The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[mikey2012]

Here I am again.

new chick. Same old.

well, let’s go. Day one.

That’s because you are emotionally invested.

 

[mikey2012]

Women will look for anything to justify their actions so they can "save face" with the outside world. They are also masters of bending the truth (or outright lying sometimes) to make you sound like a huge a$$ to anyone who will listen. "I had to break up with jamesfromhouston. He was a borderline narcissist with mommy issues and never let me do anything I wanted. He didn't let me be ME."

Good riddance.

This exactly . They will make excuses for themselves for cheating ie he didn’t pay enough attention , buy me gifts , didn’t love me etc to justify their actions . Don’t fall for this .

 

[mikey2012]

This is the message you will get if you keep on contacting :

im sorry but I don’t want to talk to you anymore as i am seeing someone else . Please don’t message me ever again or I will have to block you .

 

[mikey2012]

I never get that, but if I'd get a text like that, I would send it back corrected. Just to mess with them.

How about this one?

dont contact me again . I don’t want to speak to you anymore .

or maybe reverse psychology:

baby I love you so much . I miss you so much . Please come and see me when you can .

 

[Lotus Effect]

That’s because you are emotionally invested.

As anyone in a relationship... but I figured that that is impliled.

Amazingly in this website, you can't post anything without a sh!tton ammount of explaining.

What I meant is, here I am again in the No Contact Thread. Another relationship went sideways.

I dumped. I NCed. It's all good. Emotions under control. Day 2!

 

[mikey2012]

As anyone in a relationship... but I figured that that is impliled.

Amazingly in this website, you can't post anything without a sh!tton ammount of explaining.

What I meant is, here I am again in the No Contact Thread. Another relationship went sideways.

I dumped. I NCed. It's all good. Emotions under control. Day 2!

Dont keep making the same mistakes ! Do not get emotionally invested .

 

[mikey2012]

Should you wish your ex happy Xmas happy NY?

 

[Lotus Effect]

Should you wish your ex happy Xmas happy NY?

Funny thing you were the one telling me not to get emotionally invested being the one asking such questions lol

thing is wait an hour and she if see sends you

if she does cool, if she doesn’t you got your answer,

you can always send her and tell her you’re in a different time zone.

But as the saying goes, no message still is a message.

 

[soulforge]

Advice for 2025.. The vast majority of females you will meet in the West are ruined.

Do not invest emotionally in these hoes.. serious lol

 

[DreamAgain]

Advice for 2025.. The vast majority of females you will meet in the West are ruined.

Do not invest emotionally in these hoes.. serious lol

Right on the money.

 

[Richard1201]

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[Zontyy]

I was awarded full custody of my son, the house we had together has potential buyers. I've been sticking to my gym routine and turned back to being a spiritual person reading my bible and personal study. I still do miss my EX sometimes the fun moments. I wish she could coparent and be civil but she needs help and I'm not the one not anymore. I'm concerned once the house sells she will disappear leave the state and run off to TN or FL, I just worry how it will affect my son I'll be relieved but he wonder why mommy isn't around anymore. He will be alright in the long run but It's going to be tuff for him.

 

[Barrister]

I was awarded full custody of my son, the house we had together has potential buyers. I've been sticking to my gym routine and turned back to being a spiritual person reading my bible and personal study. I still do miss my EX sometimes the fun moments. I wish she could coparent and be civil but she needs help and I'm not the one not anymore. I'm concerned once the house sells she will disappear leave the state and run off to TN or FL, I just worry how it will affect my son I'll be relieved but he wonder why mommy isn't around anymore. He will be alright in the long run but It's going to be tuff for him.

In a perfect world your son would be best with two loving, grounded parents. However, from what you describe your ex is anything but grounded. Maybe not even loving if she’s willing to abandon her child. In cases like this, your son is probably better off without the chaos your ex brings into his life and with only you there. Stability is so important for children. Bad parents cause more harm than good in most cases.

 

[soulforge]

I was awarded full custody of my son, the house we had together has potential buyers. I've been sticking to my gym routine and turned back to being a spiritual person reading my bible and personal study. I still do miss my EX sometimes the fun moments. I wish she could coparent and be civil but she needs help and I'm not the one not anymore. I'm concerned once the house sells she will disappear leave the state and run off to TN or FL, I just worry how it will affect my son I'll be relieved but he wonder why mommy isn't around anymore. He will be alright in the long run but It's going to be tuff for him.

Sorry to hear this man. Sounds like a tough situation to be in. Hopefully everything will come out right in the end. Stay strong

 

[Foe]

I'll be in this thread soon, current gf of 1 year is drying up, starting to be critical of me, numerous breakups, focusing on my negatives rather than appreciating my positives. etc etc. Told her to walk a week ago and she did a 180 and said she loved me wants to work through it etc etc. I've been through all this before.

There is some satisfaction in watching it unfold and knowing the play by play. I used to be so confused with the I love you, then cold distant behaviour now it just amuses me. Anyway watch this space.

 

[Barrister]

I'll be in this thread soon, current gf of 1 year is drying up, starting to be critical of me, numerous breakups, focusing on my negatives rather than appreciating my positives. etc etc. Told her to walk a week ago and she did a 180 and said she loved me wants to work through it etc etc. I've been through all this before.

There is some satisfaction in watching it unfold and knowing the play by play. I used to be so confused with the I love you, then cold distant behaviour now it just amuses me. Anyway watch this space.

Nice use of dread game by you. But as you seem to be aware, it only offers temporary reprieve. She’ll be back to her usual ways in short order and you will again be faced with the decision of either using dread again for a temporary extension of the relationship or breaking it off.

Given this is occurring only a year in, I’d say the writing is on the wall and you’re better off moving on. Other women can offer more with way less hassle.

 

[soulforge]

I'll be in this thread soon, current gf of 1 year is drying up, starting to be critical of me, numerous breakups, focusing on my negatives rather than appreciating my positives. etc etc. Told her to walk a week ago and she did a 180 and said she loved me wants to work through it etc etc. I've been through all this before.

There is some satisfaction in watching it unfold and knowing the play by play. I used to be so confused with the I love you, then cold distant behaviour now it just amuses me. Anyway watch this space.

Sounds like the wheels are coming off.

You say multiple break ups? How many and how long did you part for.

I would be preparing for the worst, once they begin playing up like this, it rarely gets better.

 

[soulforge]

NC week 5

It's a complicated break up for me.

I saw several red flags in her, right from the offset.. She has many male friends & has had associations with thugs/criminal types of men.

She is also a single mother of two (13-14) with the baby daddy in the picture.

It started as hook up and from my perspective, was never meant to be anything more than a plate/casual.

However she love bombed the hell out of me.. and the sex was mind blowing. She was literally up for anything.

She would even cook for me.. However I'm not about to wife up a single mom of two with a bunch of red flags. That's a dangerous path to go down.

It was the circumstances around her, that actually lead to the break up. Constantly busy with her kids and her own family life, and often showing a lack of appreciation for my time and effort.

She pushed hard for an LTR, but I kept my feelings in check.

In the end, she began playing games with the texting, holding back affection, deliberate power games. Lack luster replies.

I decided to ghost, as she is a single mom who wants me to sacrifice everything for her, while she can hardly make an effort to communicate with me in a reasonable manner.

After 7 days of radio silence, she officially ended it by text message.. I did reply back & let her know that I am done with this too, as my time isn't appreciated by her.

Been NC since then, however she has bombarded me with guilt tripping, blame shifting gaslighting text messages..

I have decided it's best to ignore the messages, avoid getting sucked into an argument with her, and simply keep walking.

 

[soulforge]

Would you guys consider this as manipulation?

Two weeks of her playing silly copycat texting games.. Mirroring my texts, barely a conversation in her text messages..

Till I decided I no longer want to deal with this & stopped texting and validating her.

Seven days of radio silence & she sends a text message telling me that she is walking away. (Gave me some made up nonsense Reason)

I message back and agree with the break up & let her know she didn't value my time and effort, therefore I'm done with this too.

Based on her last few messages to me, around two weeks ago, she seems to be putting a spin on this, as in she is respecting my wishes on ending things with her.

Its actually her who pulled the trigger on the relationship. That being said, in my mind the relationship was already over, from when she was playing power games with the texting.

I suppose she made it official & I was happy enough just going pregnantly ghost.