If you're in a social circle, and the women there don't give you a hug when they leave, it's OVER

[BaronOfHair]

One would think a woman on the spectrum would have sympathy for us

Part of being a man is recognizing that you can't rely on sympathy to the degree that attractive young women, koala bears, and all other creatures cute and cuddly do. Frankly, attractive young women who are relying on sympathy to get by are in for a rude awakening by time they're deep into their 30s, and that beauty is noticeably faded

 

[BaronOfHair]

Don't anger the whiny members, they will complain to the moderators about your bullying and get you banned. Much better to ignore them.

We're in the same boat the rest of society has been in

17:00-18:43, for the past several decades now. Not even being a forum which purports to promote manhood prevents some of us from regularly running to "an adult", whenever we find someone's words objectionable

 

[corrector]

He never offered any coping mechanisms.

Are you going to try with a hot lady shrink this time? You tried a male (ie same sex) already, so you can experiment and try to find someone (of the opposite sex) hot this time.

 

[LTG71]

I must be L7, as I don't know what an FZ hug is.

BTW, here's an article on hugs:

7 Common Types Of Hugs & The Meaning Behind Each | mindbodygreen

A hug can be a sign of romantic intimacy, security, emotional support, or love. We break down the main types of hugs to help you decipher which is which.

www.mindbodygreen.com

These guys were getting something between a Friend hug and a Hugging around the waist as defined by this article.

A hug to me means you are open to connect or you are acknowledging an already existing connection. I have a coworker that for years openly claims that she doesn’t like hugs. Mentions some vague inappropriate contact when she was younger but the actual reason has never been explicitly vocalized. I’ve seen this same woman do the exact action at a happy hour that OP described in the original post. So this “hate” is subjective depending on her mood. She often offers awkward high fives instead of hugs. I think it is a non-verbal way to maintain some sort of distance and limit intimacy.

 

[Chow Mein]

Thank you for your advice. I’m putting the three musketeers on ignore/blocked/mute effective immediately. My mental health can’t handle any more of this nonsense, and I can’t afford another unproductive day like today, especially when I’m not benefiting from it.

It’s all in your hands now, sensei.

If you’ve been around long enough, you should appreciate corrector’s dedication to trolling

 

[GoodMan32]

Are you going to try with a hot lady shrink this time? You tried a male (ie same sex) already, so you can experiment and try to find someone (of the opposite sex) hot this time.

At the therapy practice I went to this summer, I picked a female therapist I'm attracted to for my first appointment.

Unfortunately, it turned out her male colleague's schedule worked a lot better for me.

The male therapist deserves to get his credentials revoked for some of the terrible ideas he gave me (telling me to advertise my ASD and my hatred of feminism on dating/hookup apps). Seriously.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

How does this even matter? Sounds like you don't involve yourself in social circles very much.

I never hugged or received a hug from a girl who apparently wanted to fvck me for months before she cornered me at my cousin's party and I fvcked her in the bathroom while they were all outside.

Maybe you are simply being too much of a nice guy where they all feel friendly vibes towards you?

 

[MatureDJ]

A hug to me means you are open to connect or you are acknowledging an already existing connection. I have a coworker that for years openly claims that she doesn’t like hugs. Mentions some vague inappropriate contact when she was younger but the actual reason has never been explicitly vocalized. I’ve seen this same woman do the exact action at a happy hour that OP described in the original post. So this “hate” is subjective depending on her mood. She often offers awkward high fives instead of hugs. I think it is a non-verbal way to maintain some sort of distance and limit intimacy.

No, she'd be hugging her co-workers if they looked like Tom Brady.

 

[corrector]

At the therapy practice I went to this summer, I picked a female therapist I'm attracted to for my first appointment.

Unfortunately, it turned out her male colleague's schedule worked a lot better for me.

The male therapist deserves to get his credentials revoked for some of the terrible ideas he gave me (telling me to advertise my ASD and my hatred of feminism on dating/hookup apps). Seriously.

You can go back to her now since the male therapist didn't work out. Do you still have her contact number?

At the end of the day, my favorite therapist is an ASMR roleplay of a lady acting like she is a therapist. When you can talk at a screen, and the lady replies back like you are answering to her directly and you have this wierd conversation with a screen, then it can be a fun time.
I think there is an estimate range of how people respond to things and some of these artists are good at picking up or anticipating what 80% of the viewers answers are going to be leading to a realistic video session. (ie much like cold reading skills). I mean, when you look at it, every person's situation is unique, yet, also has aspects that are very common at the same time and results in the same therapy solution (ie like the breathing exercises suggested by @BackInTheGame78 on a post he wrote). However, if it's delivered in a nice way, sometimes it sticks.

I know others have knocked me on this, but don't underestimate the power of watching the right video, when you need to watch it the most. Many times I didn't believe it would work with me and I was surprized by the results. Just listening to an ASMR video of a lady saying she loves me, just put me in a great frame of mind and I looked at other things afterwards. At first when I was listening to this, I thought there would be no results. After all it's a video and you know it's fake right. But like plants listening to good words or music, who you don't expect to understand things the way we do, and then find out later their growth or plant behaviour ends up being influenced by the words or music that is played to it, ends up being a surprize. In a wierd sense, I believe we are like the plants in that sense. If we hear good words, encouraging words, even if you know it's fake, it still does something. Wierd when you look at it..but isn't that what therapy is about. You are paying someone to say the right things/advice to get you in the right place mentally?

 

[GoodMan32]

You can go back to her now since the male therapist didn't work out. Do you still have her contact number?

At the end of the day, my favorite therapist is an ASMR roleplay of a lady acting like she is a therapist. When you can talk at a screen, and the lady replies back like you are answering to her directly and you have this wierd conversation with a screen, then it can be a fun time.
I think there is an estimate range of how people respond to things and some of these artists are good at picking up or anticipating what 80% of the viewers answers are going to be leading to a realistic video session. (ie much like cold reading skills). I mean, when you look at it, every person's situation is unique, yet, also has aspects that are very common at the same time and results in the same therapy solution (ie like the breathing exercises suggested by @BackInTheGame78 on a post he wrote). However, if it's delivered in a nice way, sometimes it sticks.

I know others have knocked me on this, but don't underestimate the power of watching the right video, when you need to watch it the most. Many times I didn't believe it would work with me and I was surprized by the results. Just listening to an ASMR video of a lady saying she loves me, just put me in a great frame of mind and I looked at other things afterwards. At first when I was listening to this, I thought there would be no results. After all it's a video and you know it's fake right. But like plants listening to good words or music, who you don't expect to understand things the way we do, and then find out later their growth or plant behaviour ends up being influenced by the words or music that is played to it, ends up being a surprize. In a wierd sense, I believe we are like the plants in that sense. If we hear good words, encouraging words, even if you know it's fake, it still does something. Wierd when you look at it..but isn't that what therapy is about. You are paying someone to say the right things/advice to get you in the right place mentally?

The female therapist hardly ever worked evenings when I first went to her practice (and she was phasing out of evenings entirely). Now that she's phased out of evenings (and doesn't work weekends), she no longer fits around my work schedule.

Therapy is supposed to get you in the right place mentally, yeah. But the "right" things have to really be the right things (not just what you want to hear)

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Therapy is supposed to get you in the right place mentally, yeah. But the "right" things have to really be the right things (not just what you want to hear)

You mean like how you ignore the advice from the esteemed members of this forum? Everybody knows the advice is solid, but I guess it's not what you want to hear. Or you're simply incapable of determining what is right and what isn't.

 

[GoodMan32]

You mean like how you ignore the advice from the esteemed members of this forum? Everybody knows the advice is solid, but I guess it's not what you want to hear. Or you're simply incapable of determining what is right and what isn't.

A lot of the advice I get is "ask out xyz woman" (no matter how many times I explain why I'm unable to)

I need realistic advice.

Another piece of advice I get is to change my age preference (which is beyond my control; might as well tell a gay man to go straight)

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

A lot of the advice I get is "ask out xyz woman" (no matter how many times I explain why I'm unable to)

I need realistic advice.

Another piece of advice I get is to change my age preference (which is beyond my control; might as well tell a gay man to go straight)

So you agree that you're simply incapable of determining what is right and what isn't.

Please, explain what you consider 'realistic' advice?

 

[GoodMan32]

So you agree that you're simply incapable of determining what is right and what isn't.

Please, explain what you consider 'realistic' advice?

My age preference is what it is. Telling me to change my age preference isn't realistic.

I've also had others tell me to shed my fetish (not on this forum though; I've hardly ever mentioned my dealbreaker fetish on here). Telling me to shed my fetish is another piece of unrealistic advice.

Telling me to ask out a woman I regularly cross paths with is unrealistic, seeing as I've made it clear I'd rather get manhandled by a gay man than cross paths with a woman I got rejected by.

Realistic advice is advice that takes these limitations into account.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

My age preference is what it is. Telling me to change my age preference isn't realistic.

I've also had others tell me to shed my fetish (not on this forum though; I've hardly ever mentioned my dealbreaker fetish on here). Telling me to shed my fetish is another piece of unrealistic advice.

Telling me to ask out a woman I regularly cross paths with is unrealistic, seeing as I've made it clear I'd rather get manhandled by a gay man than cross paths with a woman I got rejected by.

Realistic advice is advice that takes these limitations into account.

Well, then, I have good news for you. I already gave you advice in your own cringe thread, but I'll reiterate my advice here:

Old women horny enough to boink with autistic incels falls outside the experience of the members here. I suggest volunteering at an old people home. If you change their diapers quick enough you can probably cop a feel and get some intimacy going. And you don't have to worry about rejection, because the senile won't remember your 'approach' anyway.

You're welcome.

 

[corrector]

Telling me to ask out a woman I regularly cross paths with is unrealistic, seeing as I've made it clear I'd rather get manhandled by a gay man than cross paths with a woman I got rejected by.

...or telling your mother how much you love her in an earshot of that girl (if you have a mother that calls you allot at work, lol), while that girl is in the same room/area. These women I'm sure have their own problems or issues, it may feel bad with us, but to them, they just don't care. These people are in their own worlds/universe.

I've been so desensitized by the women I got rejected by that I don't care what I say or do around her. In fact, I would not let her beign around deter me from ANYTHING, I would otherwise do if she was not around. I'm not going out of my way to avoid her. I might avoid direct eye contact or social interactions, but nothing else otherwise.

 

[LTG71]

No, she'd be hugging her co-workers if they looked like Tom Brady.

That skit is the best. Funny because it’s unapologetically true. If the attraction is there, boundaries get removed.

And remember, “be handsome”

 

[MatureDJ]

Well, then, I have good news for you. I already gave you advice in your own cringe thread, but I'll reiterate my advice here:

Old women horny enough to boink with autistic incels falls outside the experience of the members here. I suggest volunteering at an old people home. If you change their diapers quick enough you can probably cop a feel and get some intimacy going. And you don't have to worry about rejection, because the senile won't remember your 'approach' anyway.

You're welcome.

Wow, I've said some crazy stuff here, but I don't think it's ever been THIS crazy.