Clockwerk50
Master Don Juan
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So, essentially, she wouldn't have hung out with you romantically, only in group settings. It's hard to say for sure if she's trying to avoid you, but it does seem like that might be the case, especially since you didn't even know she'd be at the gathering.Think I tried to force it Sunday by asking her to hang out for sure. We had a good time, but the vibes weren't "lets ****". Which makes sense, we were bowling and having some beers on a late Sunday afternoon. I was just kind of in the mindset of, well we don't tend to see each other very often, we just had this fun, organic thing, a couple of weeks ago, might as well shoot my shot now or this is dead because I'm not pursuing this further.
I don't think I've been acting like I want a relationship with her or pursuing her in an obvious way though? I made out with her at a wedding and tried to go home with her that night to have sex. Then we happened to be at the same social gathering a few weeks later, hung out most of the time, and asked her if she wanted to hang out afterwards. At some point in the interaction you have to take the risk of saying lets do something/lets hook up.
Always tougher to see the reality of things when you're in it though. That I know. So maybe I have been but don't see it yet.
But yeah, I think I should have probably just hit her up before this past weekend and said hey want to grab drinks and hang out tonight.
Or I wish I had not asked to hang out Sunday after bowling and hit her up this week to hang out and hook up.
Lesson learned there.
I understand the idea of taking your shot, and if it doesn't work out, then so be it. However, good seducers know how to pick their people. They look for those who are vulnerable to them and avoid those who are emotionally closed off. It's smarter to let go of women who aren't receptive to you—after all, you can't win over everyone. At the same time, it's important to actively seek out those who respond positively. This approach makes seduction more enjoyable and satisfying in the end.
Take everyone's advice here to move on and talk to more women.