SoSuave666
Master Don Juan
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You're wrong. It's not unique. She DID break up with you. When a woman is "confused" and "not working with both feet in the water" it means she wants out. Especially for a 40 year old woman. She has been in relationships before. She knows what feels right. Unfortunately, even 40 year old women with children have entitlement issues these days.r1971 said:I'm just trying to clarify differing advice OF members of THIS THREAD
ALSO - this is unique as she didn't break up with me:
We had a 2-hour call Sunday night, and I FELT she was confused and not working with both feet in things. I know she wanted space because of her actions, not her words. Was "the talk" about needing space/etc from her imminent? Yes...although she denied she needed space, etc. I just KNEW and was ahead of the curve...
Same advice applies?
You keep telling her she needs space and what not. You aren't ahead of ANY curve. If you were ahead of the curve, you would have known she was uninterested in you and begun seeing other people while going NO CONTACT. Which is what I'm telling you to do. The only way to regain interest is to be a scarce commodity. You're 40, you probably know economics. An object is in higher demand when the resource is more scarce. Having 2 hour phone conversations about how she needs space and how you are willing to give it to her only enforces the fact that she is holding all the cards. When you leave and stop contacting her she will realize a couple things. 1.) She doesn't mean as much to you as she once thought AND 2.) You have more value than she thought.
While away, improve yourself. Not for her, but for yourself. Don't reach out to her. Don't. Do. Anything. Just live your life. You can find plenty of other women, but only if you make the conscious choice. No one on this board is going to be able to MAKE you a better man. You have to do that for yourself. It begins with letting go of some chick who is dragging you down.
Don't contact her. You are prolonging the inevitable.