random thoughts
1. i fyou can't afford to tip properly you should not be in that restaurant. that's why they make places like taco bell. if you can't eat a 60 dollar meal and leave a 6 dollar tip, which is the price of maybe desert or an extra drink, you do not need to be in that restaurant.
for those of you that say well the tip is not a part of it, hell if you are that concerned about 6 dollars, you would be eating at home., cooking, instead of out at a decent restaurant. the fact that you are at a restaurant, shows that you are out for an experience, not for necessarily food. you should tip.
2. nothing wrong with resturants. but id on't take dates when i was dating to resturants.. lol, why? when you thinka bout it what possible good can come out the situtation? now, you have acknowledged yourself that you are the dinner guy. she is now going to, if you are even lucky enough to see her again, expect you to drop ends every time you want to see her. and you are not going to get laid. i have never in y life gotten laid after a dinner date with a girl i wasn't already ****ing. hell, i can count on one hand the times i got laid from girls i already was ****ing. reb lobster does not drop panties.
one cute story, about a year ago i had left an AA meeting that i had chaired, and there was this (seriously) smokin hot 19 year old girl that i had somewhat befriended. even went so far as to go car shopping with her, she had no dad, and her mom was gone but her grand parents had given her 20 grand to buy a car and i used to sale cars, went with her one day to make sure she didn't get jipped.
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now i'd be honest.. the girl was smokin. under any guys criteria. about 5'5, 115, cokebottle, c cup dirty blone, but i was in a relationshiop, wasn't trying to **** (seriously) but she was cool. more like a little sister. the more i tried to be brotherly to her, the more she wanted to **** me lol. i say this because, one day after that meeting, she made it known she was hungry and hell i was kinda hungry to so we went to a seafood joint and got something to eat. she insited to pay for not my her meal, my meal as well and left a 15 dollar tip on a 40 dollar meal.
i say that to say one thing, you want to make women earn things, build value to earn you. what does taking a woman you are not dating out to eat accomplish?
up to that point, she had tried it all. following me to the mall, flirting, going bowling with me, talking about other guys ot "get me jealous" and none of it worked. this was her way of building value.
now, bars are a different story, i've i don't think i've ever NOT gotten laid after taken a woman to a bar for drinks.
3. you really made it sound in the beginning like you were dating this chic. advice would have been totally different if you had been more up front