Nc
My boyfriend (and business partner for 2 years) of 7 years (we are both 23 so were eachothers first love) he dumped me 4 weeks ago because he "wants to be alone, he doesnt think were working at the moment, he doesnt want to stay together only for pure monogomy, he needs to sort his life out, it has nothing to do with other women, "hes still in love me and sexually attracted to me, but he has to see this through", many a reason, im devastated as things were going so well up until the last few months. I no hes the guy i want to marry and i will try everything to get him back. The first week i cried, i did the usual dumped gf situation and asked him why over and over again, i didnt beg him back i just said that i didnt agree with this decision. We didnt argue over it and therefore were not angry at eachother, which i guess makes it easier? I have to see him once a month for business reasons (full days at weddings together- perfect scenario A?!) Then as of march it will need to be a lot more regularly for a few monrhs.
For the first few weeks I didnt really contact him except when i saw him for work. I did however talk to his friends, Ive now stopped talking to his friends (its been 2 weeks now) things were going well until i sent him a text about a week ago saying "hey, fancy a chat soon as havent spoken in a while, miss u" - i regretted it as soon as i sent it, anyway we ended up having a half hour chat the next day, he was telling me things hes been doing and vice versa, it was very relaxed conversation and i tried to sound upbeat, he did say "oh btw i heard u text me friend, it might be worth not doing that as i dont want him to get annoyed with u" i said "yeh i sorry i didnt really think before i text, i also wanted to say sorry for being so needy when we were together, i understand u must have felt really claustrophobic, i didnt mean to make you feel like that" to which he replied "look whats happened, happened and it was the only solution" we chatted a bit more about updates and then we said goodbye. We havent spoken since and i have therefore renewed my NC, since then its been 10 days. Hes contacted me twice about work and i have left it a day and then replied about that only.
His facebook statuses are sooo regular that hes obviously bored, things like
" "Life has been thrown into the world, light into darkness, the soul into the body. It expresses the original violence done to me in making me be where I am and what I am, the passivity of my choiceless emergence into an existing world which I did not make, and whose law is not mine." Hans Jonas Zwischen/Alvaro Deprit."
"Now is the time to shine"
" Shopping Therapy. "
"Restlessness is looming over me. Hello Insomnia, my old friend."
And many more, sometimes hes overly happy others hes not. Apparently hes now trying to sort out his career.
Do you think he will come back and just needs time? Or has he already moved on in his mind? Will no contact work? i think hes going through a quarterlife crisis