The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Glassguy]

I had my first test tonight. I didnt respond to either. Right before I was gonna go trick or treating with my kids. Its the first time she has contacted me after 1 week of no contact. She called then texted me. She said in the text that she called me because she wanted to talk with my children and wish them a happy halloween. She helped raised my children for the past 7 years eventhough they werent kids that I had with her. Did I make the right move by not responding and not letting her talk to them?

Yes.

 

[soulforge]

How’s everyone doing?

Haven’t had the urge to reply to multiple texts and calls. It’s been decreasing, think she gets the message I’m trying to send. Emotional detachment is awesome, no longer a victim under her spell

Keep it going man.. I feel like a junkie withdrawing off some terrible toxic drug myself.

Did you end it? Or did she end it?

They almost sense that detachment taking place. This is why they usually reach out, when they sense we have moved on.

 

[soulforge]

I had my first test tonight. I didnt respond to either. Right before I was gonna go trick or treating with my kids. Its the first time she has contacted me after 1 week of no contact. She called then texted me. She said in the text that she called me because she wanted to talk with my children and wish them a happy halloween. She helped raised my children for the past 7 years eventhough they werent kids that I had with her. Did I make the right move by not responding and not letting her talk to them?

My friend they will use every tactic under the sun to talk/contact you.

Remember they are not doing this for your benefit.. They gradually want to detatch from you, essentially they will use you, to get to ever the break quickly and with as little pain as possible.

 

[Dr.Suave]

When our relationship ended she told me she wants to remain friends and that she always will be there for my kids if they ever need anything. Was she just using my kids as a ploy to contact me tonight?

Translation: "You have made me lost all attraction for you and I no longer see you as worthy of my p00zy, I regret putting out. But I want to enjoy your attention/validation and keep you around in my orbit in case I need help with changing a tire or something"

We all been there, bro.

 

[Baibars]

Let’s be honest guys.
The root of all the problems we have here is that there is always this one girl (an ex for example) we overvalue for one or another reason. It doesn’t matter if you fcked up with a girl you met a few times. If you’re a normal guy, you’ve had your experiences and been around this forum for some time, you won’t go crazy for a random girl. It happens when you’ve built an attachment and that ONE girl no longer wants you.
We have to detach from this one girl. Just yesterday night the 18 year old son of a family friend hanged himself over a girl he loved while that girl gets her cheeks clapped by another guy. He couldn’t deal with that fact.
We have to accept it and move on. Do not expect her to come back, do not care what she’s doing, do not care who she’s with, do not act a certain way so she comes back. Just live like you did before you knew her. That’s key. Getting there is important.
It’s been 2 months since I’m not with my ex and I acted weak everything you can imagine. Dated 3-4 girls after her and I did not give a fck about them. I literally kicked one girl out of my place cause she was annoying. I know I have to get back to my normal state and detach. You have to do that.

 

[soulforge]

Let’s be honest guys.
The root of all the problems we have here is that there is always this one girl (an ex for example) we overvalue for one or another reason. It doesn’t matter if you fcked up with a girl you met a few times. If you’re a normal guy, you’ve had your experiences and been around this forum for some time, you won’t go crazy for a random girl. It happens when you’ve built an attachment and that ONE girl no longer wants you.
We have to detach from this one girl. Just yesterday night the 18 year old son of a family friend hanged himself over a girl he loved while that girl gets her cheeks clapped by another guy. He couldn’t deal with that fact.
We have to accept it and move on. Do not expect her to come back, do not care what she’s doing, do not care who she’s with, do not act a certain way so she comes back. Just live like you did before you knew her. That’s key. Getting there is important.
It’s been 2 months since I’m not with my ex and I acted weak everything you can imagine. Dated 3-4 girls after her and I did not give a fck about them. I literally kicked one girl out of my place cause she was annoying. I know I have to get back to my normal state and detach. You have to do that.

My brother told me about a dude who deleted himself over a girl he was with in a long term relationship. They lived together and she monkey branched to another dude she was banging on the side.

As men in general have become weaker as a whole & females looking for the bigger better deal at its Max, self deletion is pretty common amongst men.

Personaly I am very careful about getting too attached to a chick, if I can sense something is wrong, or warning signs I am picking up on.. I will dip out early on, within the first few months of the relationship, rather than hang around & get monkey branched on 2 years down the line.

Ofen we know the chick is unpredictable, but the sweet pvssy keeps us holding on.

 

[Baibars]

I wanna text my ex that she dumped me and basically abandoned my kids at this point. I wanna tell her to leave us alone and stay out of our lives. Should I do that versus staying full ghost with her? I dont understnd why she is texting and calling to speak with them when me and her are done.

You want to do that to get a reaction out of her. I’d say don’t do that. Do nothing to manipulate her back into liking you.

 

[soulforge]

I wanna text my ex that she dumped me and basically abandoned my kids at this point. I wanna tell her to leave us alone and stay out of our lives. Should I do that versus staying full ghost with her? I dont understnd why she is texting and calling to speak with them when me and her are done.

Texting her will achieve nothing. She knows full well what she did, you don't have to remind her. She already thought it through probably months ago.

I know it seems/feels counter productive, however going silent is your only option at this time.

Literally nothing else has any use.

She made a decision to end it, she broke that connection for good.

Literally do not talk to her again.

 

[Baibars]

My brother told me about a dude who deleted himself over a girl he was with in a long term relationship. They lived together and she monkey branched to another dude she was banging on the side.

As men in general have become weaker as a whole & females looking for the bigger better deal at its Max, self deletion is pretty common amongst men.

Personaly I am very careful about getting too attached to a chick, if I can sense something is wrong, or warning signs I am picking up on.. I will dip out early on, within the first few months of the relationship, rather than hang around & get monkey branched on 2 years down the line.

Ofen we know the chick is unpredictable, but the sweet pvssy keeps us holding on.

that’s wise. Getting attached is easy, getting detached is hard af depending on the length etc.

I was telling myself I’m red pill I can control myself but you can’t fight human nature. If you invest and build memories with a girl you’re playing with fire especially if she’s not a good one.

 

[Baibars]

If I keep ignoring her then wont she just forget about me and eventually find another guy if she hasnt already? Isnt ghosting a woman a bad idea in the sense that it gives them time to forget about us and date new men? How is that a good thing for us if we want to possibly get back with them down the road?

do not focus on ignoring her or getting her back. I think it’s more important for us to focus on detaching. It’s a totally different thing to want a girl when you’re not attached af compared to wanting her when you’re in peace with yourself. Right now you’re in a emotional state.
I’m in a similar situation. I think the best advice is try to heal and get out of that emotional state so you think clear and if you want to give her a chance, let the door open for her but don’t chase while you’re attached and „sick“.

 

[soulforge]

that’s wise. Getting attached is easy, getting detached is hard af depending on the length etc.

I was telling myself I’m red pill I can control myself but you can’t fight human nature. If you invest and build memories with a girl you’re playing with fire especially if she’s not a good one.

Absolutely.. Some girls I have interacted with in the past, I can fuk them for months and toss them aside... And then there is that ONE chicks that manages to work her way into your heart.

It's usually the hot sexier ones for me.. However it's difficult, but easier to detatch from a girl 8 months in, than to carry on with her and have your heart stomped on 3 years down the line.

I guess it's about vetting them really hard, and NEXTING the ones if they are not of sound character.

Something I have realised after dating many chicks, and at my age 47.

Pretty much all the monkey branching, or toxic, or attention seeking types, had no father in her life, was either raised by a single mom, or the dad didn't give a chit about her.. And had tattoos, and a pretty high body count.

 

[soulforge]

If I keep ignoring her then wont she just forget about me and eventually find another guy if she hasnt already? Isnt ghosting a woman a bad idea in the sense that it gives them time to forget about us and date new men? How is that a good thing for us if we want to possibly get back with them down the road?

You can't negotiate desire my friend. You can't force her to find you super attractive.

Time and distance & you showing her that you are willing to walk away, is what might increase her interest level.

And yes likely she will fuk someone else, and yes likely that dude will not work out..

Guess what, when it doesn't work out with him, she will reach out to you. And you must tell her you're not interested.

Dude once its over, it's fvking over... Even if they come back, you don't want that used up vagina back. Trust me!

 

[member162951]

Time and distance & you showing her that you are willing to walk away, is what might increase her interest level.

This!

 

[Baibars]

If I keep ignoring her then wont she just forget about me and eventually find another guy if she hasnt already? Isnt ghosting a woman a bad idea in the sense that it gives them time to forget about us and date new men? How is that a good thing for us if we want to possibly get back with them down the road?

you could also hack her social media to check if she’s texting or fcking other guys just as you hacked and exposed members on this forum.

 

[soulforge]

I just read about what no contact actually is. It says that it is used to get over your ex but also used to get them back in some cases. It says that it can cause your ex to reach out to you to get back with you. My question is how do you know if they are contacting you with bread crumbs to see how you are doing versus them actually contacting you to see if they wanna get back with you? My ex contacted me after 1 week of no contact so does that mean no contact worked to get her back or shes bread crumbing me?

I just read about what no contact actually is. It says that it is used to get over your ex but also used to get them back in some cases. It says that it can cause your ex to reach out to you to get back with you. My question is how do you know if they are contacting you with bread crumbs to see how you are doing versus them actually contacting you to see if they wanna get back with you? My ex contacted me after 1 week of no contact so does that mean no contact worked to get her back or shes bread crumbing me?

Anything other than a clear indication that she regrets breaking up and wants to try again, is a bread crumb.

 

[johnrambo]

My brother told me about a dude who deleted himself over a girl he was with in a long term relationship. They lived together and she monkey branched to another dude she was banging on the side.

Let me get this straight, "deleted" means he killed himself

 

[soulforge]

Let me get this straight, "deleted" means he killed himself

Yes killed himself

 

[soulforge]

Gentlemen I didnt tell any of you yet but I met a new woman on friday night. As you all are aware my ex contacted me on Halloween and wanted to talk with my kids to wish them a good Halloween. I want to text my ex this---"Hey I see you contacted me on Halloween. I know you wanna talk with my kids but I dont think its a good idea. I met somebody new and wanna see where things go with her. I dont wanna confuse my kids by them talking with multiple women. I wish you the best of luck on whatever you are looking for"

Should I send this?

Nah will look kinda pathetic, especially when it's a girl you barely even know.

 

[johnrambo]

Yes killed himself

Totally not worth it.

 

[MtmVaott]

Gentlemen I didnt tell any of you yet but I met a new woman on friday night. As you all are aware my ex contacted me on Halloween and wanted to talk with my kids to wish them a good Halloween. I want to text my ex this---"Hey I see you contacted me on Halloween. I know you wanna talk with my kids but I dont think its a good idea. I met somebody new and wanna see where things go with her. I dont wanna confuse my kids by them talking with multiple women. I wish you the best of luck on whatever you are looking for"

Should I send this?

That message is a twofold manipulation attempt to make her feel jealous and to make her feel appreciated (= valued) while she has disrespected (= devalued) you. Also you use your kids as an excuse.

Ask yourself how you feel right now and then how you want to feel instead.