Be careful of Facebook and social networks guys. I'm seeing so many of you doing so well keeping no contact, healing and recovering and then getting knocked back because you saw something on Facebook.
My sister told me yesterday that my ex still has her as a friend on Facebook. She started to tell me about how she's not showing signs of being with someone else and still has my photos in her albums and on her timeline...but then I told her to stop. I think my sis was trying to give me some kind of reassurance and thought maybe I wanted to hear this, but I told her it's better that I don't know anything.
You see, on one hand, you could see your ex's profile and she could be in a new relationship, could have photos with another guy, looking happy, or status updates, which will hurt you and get those emotions bubbling and those obsessive thoughts going.
On the other hand, you could find out that she still has photos of you on her profile, or she's putting statuses that suggest she's hurting and you may read into them and think they're about you. Then you start to build up your hopes...and then the obsessive thoughts kick in.
Neither of these scenarios are going to help you to let go and heal. A lot of guys here are worried about blocking or deleting their ex in case it makes them look hurt, but you're giving way too much focus on what she is thinking! It is better to cut her out, delete and block her, than to be clingy. If anything it just shows that you are focusing on forgetting her and moving on.
Remember guys, this is about you! Your priority should be getting over the pain, healing and rebuilding yourself. Do whatever it takes to remain strong and let go.
