Can't get this across well via a posting, but my GF has a way of saying "Excellent!" that is an exquisite combination of deadpan-yet-dripping-with-sarcasm. I could hear my GF's voice loud and clear in my head when I read the above tag line.
Or simply not seeing it as a void.
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Oh you just made me realize i forgot a few stuff at my ex's appartment, including my sexiest pijama pants
Easier said than done. Let's be real and honest here, if the relationship you had with a woman was meaningful she took up some space in you somehow and your lives will have intertwined, especially cohabitating with her. When it ends this will leave a void inside you that needs to be healed. That's why it can feel so empty when it just ends. What now? Replacing that void with other meaningful activities/hobbies and people that loves us brings us meaning again.
I have this happen from time to time with a couple of ex's.
To be honest it isnt your responsibility to help them figure out what they want. That will get you put into the friend zone. Your job is to date her/eff her. Do not be her shrink.
Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.
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Ignore. next.
Good stuff, thanks for this insight. Just to put it into context, how were you in the relationship. Did you become weak towards the end? Or was it just a monkey branch swing?
It was just a branch swing actually. She started a new job then i noticed the "the shift" as someone pointed out here earlier. Phone calls werent getting returned as quickly as before, suddenly she had to put in a lot of over time. She wasnt available like she was before. Stuff like that. I figured she was getting new attention from some guy at her new job. Turned out i was right. I didnt know at the time i just noticed the change in behaviour and attitude. i started to withdraw. Started to make my own plans. Went 2 -3 days without calling her She noticed and called me out on it. I pointed out her sudden change etc and said it was the reason for my withdrawal. That is when she said she was confused and needed some time to think. I asked what did she mean? What did she need to think about? And that is when she said she needed a break from us and said she thought it would be good for us to take some time away from each other. She was too stressed and her life was confusing. Her new job was causing her a lot of "problems" i knew her old boss, he was a buddy of mine and he said he would take her back. I suggested that she was "much happier at her old job." She got angrily defensive about her new job. Very angrily defensive. That moment is right there i knew there was another guy in the picture so i told her take all the time she needs and good bye.
She broke up with me, we had been talking since February, didn’t start dating until late July, broke up end of August.
Thanks man, just the kick in the ass that I needed. I just sent her a goodbye text, removed her from Instagram, blocked her from Facebook, messenger and her phone number before deleting her contact info.
I think this is in the back of the mind of most exes. It's alot about territory and control. When you're in a relationship you somehow feel the right over that person, where she is, what she does etc. The one that eventually become the dumper feels the sense of control since that person is the decider of both of your futures. This sense of power then gets lost when we withdraw and stay in NC, being in the dark, not knowing, because it sends a message we could be totally unphased by her leaving which obviously makes the hamster spin into overdrive since she obviously thought she was or could do better than us and seeing us miserable is the confirmation she wants to see now. It's very important for her to confirm she did the right thing breaking up with us, because doubts will always be there in the back of their minds knowing the chaotic nature of women.
two weeks baby.So I found out that her and her ex bf were still in communication during our time together. That now all of a sudden they are even best buds. Haha.. yeah, no wonder she needed time "to work on herself."
