So, no... Don't worry about increasing your value. No need to dress nicer. No need to learn better communication skills. No need to focus on knowledge. No need to understand how women think (even in the western world). No need to change your AFC ways and pull up the doormat that you currently are. These steps are not necessary, because all the United States has are women who are wh0res who jump from bed to bed, wallet to wallet.
Stay in the United States and you are out of luck.
Got it.
The message has always been the same: Don't do it for women, do it for yourself. I know you are trying to be sarcastic but yeah it basically boils down to that, you are largely out of luck. I never said don't change and stay an AFC, I've just said that there is really no reason to go overboard with 'improvements'. I am speaking from experience, I haven't needed to go to the gym, bulk up, get a new car or house or earn a six figure salary to meet beautiful, fun and natural women. Those are really just cosmetic changes and will attract women who are concerned with cosmetics. I don't think its right that other men buy into some stupid lie that you need to be a superman alpha male to meet good women. Infact the more you prepare yourself and improve the more you attract women who are seeking 'highly improved' men and expect those men to continue improving. Why not cultivate self, develop hobbies and new interests while improving just a little bit in the areas you really want to pursue, likely you will attract a woman not overly obessesed with improvement. Foreign girls, who have had the opportunity to be poor and accept the fact that life isn't going to get much better are far more likely to settle with second best. If you are a highly improved man wifing one of these girls, she will be far more greatful than someone born into a system where self improvement is the norm and they feel entitled to an 'improved spouse'. I have yet to see someone here who has actually lived abroad and married foreign, knock me down about my belief system. If you are on the forums and you have had a bit of experience as a PUA and learned some basic game, you are more than prepared to be able to pull high quality women. Where are the haters who married foreign women or are out living abroad?
Its obviously not ALL women in the USA but there is a large majority that are like this, our culture supports slvtty behaviour from both men and women. Its a double standard and not one I agree with at all, you must change your own slvtty behaviour to attract a woman who values the same. Putting notches on a bed post is likely to attract a woman who holds to that same belief system. Cheating on your spouse and trying to hide it will set the precedent for the relationship. PUAs need to step back and ask themselves what exactly they are bringing with them into relationships in North America. Are they so far gone that they no longer bring intergrity and conservatism? You need to deprogram yourself before you are able to vibe with a woman who holds to that same belief system. We largely train people how to act and how to respond to us, your actions will create her reactions and vice versa. I'm amazed at the number of guys who try and justify their cheating as some biological imperative, what bvll****. That is the key to coming abroad to look for a foreign value system born person, they are not inundated with the message that its ok to cheat on your spouse. Do unto others.
I don't know where people get this notion that you can't bring someone back without them changing over. I am among hot women and yet I still hold true to my belief system. If you live in a small town away from the big city, I don't think your wife will likely absorb as much of the culture as she would fully engaged everyday.. You should also think about getting a woman who has no desire to leave her own country as mine does. Of course there are gold diggers abroad just as they exist at home but not every single woman is one. I haven't changed over to the Chinese value system even though I've been here a few years. Also, I don't believe women are as stupid as that, you have to pick one with a bit of brain power, something no longer praised in North America and certainly not sought after as a PUA. I do believe that both american men and women have ingrained toxic values that are detrimental to the nuclear family (the pump and dump method is just one of them).
Just the fact that we need to learn game is a testament to what is happening in our culture with our young women. Most guys abroad have no idea about game and for good reason, its not necessary. I have never said you MUST MOVE ABROAD, infact I really don't care if you choose to stay where you are. If you want a woman who was raised in a culture that still has a strong value system in regards to the nuclear family then go abroad, if you want a new age attitude to the nuclear family stay home. Simple as that. I PREFER a nuclear family for my life, if you want to stay in a land that supports single mothers, alternative families and no fault divorces...well then you are free to prefer that aswell.
I have to say my views on this subject are always changing and evolving, thats why I continue to tackle this subject. There are problems in this society of course but I prefer their issues over the ones at home. I wanted to marry and I want to raise children in a society where men are equal to women and children are still highly valued among family, for me that is not north america.