Yes, Girls Are CLOWNING (and SHARING!!) Your Text of Desperation

[Harry Wilmington]

Hey all:

Those of you who have read some of my posts and or/post responses on here know that I'm not a big fan of texting. I believe it greatly reduces the chance you have of getting with a girl for a plethora of reasons. One of those reasons is that it makes you come across as desperate, especially when you continue to send messages despite the woman not communicating back with you in a timely manner.

The following story is absolutely true, and illustrates the point I'm talking about:

So, yesterday, one of my close girl "friends" (yes, I do have them) told me that, while she was out and about, this 40-something dude hollered at her (she's 27). I think she said he was a lawyer or something... at any rate, after spending 20 minutes telling her about some case he had worked on involving a sodomy victim (GREAT conversation opener, btw), he asked her for her phone number.

My friend was in no way interested in the guy; despite this, she gave him the number...

*PAUSE*

Okay, so what have we learned from the story so far? JUST BECAUSE SHE GIVES YOU THE NUMBER DOESN'T MEAN SHE'S INTERESTED. As my friend told me, most guys don't act all that kindly to rejection, so it's usually easier to give him some number, be it real or fake, even though they're going to just ignore him later.

Remember this lesson, 'cause it will make more sense later on...

*CONTINUED*

Almost as soon as she drove off, this dude began texting her. How do I know? She showed me the stream of text messages he had sent her since leaving the scene.

I promise you, the text he sent her made me want to cringe - they reminded me of my former AFC self, and it was all I could do to not laugh AND feel sorry for him at the same time.

A few portions of the text he sent her:

*Hey girl, it was nice meeting u, what do you do for a living? You can tell me later, I know you're probably busy picking up your son.
*Oh hey, next time I see u, I'll pay to get your car cleaned and put gas in it
*Hey, did u watch the debate?

Disheartening, right? Oh, but it gets worse - she showed me the text stream again tonight at 5 PM, and this dude had been texting her all day...

*Good morning (at 7:33 AM in the morning)
*What u doing today?
*By the way, I got something 4 u i think u might like
*U never told me what u did for work? (At 4:45 PM she finally answered him: "Academic stuff")
*Oh, that's great. So, when can I take you out? (Response: "I'm going out of town the next couple of weekends, and won't be available til November." This, despite the fact that she actually is NOT going out of town, and doesn't have much to do during those weekends at all.)
*Okay, cool. Well, I'd love to take you out to dinner in November, and pay for you to get a massage at (insert name of some expensive massage place).

At this point, she's sharing these text with me, and I'm laughing my ass off. And I'm not even one of her girlfriends, so I imagine by now she's told at least 3 other people about the lame ass dude that keeps sending her text and isn't getting the hint that she's just not interested.

Now, I could go on and on about all the things he was doing wrong (i.e. complimenting her too soon, offering up expensive stuff that she hasn't even earned yet)... but this post is about texting. And this is why I always say, time and time again in different posts...

TEXTING KILLS (or greatly reduces)YOUR CHANCES CHANCES OF GETTING WITH A GIRL.

It doesn't help build you up to her; sending more of them doesn't make her think of you as romantic - they actually ANNOY her; and all she's doing as these text of begging, pleading and desperation come in, is sharing them with her closest friends and LAUGHING at you!

You NEVER want to leave a message trail that can be used against you, be it for malicious reasons (i.e. so she can use your own typed words against you in an argument or WORSE) or to play you off like another one of her chumps she has chomping for her attention.

Now, you will hear girls say "But I like when guys text me." Yeah, well they've also been saying for years that "I want a nice guy." Real talk: what they SAY they want is not what's usually GOOD for them to get. You have to hear your way through the bullcrap and give her what she NEEDS.

What she does NOT need is some dude that's constantly texting her; what she is SAYING is she wants a guy that can communicate with her on a level that makes her feel important. And you can DO this in a wide variety of ways that are effective. Texting is NOT one of them. (And yes, for the few of you that will respond with "But I know so and so who has mad text game," they are the EXCEPTION, not the rule.)

Soooo... if a girl gives you her number, CALL her and ask her out. Don't send streams of text to her in hopes it will make her like you more. It won't. The best way to connect with a girl is face to face in PERSON. And if you DO text her, don't make it long, and don't say stuff that will get you CLOWNED later on.

-Harry Wilmington

 

[Trump]

Good point, I've used to be that guy in my days. Emailing her often and offering to spend money on her without her even emailing me back, so bad. Learned you have to protect yourself, not only with girls, with guy friends too.

Anything written has be short, sweet and to the point, no emotion, no adjectives, no lovey dovey stuff. Anything you text with emotion, she will show to the guy she is having sex with to increase her value to him.

An issue with calling I have is playing phone tag, text you know at least she got the message.

 

[incognito42]

Girls say they like getting texts because most of them love the attention, ad actually have an addiction to it and maybe even feel depression when they go 2 hours without getting a text, tweet, facebook message, etc. I agree you wanna be careful who you tet and how you text them for this reason. They may come off super excited to hear from you but that's just because you're feeding their addiction and making them feel wanted. After that need of theirs is met, and you've babbled on endlessly asking how their dAy is and telling what you ate for breakfast, they will lose interest.

However, chicks do LOVE to text and if used appropriately it can b a great tool

 

[perseverance]

That makes for some horrendous reading, it really does! Not even in my AFC days was I that bad. Christ almighty!

However this girl is an attention seeking moron and I wouldn't give such a moron the light of day, thankfully I don't associate myself with such cretins.

 

[ckdon]

So...she talks behind the guy? What an attention seeking wh0re really.

I mean, yes the guy was an AFC, yes he offered her up things too soon. But does she really need to go around spreading it? Just delete the damned texts and move on, instead of humping your ego with "hey look some guy is so into me he wants to pay for my gas and shvt".

Agreed with perseverance, thankfully, I don't have such cretins as friends either. And man am I glad.

 

[azrael]

it is not the texting it is the guy that send them.
you even said so yourself, she was not interested, he is a chump.

have she been interested she would have reply the 1st text, even thought the other ones may put her off.
as those messages were lame as hell.

 

[Kbomb]

So...she talks behind the guy? What an attention seeking wh0re really.

I mean, yes the guy was an AFC, yes he offered her up things too soon. But does she really need to go around spreading it? Just delete the damned texts and move on, instead of humping your ego with "hey look some guy is so into me he wants to pay for my gas and shvt".

Agreed with perseverance, thankfully, I don't have such cretins as friends either. And man am I glad.

Its all in the game yo.

Seriously, those deserve to be shared.

 

[Leopold]

I have to agree with this conclusion. Texting is good if you want to be her friend but if you want the be her man its going to be your downfall.

I think I have learned the hard way. I'm never going to set up a date by text ever EVER again. Only will send text to tell her at what time I'm going to call them.

 

[ckdon]

Its all in the game yo.

Seriously, those deserve to be shared.

I don't know, you'll get a few laughs but that's it no?

Now what exactly would sharing the texts get you aside from that? I'm sure for Harry it was all laughs, but the girl definitely didn't do it just for the haha's; cause you know how girls are.

It was a 40 year old AFC acting like a 16 year old high schooler. Ignore, delete, move on.

If females like this can talk about others (yes, stranger in this case), then they can one day talk about you behind your back as well. Which is why it's best not to associate with people like that (seriously, of the unnumbered females I am in contact with, none of them are like this since they never talked like this).

And OP, if I'm taking this out of perspective, then don't mind me. Just throwing my 2cents while I sip some morning tea.

 

[ckdon]

I have to agree with this conclusion. Texting is good if you want to be her friend but if you want the be her man its going to be your downfall.

I think I have learned the hard way. I'm never going to set up a date by text ever EVER again. Only will send text to tell her at what time I'm going to call them.

I've had numerous success with texting.

Many others I know have had numerous success.

And yet still others I don't know (online) have had numerous success.

 

[Leopold]

I've had numerous success with texting.

Many others I know have had numerous success.

And yet still others I don't know (online) have had numerous success.

Please teach me your ways then cause as I am now I don't think I'll rely on it.

 

[Who Dares Win]

The two strikes rule applies to anything while dealing with women, asking for dates, texting, aiming at the kiss whatever comes in your mind.

If you text her twice and got no replies delete the number and go on, anyway Op is right about not providing any evidence that you have been a cvnt, being used against you is the minimum while being c0ckblocked from her while dealing with an other girl is the ultimate damage.

Just as a general rule imagine that your text will be read from your friends, then decide what to write to her...this simple rule will save you lot of troubles.

The positive side of texting is that the ration between the words you wrote and the words in her replies is a good benchmark of her interest level as much as the amount of emoticons.

 

[Packers2010]

i mostly send 5 test MAX to a girl to try get her to come out. just depends on my mood.

 

[Leopold]

yup, I have been very receptive to the text I have sent. I don't simply just do the "hey how's your day?" type of thing.

I'm usually straight to the point but I think calling for a date puts them on the dam spot for a concrete answer. If they are putting an "uummmmmm???" attitude of indecision towards my plans I'll just let them know they screwed up.

I don't literally mean it but I'm like. "So, listen... it seems you are busy already. So... what I'm going to do is just leave it as that and contact you some other time when I'm available, and if you are still interested you let me know..." KAPOWWW!!

This should give them enough time to react and plenty of information to calculate her interest towards me.

And gold for the 2 strikes rules. I have no problems letting those numbers go.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Making fun of other guys for being AFC is one of the easiest ways to build rapport with a women. It's also a neg hit, an amog, and dhv all at once. The more attractive she is, the more that men will constantly make fools of themselves to her, so you always have something to talk to a hot girl about.

When a girl opens up about making fun of another guy, she is actually flirting with you. Inability to communicate attraction is usually the basis of male-female "friendships."

 

[incognito42]

I've had numerous success with texting.

Many others I know have had numerous success.

And yet still others I don't know (online) have had numerous success.

Agreed. You don't need to be a Jedi to make texting work in your favor. If the girl has some sexual interest in you texting can be very useful if used th right way

 

[JohnChops]

Agreed. You don't need to be a Jedi to make texting work in your favor. If the girl has some sexual interest in you texting can be very useful if used th right way

Agreed, one of my good friends texts girls night and day and bangs them when he chooses. Its just that work for him may not wwork for others. I text girls monday - wednesday to set up dates and then after I set the date up I just dont text them until day of to confirm im heading out to pick em up.

Texting 24/7 I agree ruins your game, you need to take a break. But ANYTHING in excess can be toxic if used enough and every day at high doses (texting). But it can also help you lay some ground work on a new girl and set up dates.

Its the 21st century guys, girls like to text, get used to it. I dont mind it ,its just that during the school week I barley have time to eat how am I supposed to text you lol. Adds to the mystery anyway. I think what Harry is trying to get at in his numerous posts about him advocating his hate for texting is that he wnts to get the girl to think about HIM and what he is doing because he isnt texting her! Its brilliant and simple really. I ve used this method to go ghost for a couple of days with different girls and none of them lose interest just because I stop contacting them for a few days .... they actually seem more receptive to my texts and ideas.

So texting can make or break you, as some people have said. But as everything keep it lite and funny, dont discuss anything serious over text .... that is how you will fail 100% of the time. "So I was looking at tuxes for our wedding ....." Will most likely get you the boot.

 

[vatoloco]

Okay, so what have we learned from the story so far? JUST BECAUSE SHE GIVES YOU THE NUMBER DOESN'T MEAN SHE'S INTERESTED. As my friend told me, most guys don't act all that kindly to rejection, so it's usually easier to give him some number, be it real or fake, even though they're going to just ignore him later.

dafuq!? THEY DO THIS!!?? You're kidding, right?

At this point, she's sharing these text with me, and I'm laughing my ass off. And I'm not even one of her girlfriends, so I imagine by now she's told at least 3 other people about the lame ass dude that keeps sending her text and isn't getting the hint that she's just not interested.

It's never a good idea to send anything written via text as it can (and will be) used against you in a court... err, well, you know what I mean!

Unless, of course, you actually know what you're doing.

Soooo... if a girl gives you her number, CALL her and ask her out. Don't send streams of text to her in hopes it will make her like you more. It won't. The best way to connect with a girl is face to face in PERSON. And if you DO text her, don't make it long, and don't say stuff that will get you CLOWNED later on.

 

[JohnChops]

Okay that's fine but if I call up a 20 year old shed be like wtf and say text me instead .... you guys are in a different generation .

 

[perseverance]

Okay that's fine but if I call up a 20 year old shed be like wtf and say text me instead .... you guys are in a different generation .

This is it. A lot of women would much rather text than have a phone call. It says more about women than anything else.