backbreaker said:
If you think about it, in a way you really need to have tighter game if you are very religious.
Everyone is quick to look at the 30 year old woman who is trying to find jesus and think that it's easy pickins for a life long AFC. Adn there is a lot of truth to that, however there is one thing that isn't touched up upon, and to me this is the biggest difference between Christan girls and non christian girls, assuming that all else being equal they are decent enough omen with normal morals, is that non christian women, are forced to face the music in regards to their actions and decisions in a way that christian women don't have to. A Christan woman can explain whatever **** up's she's committed to Satan or god's plan lol. nothing you can do about it? Had a gangbang when you were out of town? Satan was tempting me and I failed, but i asked for forgiveness now so it's all good come here and give me a kiss lol.
Divorce and remarriage are treated more strictly in scripture than someone who has a bad past (i.e. has been a prostitute, porn star, etc...) and repented from that. Jesus has said that if a man marries a woman that has been divorced, that both he and the divorced woman are committing adultery - no exceptions. Paul says that if a woman who is divorced re-marries while her husband is alive, then she shall be called an adultress.
So, Biblically speaking, it is better if one was to marry a repentant and born-again ex-porn star or prostitute, than anyone who was married before because you would not be committing adultery with them in that marriage.
There are testimonies on youtube where a woman divorced a husband in a successful marriage of 17 years and where they had a son because she felt that she was committing adultery with her husband:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9wykwG3cNMo
I broke up with my girlfriend because I believed she was still married to her (ex) even though she was divorced and found out her (ex) was a pastor of a church who tried to reconcile her back into marriage but she refused. I redirected her back to her ex and went ghost on her. We were also perfectly happy together and planning to get married. I broke off the engagement.
corrector said:
Was a ***** for pretty much my entire life before i met you? i was out of touch with god, i'm not out of touch anymore so you can't hold that **** against me anymore. lol what the hell can you tell a christian single mom who is 27 and has a 6 year old when she says it was god's plan for me to have the baby.
As long as she did not marry before then there is no problem with that. It's only if she's married before then she's an adultress. You can repent of anything, but not a former marriage. The only way to repent of that is to reconcile with the former spouse or remain unmarried.
That's why I said, if I married a woman that was an ex-porn star, or ex-prostitute that slept with 1000 guys, it's better than someone who married someone once and divorced.
What people don't understand is that Jesus takes away the sins of people, no matter how great they are, if they are sincere and turn away from their sins. So a woman who claims this and sounds sincere has a valid point in this religion. You would be "judging" her.
But remember this, if you steal $ 1000, you can't repent without returning the money. You can't repent of an unlawful marriage. The law also forbids a woman to return to her former husband that divorced her in the first place (Deut 24). Best thing, just marry one person once, for life, who has never married before. Otherwise you may be committing adultery and don't know it.
corrector said:
I'm not saying that non christian woman are BETTER, but beucase they for the most part, don't have the faith that christian women have, they are at the very least, they have to answer some questions about how they played the part of their own behavior. they have to own up to it and at the very least admit they ****ed up, not satan or god's plan or anything like that.
Like my mom to this day, is ****ing selfish beyond belief. and she will say things ilke "well that's the devil working on me but I'm praying for help' and i'm like dammit that's YOU lol. You can stop being selfish whenever you feel like it. She doesn't have to own her actions.
But we men, always hold them accountable for their irresponsible actions. This is why I broke up with my gf the minute I found out she disrespected her ex-, walked out on him, nearly destroyed his ministry, and then use me as a pawn to scapegoat her actions and bury him by marrying me. Did not let that happen.
Again, divorce and re-marriage = adultery in the Bible. Anything else can be repented of and forgiven, but not that. You have to stay married with whomever you marry for life, period. End of story.