Damn, bro. I dont think we can figure this one out for you.Not sure what I want to do here...
Yes, I have.Has anyone been in this situation before in terms of huge age difference relationships?
I was leaning that way too...I mean it's only been like 3 months so far.Yes, I have.
I think you should slow her down. Not to put a hex on you, but narcissistic people have a tendency to 'love-bomb' the first weeks/months and they can make you walk on clouds, but after you commit to them exclusively their true character comes out. Make sure you date her long enough before you 'commit' or 'go exclusive' with her.
That’s long enough man. Give it a shot. Being exclusive is not the same as living together or being married. It’s honestly not even a big deal. If you really do like the girl don’t play these stupid games. If she turns out to be batshvt in a few more months you can just dump her.I was leaning that way too...I mean it's only been like 3 months so far.
I'm leaning towards staying more reserved with her for a bit longer to see how things go I think...but not super strongly. Like maybe a 55/45 type thing.Damn, bro. I dont think we can figure this one out for you.
Some people are gonna say go for it. Some are gonna say its not gonna work out due to age difference, better save yourself the trouble and just spin plates for life.
What is your gut telling you?
I guess it's just more due to there being a 20+ year age gap between us more than anything...That’s long enough man. Give it a shot. Being exclusive is not the same as living together or being married. It’s honestly not even a big deal. If you really do like the girl don’t play these stupid games. If she turns out to be batshvt in a few more months you can just dump her.
Don’t listen to the spin plates until you die chorus. There should be a final goal somewhere. What do you want out of all of this?
You’re overthinking. This all sounds good to me. You aren’t signing any papers. If she acts up down the line you can just dump her.I guess it's just more due to there being a 20+ year age gap between us more than anything...
Maybe I am making a bigger deal out of than I need to be. Just have never really been in a relationship with someone that much younger than me before.
She is definitely pretty mature from her age tho. She is very financially savvy and knows all the rules about contributing to savings/401Ks and has a good job at a solid company. Has saved more than 25K already in savings and her 401K is approaching 100K already. Been saving money since she was 16, her Dad is an investment banker and has schooled her on everything in that regard.
Yes, and she too was easily the prettiest sexiest girl ever. She ended up talking about us getting married. I started really to develop feelings for her and for a short period I started believe we could work.Has anyone been in this situation before in terms of huge age difference relationships?
Make her proof herself more. three months is the bare minimum, batsh!t crazy women can hold the mask of sanity for 5-6 months.I was leaning that way too...I mean it's only been like 3 months so far.
IDK I kinda want to tell her ILY on your behalf dude.She is definitely pretty mature from her age tho. She is very financially savvy and knows all the rules about contributing to savings/401Ks and has a good job at a solid company. Has saved more than 25K already in savings and her 401K is approaching 100K already. Been saving money since she was 16, her Dad is an investment banker and has schooled her on everything in that regard.
Unless I'm misreading this, you broke up with her - for her?Yes, and she too was easily the prettiest sexiest girl ever. She ended up talking about us getting married. I started really to develop feelings for her and for a short period I started believe we could work.
Then I realized that she wanted babies and soon and had her whole life planned out in her head. It was endearing, but I finally woke up out of my dream and started impressing upon her that our age gap was too big. That I’d be 80 when she hit 50. Started building hypotheticals that were ugly for her.
In the end we parted ways it took about a year. I didn’t want her to miss out on having someone to grow old with and having a full life. It was very hard for me to wean her off the idea. We would borderline argue about it. But I just couldn’t see things working out in the long run.
Still miss the beauty, passion and tight tight tight body.
This is deranged game playing behavior.Make her proof herself more. three months is the bare minimum, batsh!t crazy women can hold the mask of sanity for 5-6 months.
Hmm...maybe you are right. I guess I tend to analyze stuff too deeply at times.You’re overthinking. This all sounds good to me. You aren’t signing any papers. If she acts up down the line you can just dump her.
You have a hot 25 year old girl that loves you and wants to be with you. She seems sane so far. What is the problem?
I know, that's why it takes 5-6 months to weed out the narcissists.This is deranged game playing behavior.
We'll never know if you really broke up with her out of concern for what she'll do with you when she'd be 50 and you 80 or if that is a story you tell yourself and in reality maybe on a subconscious level you felt there was some red flags.Yes, and she too was easily the prettiest sexiest girl ever. She ended up talking about us getting married. I started really to develop feelings for her and for a short period I started believe we could work.
Then I realized that she wanted babies and soon and had her whole life planned out in her head. It was endearing, but I finally woke up out of my dream and started impressing upon her that our age gap was too big. That I’d be 80 when she hit 50. Started building hypotheticals that were ugly for her.
In the end we parted ways it took about a year. I didn’t want her to miss out on having someone to grow old with and having a full life. It was very hard for me to wean her off the idea. We would borderline argue about it. But I just couldn’t see things working out in the long run.
Still miss the beauty, passion and tight tight tight body.
Sure, that can be true. What upside does he get though for stringing this girl along an extra three months? We have dozens of “plate went cold” / “plate ghosted me” threads here. Sounds like he likes this girl. Please identify the problem. (There might be a future problem isn’t a problem)I know, that's why it takes 5-6 months to weed out the narcissists.