Should I text her first or wait it out?

[HaleyBaron]

Why do you need to make her think you got things to do, if you don't got things to do?

To pretend you are someone more important?

Women see through that **** quicker than anyone.

Better advice: Work to become someone that has **** to do, so that you don't have to pretend and be pathetic.

I give that phrase to most people on here because they are coming here learning how to be independent. A starter is making them walk the walk. Even if it's pretending, it's still training wheels. I also tell men to pick up actual purposes in life so that they can no longer pretend.

 

[L16]

Decided I am going to shoot her a text. If she's down she'll respond favorably and it's good. If she's not, she either rejects me or doesn't answer and it's whatever. We have friends in common and just because she doesn't respond now doesn't mean it's off the table to **** another time. I have nothing to lose.

She just got back into town on Monday.

I'm debating whether I shoot her a text her some time this week or wait to see if she hits me up this week and if not send her a text next week.

Waiting till next week maybe means less of a "desperate" vibe by not texting her this week and letting a little more time pass. On the flip side also further away from our fun at the wedding so likely lowered interest.

What do you all think

 

[Bingo-Player]

If she hasn't messaged after saying she would , you can assume the interest or attention has faded

Shoot your shot but you need to be VERY careful with how you go about it because she's already holding all the aces

I would probably try and aim for a tease or a witty quip to warm the interaction back up , probably easier to do this on social meida

But again I would proceed with extreme caution this broad seems flaky

 

[L16]

If she hasn't messaged after saying she would , you can assume the interest or attention has faded

Shoot your shot but you need to be VERY careful with how you go about it because she's already holding all the aces

I would probably try and aim for a tease or a witty quip to warm the interaction back up , probably easier to do this on social meida

But again I would proceed with extreme caution this broad seems flaky

Yea a lot of time has passed.

She did say she'd text me when she's back in town and she just got back some time Monday I think, so not that much time, but definitely could have sent a text while she was with family for the week.

Still feel like saying **** it and shooting a shot.

Got any inspiration you can share for a witty/teasing way to reinitiate that you would use?

Btw, she is flaky, I'm not looking to date this girl or anything like that. More a friends with benefits that aren't close friends, or **** buddy situation.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Send her a meme.

 

[HaleyBaron]

If she hasn't messaged after saying she would , you can assume the interest or attention has faded

Shoot your shot but you need to be VERY careful with how you go about it because she's already holding all the aces

I would probably try and aim for a tease or a witty quip to warm the interaction back up , probably easier to do this on social meida

But again I would proceed with extreme caution this broad seems flaky

I would not even do a tease.

Just a "sup." That is just me. Not worth my time, personally.