Xeno, I disagree. I was an ugly mofo back in high school bc of horrible acne. But I still had the most popular girl in the school break up with her boyfriend for me. She literally would have dreams about me (don’t ask me how I know lol). I was the one guy that was different from the rest. I can’t even tell you the countless dudes who were taller, more physically developed, stronger, and were able to actually talk to her and joke about things while making witty and ballsy comments. For whatever reason, this school had dudes there that were MEN. I don’t really know how or why, it’s not like most schools in America but those dudes knew what was up.
Anyway, there were MUCH better looking dudes than me who were also higher status. But the chick liked me. It’s been this way most of my life tbh. I always had the girls who were at the top of the social hierarchy like me for whatever reason, even though lower tier ones didn’t. Like the 1-3s liked me, 4-8 didn’t, then the 9s and 10s did. During my autism years, I don’t know why they did, I think because I was ‘cute’ with my weird little actions and mannerisms and was just so intent and hyperfocused and passionate on some tiny things so you could tell I was never really angling for anything. As I progressed in self-improvement and got more skilled socially etc., I had the same thing happening to me but rather than weird neuroticism attracting them, it was straight up testosterone dominance lol. I toned it down when I got to college but I do regret doing that because it set me back a lot. But yeah, that aggression/drive that I had, it really made me attractive to the women at the top (I’m talking 1 million followers on ig kinda top). But for whatever reason, I couldn’t stay in that state if I went to pursue those women; it’s like it would make me lose that drive for whatever reason which was the very thing that attracted them to me in the first place. A paradox of sorts.
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Anyway, things have changed now, I can get the 4-8s lol but I’m not sure about the 9s and 10s anymore. I’m not sure if it’s because my standards for looks have gone way up in recent years or if it’s because social media, online dating, hookup apps like tinder, and mainstream media have started affecting women and making them worse and more stuck up. Or if it’s oerhaps because I’m somehow just not as attractive to those women anymore since I became like those other witty dudes I went to school. Or perhaps some combination of all of these.
But that’s besides the point. What I originally wanted to say was that yes, looks *do* matter, but they don’t do everything. All looks do in regards to ‘attracting’ women is it makes them treat you like a normal human being. They don’t treat you like a king just because you’re good looking, they don’t get obsessed over you because you’re good looking, game does all that. The ONLY time good looks will make them treat you like a king or be obsessed over you is if you are famous. Jeremy Meeks only got special treatment simply because the mainstream media sensationalized him. They did all the work for him. Otherwise, he really wouldn’t gotten nearly as much babes drooling over him as he does.
So yeah, all looks really does is make women friendlier with you. That’s it. They just treat you like a normal human being. They don’t necessarily treat you ‘good’ per se or even flirt with you, you gotta have game for that. If you’re an ugly dude and you’re around an environment with a lot of hot women whom you’re gonna be forced to deal with, things like cocky + funny, sarcasm, game, dominance, etc. will get her to like you. It’ll just take longer. Doesn’t mean it’s not possible. I speak from experience.