What would you estimate your rejection rate is?

[Isildur1]

That's fascinating to hear the broads are a lot easier in Shanghai and Brazil.

Less competition in those cities in terms of men - far less , lower incomes , worse education, worse looks wise and less height ( in terms of China) so obviously rejection rate for an average western guy is far lower than in a western city

I don’t see the Broads as “easier” I just think they have a lot less options than in the west

 

[Isildur1]

Even a sexless first date that never leads to a 2nd date still counts as a success.

Yeah - I’d define that as a success in my books or at least that there was interest

some girls are just too conservative to **** quick or can change their mind on the date itself- which is understandable or the chemistry might not be there , there are many variables in dating and many opportunities for f ups a lot of which is out of your control

Only Things you’re in control of is your volume , smv , mood and amount of options whatever the woman’s ideology , opinions on sex or mood on the date is obviously out of my control

 

[BaronOfHair]

On the general topic of rejection vs success, a female coworker gave a clue she finds me attractive today... She then said "There's an employee here whose first name is your middle name. He isn't attractive at all. You don't want anyone to mix you up with him. I recommend you remove your middle name from your email signature"

The fella you're referring to had a pint of battery acid thrown in his face by his own father at aged 16, when dear ol'dad found him and The FedEx guy in bed together... She finds you attractive, only by comparison to Lon Chaney 2.0 here

Which is similar to having your teeth knocked out with a lead pipe by an enforcer from The Serbian Mafia, after he forces you to choose between that and having your back broken, then mistaking this for "The deal of a lifetime"

 

[BaronOfHair]

It is easy to just give up rather than go through all that with nothing to show for it - such non-stop rejection eventually wears down the soul

It can also prompt one to say to himself: "Since I'm not getting what I desire, what behaviors do I need to alter or/and eliminate, in order to do so? What new skills do I need to acquire and practice?"

Same way moving ahead in our career often requires us to spend less time playing Fortnite, and more time reading Pfeffer's "Power" and Posner and Kouzes's "The Leadership Challenge", then practicing what we learn. We may even have to rid ourselves of folks who have no desire to get further ahead themselves, and who are dragging us down along with them