Should I text her first or wait it out?

[L16]

Saw a girl that I used to hook up with at a wedding last weekend.

Chemistry was strong again, we hung out the whole night, had a great time, made out a bit.

Tried to go home together but logistics made that impossible.

She said, "I'll be home in a week", "I'll text you when I'm back, maybe ".

Do I just shoot her a text to reinitiate and setup a plan for when she's back or wait this one out and let her come to me?

 

[HaleyBaron]

Wait it out. Don't chase. Need to make her think you got things to do. Don't consider her a desperate thing to go after. Even if you did, it's a lose lose if you initiate.

 

[Sega Genesis]

She said, "I'll be home in a week", "I'll text you when I'm back, maybe ".

She was being teasing and playful, that's a good sign she's interested!

How did you respond?

 

[BPH]

Just hit her up a day or 2 before she's supposed to be back to set up plans.

I disagree with Haley's thought to "wait for her to come to you". If you go radio silent for a week and wait for her to initiate she'll likely either forget or think you've lost interest.

I don't trust people to remember commitments they made more than a few days ago - let alone a woman you haven't seen in a while.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Men initiate - you need to text her. I agree with the sentiment above, a couple days before. You should have even written / called her a couple days after seeing her given the timeline.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Chemistry was strong again….

Tried to go home together but logistics made that impossible.

She said, "I'll be home in a week", "I'll text you when I'm back, maybe ".

Chemistry isn’t what you think it is… nobody who wants you leaves it to chance like the way she did just there… u would have been better off in the moment telling her ‘yeah you do that, can’t promise I’ll be able to get back to you right away’ with a wink and a smile- after hanging on you all night like that she tried to dominate you on the tail end there and she did … logistics? Do you have a car, a bank account to get a hotel room, a set of hands to put on her ass and slide into her …? / she doesn’t think you have options and be honest it doesn’t sound like you do… fake it til you make it, just do what we are telling you

 

[HaleyBaron]

Just hit her up a day or 2 before she's supposed to be back to set up plans.

I disagree with Haley's thought to "wait for her to come to you". If you go radio silent for a week and wait for her to initiate she'll likely either forget or think you've lost interest.

I don't trust people to remember commitments they made more than a few days ago - let alone a woman you haven't seen in a while.

Let her forget. That was the point of my post. If she forget, you forget her and move on. He initiated already at the wedding. He now needs to see if she actually cares or not. It comes off needy if he texts her before she comes back. It shows he has been thinking about her, which is a bad thing in a long time meeting. Comes off needy and desperate.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What were wrong with the logistics?

Go get a hotel room. Problem solved.

You want something to happen, make it happen.

Grown men make things happen. Little boys cry about logistics.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Men initiate - you need to text her. I agree with the sentiment above, a couple days before. You should have even written / called her a couple days after seeing her given the timeline.

No, screw her. She literally said this to him:

"I'll text you when I'm back, maybe ".

"Maybe." No, we don't play that maybe cutesy sh*t. I'd be so mad at this that I wouldn't give her the time of the day. Then again, I have options.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

"Maybe." No, we don't play that maybe cutesy sh*t. I'd be so mad at this that I wouldn't give her the time of the day. Then again, I have options.

Woah, dude, don't get emotional about what some ditzy bimbo texts to someone else.

When someone is texting immature manipulations, it's best to be unresponsive. I don't disagree with you, I'd pursue other interests and see if and how she texts me when she's back. If her next text appears mature, then I'd ignore what you called the 'cutesy sh*t', but if she plays games or throws up roadblocks I'd just text her she's obviously not ready yet for mature interaction and leave it at that.

 

[Clockwerk50]

It depends where you are in the seduction process.

If you already hooked up, as in slept with here, I would reach out.

If you haven’t slept together, I’d wait until she reaches out. She is the one coming back to your town. It’s similar to basic etiquette at a party: The one who arrives is the one who greets, and the one who leaves is the one who says goodbye.

 

[Bingo-Player]

This is a situation that doesn't require over complication

Just wait a week and see what happens , if she texts you on her own accord then she 100% wants the D

If she doesn't reach out I would send one text gauge the response and take it from there

Simple