would have preferred to get a "pre date" first, as opposed to jumping right into what might be an all-day affair, but whatever. She was dropping pretty big hints that she wanted to do this, and considering my...