DAY 5 NC
To be honest, I do think he will contact me again, maybe not come back but he will most definitely try to open up communication. I know this because he is still in contact with all of his exes that he was in a long term relationship with. I know he even tried to contact his first long term ex who dumped him for someone else. She never responded to any of his contacts. Whenever he sees her in town, I know it startles him. He's not one to be able to cut anyone loose. I'm just so pissed off that he thinks he has me on the back burner. The bastard said "If I think I've made a mistake then I'll be running straight back to you and for sure I can win you over again". On my bad days I do just want him to turn around so I can kick his ass to the curb. But I know that's just being vindictive and doesn't actually achieve anything. But day dreaming about the ways I can tell him to **** off helps
Sounds a bit like me.. So let's turn the tables ， since you are a woman . If you dumped someone and they never contacted you would you contact them . How long would you leave it, 1 week?
I do feel better today though. My new housemate moved in today and we talked and it made me feel better. Her break up story is even more depressing than mine.
I don't think I would want him back in my life just yet, not unless he grows up and makes changes to his lifestyle (e.g. not going out every weekend blowing al his cash on drinks and coming home drunk as a skunk and throws up everywhere) This is crux of our issues, at least from my view anyway. He just can't grow out of peer pressure from his friends. They weren't there for him when he crashed his car and needed support, his friends pretty much cut him out from social events and forgot about him. Since then he has made every effort to be included in the group again. What a kid.
I do just want him to turn around and give me a genuine apology though. This is not the person I knew and love. I'm sad that now when I think of him, all I can see is a lying selfish scumbag. At first when he told me he wanted to break up because he wants to be single and "find himself," I wasn't as upset and was prepared to give him space. I asked if there was another person and he fervently denied, even when I found out and asked him again to give him a chance to tell me the truth. Turns out he had no problems with finding himself.....in between a two faced slut's legs!
Each time I wanted to break up with him, it certainly wasn't because I wanted to hook up with other people, it was purely because I was fed up with his behaviour and attitude. So there's definitely no way in hell I'd be able to forgive him for leaving me because he wants to sleep around! And it's not because he stopped being attracted to me. He tried enough times to get into my pants for the last month we were living together, with all the classic lines "it's you, you're the one, I know it, it's always you", "for old times sake" "just one last passionate good bye". He even tried to turn into FWB "you know this doesn't have to be the last time" ASSSSSSSS. I'm 21 so it's excusable for me to be naive and fall for those lines. He's 27!! He's a teacher!! He's got no excuse for not having a moral compass!!
I still have to contact him to settle finances between us. I'm trying my best to not have to contact him directly. I've been getting my friends to drop his stuff off and picking up my things. So I'm thinking of getting them to email him the spreadsheet of how much money we owe each other for furnitures bought together etc.
