The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Machtwo]

I want to get revenge.
Post a sex wanted ad on craigslist with HER phone number.
Add her email to a hundred porn & marketing sites.
Send her family the nude photos of her I still have.

This all started because I truly considered blocking the caller ID on my phone and calling her work just to hear her voice. How old am I? I know, I know.

No Contact.

One day at a time.

Anger is just one part of the healing process! Been there, felt like that, still do some days, but not as bad as at first.

At times like this we wish one day felt like a month had passed so we could heal quicker, except it feels the other way, like one day is a month!!

Stick with it brother.

 

[MaddXMan]

it's getting ever so easier, incrementally, day by day.

Yep. Imagine yourself 1 year from this day, where will you be, where your head will be at.... in much much better place all around. Just takes time.

 

[sickwithu]

day 7.. dont know how i feel .. have a new girl for 3 months but still dont feel too happy.. but i will stick with her cuz she's worth it..

 

[Machtwo]

I feel incredibly sad, lonely, depressed and betrayed today.

Why do I miss my wife so much? She has caused me so much pain.
Should I not be moving on after 5 months?

 

[henrea4]

I literally cried myself to sleep last night. I had been doing really good these past few days, but it hit me like a Mack truck yesterday. I guess it's normal. You'll have good days and not so good days. The good (or at least decent) are starting to outweigh the bad now. Yes, I am, slowly but surely, making progress. Day 55 begins.

 

[Machtwo]

I'm overwhelmed today for some reason, I cried this morning shortly after waking up and then bawled my eyes out again in the shower! I hope its just a bad day and I'm not heading back towards how I was 3 & 4 months ago.

 

[BlackgumL]

Day 31:


So I wake up to 5 text messages & 3 phone messages from the ex begging me to meet her, see her, talk to her...anything. She says she has made a huge mistake and wants us to have an honest shot at a relationship. I haven't replied or called back. I just don't trust her. Thoughts?

 

[Jair213]

Day 31:


So I wake up to 5 text messages & 3 phone messages from the ex begging me to meet her, see her, talk to her...anything. She says she has made a huge mistake and wants us to have an honest shot at a relationship. I haven't replied or called back. I just don't trust her. Thoughts?

Trust your gut

Being there done that. Dont contact her. Stay away from this girl forever.

 

[Machtwo]

Day 31:


So I wake up to 5 text messages & 3 phone messages from the ex begging me to meet her, see her, talk to her...anything. She says she has made a huge mistake and wants us to have an honest shot at a relationship. I haven't replied or called back. I just don't trust her. Thoughts?

I believe you've answered your own question - YOU JUST DON'T TRUST HER.

If you believe you are over her and can handle anything she will say and do, then meet her. If you feel vulnerable, delicate or uneasy then keep well away.

I would dearly love to be in your position now - you have the POWER, use it to your advantage.

Those are my thoughts.

 

[henrea4]

Day 31:


So I wake up to 5 text messages & 3 phone messages from the ex begging me to meet her, see her, talk to her...anything. She says she has made a huge mistake and wants us to have an honest shot at a relationship. I haven't replied or called back. I just don't trust her. Thoughts?

Thoughts? Honestly....I'm jealous. :yes:

 

[Subbeh]

I screwed up. I broke NC a while back because I met her while going out and we ended hooking up and kept contact after that. I just found out however, that since I initiated NC (2 weeks ago), she already slept with 2 guys. Ofcourse she has all the right to, but it really shows me that I don't want anything to do with her anymore. I'm mostly angry at myself for being such a fvcking fool. I was doing alright until I met her again.
I let myself down, and I let you guys down. I hope this was a valuable lesson. Back to square one.

 

[henrea4]

I screwed up. I broke NC a while back because I met her while going out and we ended hooking up and kept contact after that. I just found out however, that since I initiated NC (2 weeks ago), she already slept with 2 guys. Ofcourse she has all the right to, but it really shows me that I don't want anything to do with her anymore. I'm mostly angry at myself for being such a fvcking fool. I was doing alright until I met her again.
I let myself down, and I let you guys down. I hope this was a valuable lesson. Back to square one.

Don't be so hard on yourself. You're only human...and this isn't easy to deal with.

 

[BlackgumL]

So I met up with her for dinner. Had drinks. Drank way too much. She drank even more than me. She's passed out on her bed where I was earlier with her. This was what I wanted and now?

Well I am confused. I love her, but hanging out with her this evening reminded me what a crazy annoying bltch she really is. And the sex was certainly better in my mind than in 'real life'. I am not going back to No Contact, but the real kicker is...I am right back where I started when she and I were just FWB. I KNOW I want more out of a relationship...and I don't want to lead her on...but I know if I 'break up' I'll probably just get upset again when I see her with a new dude. I am thinking about just keeping her until something better presents itself. Does doing this make me an *******/douchebag?

 

[itdude]

Thoughts? Honestly....I'm jealous. :yes:

tru dat! very jealous because you have all the power. my ex is now also doing NC. which is a good thing as I feel so much better. This morning I managed 20 minutes before thinking of her. and I only thought of her as there were a song playing on the radio.

I come to this site not because I need the encouragement so much any more but I come here to see how much better I am doing since I started no contact and realized she is never coming back. and I am not sure I want her too.

lets get out there and life our lives to the MAX

 

[BlackgumL]

Day 0 and the first day of the rest of my life!

lets get out there and life our lives to the MAX

I really don't feel confused. I left her at her place and am now back at my place after SHE begged me to stay with her. I received 4 text messages on the cab ride back and I haven't replied. Gonna sleep like a baby tonight, gentlemen!

 

[Subbeh]

Pfff it seems so much harder now doing my second attempt of NC. A few hours ago I overheard her saying to all her friends how much she actually loves me and when I found out she lied to me yet again, she was pretty much begging me to stay with her. I had to physically throw her out of my apartment because she refused to leave.

I'm at work now, haven't slept one bit and feel like shlt :nervous:
If she wouldn't have lied so fvcking much about everything, things would be a lot better.

This is going to be a tough one

 

[itdude]

I really don't feel confused. I left her at her place and am now back at my place after SHE begged me to stay with her. I received 4 text messages on the cab ride back and I haven't replied. Gonna sleep like a baby tonight, gentlemen!

I have read some of your older posts and she seems like trouble to me. guard your heart.

 

[Subbeh]

Well done D1ZL4, good post. I kinda had the same situation as you once and burned my ex's clothes. When she came by to collect it, I gave her a little bag with the ashes in it. Her look was priceless

 

[BlackgumL]

I have read some of your older posts and she seems like trouble to me. guard your heart.

She is. I am over it. All of this heartbreak nonsense has turned out to simply be one huge power/ego trip. Heartbreak is rooted in rejection which goes back to my childhood. I don't want to get all psychoanalytical on you but, it’s encoded in my brain. WTF Brain!?

Let’s say you are in the jungle. To your right is a lion. To your left is a rose garden. You’re going to pay A LOT of attention to the lion. Else you will die. For 200,000 years, your brain has evolved to HEAVILY NOTICE the Lion and ignore the roses.

Rejection is that lion, gentlemen. Heartbreak is that lion. Our brains haven’t yet adapted. The brain still wants to protect us from the lion. Thank you brain. I’m going to get you a trophy. “Best Brain!” Just kidding. You suck, brain.

Does it sound like I am blaming evolution and DNA for my previous cry baby behavior? It certainly feels like it. How old am I? I am old enough to wise up to the fact that misery loves company and I will no longer think with a scarcity, lack mindset. It's abundance from here on...and for me, this includes making this my last post in this forum/thread.

Thanks to all of you & Good luck.

 

[dreww]

The Story

Ok so my girlfriend just went to college and I have already been in college for a whole year. She became overwhelmed by the freedom, classes, club soccer, and meeting new people. It seems as if she is just too stressed to have a boyfriend right now and doesn't want that pressure when meeting new people. She doesn't want have to tell anyone anything and basically told me she was selfish and wants to do whatever she wants without me worrying about her. We were dating for almost 2 years and this came as such a shock to me and everyone else. A week ago,she was telling me how happy she was with our relationship. We each had our own friends and were busy, but still made time to see each other, and now this!?!?!?! She also told me that she lost romantic feelings for me and feels like I am just a friend. I am trying to do the no contact, but I have already seen her twice on campus, even though my university is HUGE. The first time, we completely ignored each other even though we were in a small room together (this is even when we ended the relationship on good terms: I told her we had a great time together and that I learned a lot from her and she went on to say how amazing I was and that she'll always love me and I'm going far in life). Its just crazy how we were dating 2 years, ended on good terms, and now we are invisible to each other! So I see her later on in the day walking to class and tell her that instead of acting like we don't exist, we should at least say hey or something, I mean we were together for 2 years!!! After I did that, I regretted it because she was so cold and unresponsive, just said that she thought that might make it harder.
So what do you guys think? Do you think I should text her now and say that I'm starting no contact with her and for her to only contact me if she's serious about getting back together, not as friends, but romantically?