god seriously guys? seriously? a ****ing waiter?
first off, he's a ****ing waiter. no disrespect to the service industry whatsoever, good waiters are worth their weight in gold, in little rock for instance, i will only go to one mexican resturant (cantina laredo on university and markhem across from starbucks and pei wei bible belt if you are reading this) because of their waiters they have. I don't even go often, hell i don't live there anymore, there is one that remembers me, i always try to sit in his area, he knows exactly what i wants, i don't even have to ask, and is just as nice as can be. I like that, really helps the experience. Anyway my point is, no offense, but he's a waiter.
Saying you ran into an Alpha male waiter is like saying i met an alpha male garbage truck driver who was hitting on my wife while she was picking up the newspaper in the morning outside.
You are intimated by someone, you are paying, to take your order. wow.
Secondly, if you have a good looking woman, men are going to hit on them. it will happen. I don't even consider it to be disrespectful, it takes two tot tango. Now, if she clearly makes it known that she is not interested, and he persists, then you step in and do what you ahve to do.
but the rules of engagement is and always are, at first the girl has to shoot him down, rather you are there or not. it doesn't matter if you are in a bar, at a restaurant getting your order taken, whatever. you are with a girl, and a man approaches your woman, your woman should have enough class to handle the situation. "i'm with someone but thanks". here is an idea, why don't you let your GF see if she is uncomfortable with the situation.
if she actually LIKES it, then you have way bigger issues my friend. if youa re afraid she slid her number while you weren't looking, this guy is not your problem. don't get mad at the guy, because you are not man enough to keep your girl at bay. like usher would say dont' bring your girl round me. Dont' get mad at him becuase he gets your girl wetter than you do. Become a better catch so that you aren't competing with ****ing waiters.
As many of you know i'm black. I've been in bars in the past, i remember one insntant in particular i saw this woman that looked alone. I went and chatted with her just starting a conversation, nothing heavy, just feeling her out. here comes this jerk ******* insecure afc guy and just blurts out "my girl doesn't date black guys, move on".
(if you are wondering what I did, i told him i apologize, i did not know she was taken and have a nice evening, no need to stoop to this chumps level, i don't take **** like that personally, he has to do better than a coon joke to get under my skin)
right now, you guys are acting like that jerk afc insecure guy. it's not up for you to decide what your girl will or will not do it's up to her.
I would take my old oneitis out, we went out often (on my dime of course but we played well off each other). she was ass licking hot, you could not walk anywhere and she not be swormed, rather a man was iwth her or not. She taught me alot in that respect. She would be nice, even talk to them but she would let it be known she was with me (Even though we weren't together) when it was all said and done.
you should not feel the need to go white knight every time some guy hits on your Girl. she has a mouth and she can use it for more than giving you head.
becuase a true DJ looks at things from both perspectives.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=146274&highlight=waiter
this very same forum here, in the reverse situation. What I mean is, the guy is just trying to get laid the best he can. No need to be an *******, hell that's probably him posting lol. if some new guy her made a post about how to get laid as a waiter, there would be a 3 page report here now on different methods and tattics so don't get me that **** about how you would put him in his place. would you put you in your place if you were a resturant and you saw a cuite? hell you could have been her brother. MORE THAN ONCE i have been out with my mom, and a waitresses have mistook us for brother and sister. One waitress even told us we made a couple couple lmao.. like babe, that's my mom.
So put yourself in his shoes. say you see a girl that you think is attractive, but you dont' know if the guy there is his BF or a brother or LJBF (i've been there too) or whatever. the guy is just trying.
Some people will be more forceful, some will be more laid back but every guy tries to get his knob taken care of in different ways. You take it as it comes.
You dont' go around trying to insult the guy. You always show more class. Regardless of the situtation, you are better than that. Now if your Girl is being overly flirty and carrying on too long, then we need to talk about something else.
but fit his is just "hey, this guy was hitting on my girl how do i put him in his place" you are going to end up looking worse then he does.
