Harry Wilmington
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Hey all:
Those of you who have read some of my posts and or/post responses on here know that I'm not a big fan of texting. I believe it greatly reduces the chance you have of getting with a girl for a plethora of reasons. One of those reasons is that it makes you come across as desperate, especially when you continue to send messages despite the woman not communicating back with you in a timely manner.
The following story is absolutely true, and illustrates the point I'm talking about:
So, yesterday, one of my close girl "friends" (yes, I do have them) told me that, while she was out and about, this 40-something dude hollered at her (she's 27). I think she said he was a lawyer or something... at any rate, after spending 20 minutes telling her about some case he had worked on involving a sodomy victim (GREAT conversation opener, btw), he asked her for her phone number.
My friend was in no way interested in the guy; despite this, she gave him the number...
*PAUSE*
Okay, so what have we learned from the story so far? JUST BECAUSE SHE GIVES YOU THE NUMBER DOESN'T MEAN SHE'S INTERESTED. As my friend told me, most guys don't act all that kindly to rejection, so it's usually easier to give him some number, be it real or fake, even though they're going to just ignore him later.
Remember this lesson, 'cause it will make more sense later on...
*CONTINUED*
Almost as soon as she drove off, this dude began texting her. How do I know? She showed me the stream of text messages he had sent her since leaving the scene.
I promise you, the text he sent her made me want to cringe - they reminded me of my former AFC self, and it was all I could do to not laugh AND feel sorry for him at the same time.
A few portions of the text he sent her:
*Hey girl, it was nice meeting u, what do you do for a living? You can tell me later, I know you're probably busy picking up your son.
*Oh hey, next time I see u, I'll pay to get your car cleaned and put gas in it
*Hey, did u watch the debate?
Disheartening, right? Oh, but it gets worse - she showed me the text stream again tonight at 5 PM, and this dude had been texting her all day...
*Good morning (at 7:33 AM in the morning)
*What u doing today?
*By the way, I got something 4 u i think u might like
*U never told me what u did for work? (At 4:45 PM she finally answered him: "Academic stuff")
*Oh, that's great. So, when can I take you out? (Response: "I'm going out of town the next couple of weekends, and won't be available til November." This, despite the fact that she actually is NOT going out of town, and doesn't have much to do during those weekends at all.)
*Okay, cool. Well, I'd love to take you out to dinner in November, and pay for you to get a massage at (insert name of some expensive massage place).
At this point, she's sharing these text with me, and I'm laughing my ass off. And I'm not even one of her girlfriends, so I imagine by now she's told at least 3 other people about the lame ass dude that keeps sending her text and isn't getting the hint that she's just not interested.
Now, I could go on and on about all the things he was doing wrong (i.e. complimenting her too soon, offering up expensive stuff that she hasn't even earned yet)... but this post is about texting. And this is why I always say, time and time again in different posts...
TEXTING KILLS (or greatly reduces)YOUR CHANCES CHANCES OF GETTING WITH A GIRL.
It doesn't help build you up to her; sending more of them doesn't make her think of you as romantic - they actually ANNOY her; and all she's doing as these text of begging, pleading and desperation come in, is sharing them with her closest friends and LAUGHING at you!
You NEVER want to leave a message trail that can be used against you, be it for malicious reasons (i.e. so she can use your own typed words against you in an argument or WORSE) or to play you off like another one of her chumps she has chomping for her attention.
Now, you will hear girls say "But I like when guys text me." Yeah, well they've also been saying for years that "I want a nice guy." Real talk: what they SAY they want is not what's usually GOOD for them to get. You have to hear your way through the bullcrap and give her what she NEEDS.
What she does NOT need is some dude that's constantly texting her; what she is SAYING is she wants a guy that can communicate with her on a level that makes her feel important. And you can DO this in a wide variety of ways that are effective. Texting is NOT one of them. (And yes, for the few of you that will respond with "But I know so and so who has mad text game," they are the EXCEPTION, not the rule.)
Soooo... if a girl gives you her number, CALL her and ask her out. Don't send streams of text to her in hopes it will make her like you more. It won't. The best way to connect with a girl is face to face in PERSON. And if you DO text her, don't make it long, and don't say stuff that will get you CLOWNED later on.
-Harry Wilmington
Those of you who have read some of my posts and or/post responses on here know that I'm not a big fan of texting. I believe it greatly reduces the chance you have of getting with a girl for a plethora of reasons. One of those reasons is that it makes you come across as desperate, especially when you continue to send messages despite the woman not communicating back with you in a timely manner.
The following story is absolutely true, and illustrates the point I'm talking about:
So, yesterday, one of my close girl "friends" (yes, I do have them) told me that, while she was out and about, this 40-something dude hollered at her (she's 27). I think she said he was a lawyer or something... at any rate, after spending 20 minutes telling her about some case he had worked on involving a sodomy victim (GREAT conversation opener, btw), he asked her for her phone number.
My friend was in no way interested in the guy; despite this, she gave him the number...
*PAUSE*
Okay, so what have we learned from the story so far? JUST BECAUSE SHE GIVES YOU THE NUMBER DOESN'T MEAN SHE'S INTERESTED. As my friend told me, most guys don't act all that kindly to rejection, so it's usually easier to give him some number, be it real or fake, even though they're going to just ignore him later.
Remember this lesson, 'cause it will make more sense later on...
*CONTINUED*
Almost as soon as she drove off, this dude began texting her. How do I know? She showed me the stream of text messages he had sent her since leaving the scene.
I promise you, the text he sent her made me want to cringe - they reminded me of my former AFC self, and it was all I could do to not laugh AND feel sorry for him at the same time.
A few portions of the text he sent her:
*Hey girl, it was nice meeting u, what do you do for a living? You can tell me later, I know you're probably busy picking up your son.
*Oh hey, next time I see u, I'll pay to get your car cleaned and put gas in it
*Hey, did u watch the debate?
Disheartening, right? Oh, but it gets worse - she showed me the text stream again tonight at 5 PM, and this dude had been texting her all day...
*Good morning (at 7:33 AM in the morning)
*What u doing today?
*By the way, I got something 4 u i think u might like
*U never told me what u did for work? (At 4:45 PM she finally answered him: "Academic stuff")
*Oh, that's great. So, when can I take you out? (Response: "I'm going out of town the next couple of weekends, and won't be available til November." This, despite the fact that she actually is NOT going out of town, and doesn't have much to do during those weekends at all.)
*Okay, cool. Well, I'd love to take you out to dinner in November, and pay for you to get a massage at (insert name of some expensive massage place).
At this point, she's sharing these text with me, and I'm laughing my ass off. And I'm not even one of her girlfriends, so I imagine by now she's told at least 3 other people about the lame ass dude that keeps sending her text and isn't getting the hint that she's just not interested.
Now, I could go on and on about all the things he was doing wrong (i.e. complimenting her too soon, offering up expensive stuff that she hasn't even earned yet)... but this post is about texting. And this is why I always say, time and time again in different posts...
TEXTING KILLS (or greatly reduces)YOUR CHANCES CHANCES OF GETTING WITH A GIRL.
It doesn't help build you up to her; sending more of them doesn't make her think of you as romantic - they actually ANNOY her; and all she's doing as these text of begging, pleading and desperation come in, is sharing them with her closest friends and LAUGHING at you!
You NEVER want to leave a message trail that can be used against you, be it for malicious reasons (i.e. so she can use your own typed words against you in an argument or WORSE) or to play you off like another one of her chumps she has chomping for her attention.
Now, you will hear girls say "But I like when guys text me." Yeah, well they've also been saying for years that "I want a nice guy." Real talk: what they SAY they want is not what's usually GOOD for them to get. You have to hear your way through the bullcrap and give her what she NEEDS.
What she does NOT need is some dude that's constantly texting her; what she is SAYING is she wants a guy that can communicate with her on a level that makes her feel important. And you can DO this in a wide variety of ways that are effective. Texting is NOT one of them. (And yes, for the few of you that will respond with "But I know so and so who has mad text game," they are the EXCEPTION, not the rule.)
Soooo... if a girl gives you her number, CALL her and ask her out. Don't send streams of text to her in hopes it will make her like you more. It won't. The best way to connect with a girl is face to face in PERSON. And if you DO text her, don't make it long, and don't say stuff that will get you CLOWNED later on.
-Harry Wilmington
