What I see is Iqqi's interpretation of Woman Code, that's all.
It's the same thing with Men.
I say the email should state your personal boundary and stance on the issue.
"No poaching", no "scamming off of me".
"If I like a guy, I will let you know, and you are Hands OFF from there."
I don't agree with 'using' her a 'weeding' tool though.
That is dehumanizing.
While I believe that you should strive to instill in her higher self esteem and worth, and a bit more reserved amorous approach, you can't expect her to do it. And if so, then simply let nature take its course.
If a creepy guy comes up, you deal with it as the lady you are, Iqqi.
This friend of yours does need to be introduced to mature respectful dynamics in the romance/dating game.
And if she cannot find it in her to respect them , then she's out, unfortunately for her.
She will be losnig a great Wing Girl and good friend.
She is feeling a little concerend for her friend for being TOO overt, because it's one of Iqqis pet peeves.
I also agree that no buying a beer for crush, No way no how. This early? No. If you are already letting him know, buying him a beer is a little over the top.
I believe the single BEST way a woman can TRULY let a guy 'know" is through Kino, Touch pure and simple.
Add in being closer, and moving in on their personal space are by far the BEST and coolest signals for men to enjoy, and really get the picture that their girl IS 'into them."
Not buying drinks or making ''pretty eyes."
Or being 'mysterious".
Or "but I was standing right there!!!"
"I was talking to him all night!"
They are not clear.
KINO and PROXIMITY, those two, period. For Men.
I see and respect Iqqi's concern for not looking desperate and easy, after her high school incident she doesn't feel like doing that and expereincing that ever again.
So she feels better to err on the side of caution, meaning holding her cards further in.
I agree.
Absolutely.
And of course I agree to the part of no unwanted touching.
Of course.
Every guy should respect a woman's body.
However, we ALL need to sometimes take a step back and re evaluate ourselves every now and then.
and ask "Hows that working out for ya??!"
Because sometimes when we think we are being a cool and laid back guy, other people could be thinking 'what a snob! And hes so dull!' Same goes for a woman!
And many women are convinced all they have to do is just "show up'!
When they think theyre being mysterious, theyre actually being dull and boring and distant!
Not that many guys, especially men who are very visually attuned ,are going to make a move on some chick whom they believe is 'distant" and assume she's not interested.
How many people have asked others about their interactions and wondered :WHY did the other person NOT make a move?, when they "KNOW" they were CLEARLY showing SIGNALS?
But so many women worry about their reputation, it an be paralyzing for some.
thsi is what leads to women's decisions often, and why they often over abnalyze their actions, and the responses they may be getting from men.
Women HATE to miscalibrate.
Masters of social dynamics, the last thing most women want to experience is looking like theyr are trying too hard.
And then by projecting their insecurity and future interactions on a single guy, who could be very cool and non judgemental, and the chick is thinking 'hes not going to respect me! He will think Im too easy!"
When he could just really be digging you and truly enjoy you being close to him, and some really nice intimate touching, not groping or fondling, but nice touching, in whuich a woman can STILL set her physical boundaries, and let the guy know "I AM INTO YOU! Just not going to sex you right away tonight."
Which IS Perfectly FINE.
What women shoudl IMHO strive to be ARE Ladies. Ladies who can control their emotions, and recognize what is going on and ACT Classy under pressure. And not say or do things that will be overly hurtful to a rejected suitor.
Class, and Femenine Grace.....these traits SHOULD be Ideals for women to strive for.
Sure, we value more what we have to work for. But no one here is advocating to not let the other 'earn' them.
Meaning, its OK to make the woman earn your attention and affection.
You shoudlnt just give it away.
Same thing with women, she shoudlnt be all over the guy right after meeting, this is especially true if the intent is something more deep and meaningful.
But we often exagerate a method, in order to eliminate it.
Meaning, when I say kino, sometimes we may think "tongue kissing and fondling" and "I'm not going to do that!!"
That's NOT what I am saying here.
But we all have to learn the word CALIBRATION.
And know how to seductively USE less "game".
In addition ,OVER Analyzing is never a good thing. That really is a sign of insecurity and anxiety working its way inside our mind.
Not good.
We want to enjoy the process, women more so.
A little bit if innuendo, flirting, some sexual tension, kino, and sensual eye contact, that feeling when youve really connected that it's just the two of you in the entire room, the butterflies in your stomach all that good stuff.
Its what makes women feel alive.
Its the fun, romantic emotional rollercoaster women CRAVE, That is what women call rmoance. Not necessaily a rose.
A rose is better when something is already established, when you do it because you WANTED to , not to impress her. It shows you were thinking about HER, not another woman.
Roses, candles, gifts, ALL that stuff can build affection, Affection should be saved for later.
The guy who can make her feel that is head and shoulders above the competition. Shes going to want more of THAT.
I also se her desire for sexual tension, and the orchestration of seduction.
Iqqi is actually more in touch with a romantic seduction, and wants to experience the entire Seduction program, as it were.
If the guy goes through the 'right motions', then she will feel more confident that the guy has that inner sense of women, and she can start to put her trust in him.
If men could, and many do, they would just choose a woman and walk up to her and say "I like you, come back to my place."
But that is often not going to do the trick.
So like I said, like a symphony, Iqqi's taste is to experience the entire rush of feelings and experiences that come from an exciting romantic seduction.
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