The Situation
The other night me and my girl were at a corporate event, where, lo and behold, a guy who I have had a little long term (6 years!) crush on showed up out of nowhere. Nothing serious, just a guy who has it going on for himself. I pointed him out to my girl, and told her about him. She thought he was very good looking, even though we tend to have a different taste in men. She was pretty impressed with his style.
Him and some friends were shooting darts, so me and my friend went over there because she is pretty good, and wanted to play, and it gave me a great chance to see what I could see
. As soon as we got over there, she was accepted into the game, and I just drank and conversated with people around us. The guy knew me from before, and just like magic (gushing here), he came over and began what amounted to a night of witty flirting with me directly.
I was very happy, as it was going exactly how I wanted it. He intiated all conversation, every now and then I'd engage someone else in conversaton just to not be too obvious. He'd step back over and start another back and forth. It was very flirty, and he was obviously very interested in me. He even knew some things about me that surprised me.
At one point my girl went to stand next to him, kind of close. She was pretty "buzzed" at this point. After a few seconds, he just drifted away from her and came to where I was.
After about 20 minutes, my friend went to get a drink. The guys finished up the game, and when my crush went to talk to his partner, I went to find my friend. She was at the bar, where I ran into an old guy friend who moved away a year ago(platonic with potential). He was overly excited to see me, and we got into a 15 minute conversation. This I thought was perfect, as it gave my crush time to miss me and wonder where I was, and of course could create the perfect stirring of competion to heat the situation up.
I left Old Acquaintance to go back to the Crush. As I got closer I noticed my girl was already over there, even though it was just Crush and his partner (who I knew she wasn't interested in) playing darts still. She had been over there for about 10 minutes, and I was kind of disturbed by that.
Crush seemed happy to see me. I came back, we started talking again, and after about 2 minutes Old Acquaintance found me (he was wasted), and came over and pretty much took over my attention, kind of obnoxiously. I was trying to think of how to get rid of him without being rude, as I do like him, but he was c0ckblocking too hard, and Crush was my #1 priority.
It was the end of the night, so within 3 minutes of that, Crush and his friend started to wind up their stuff to go. As Crush was leaving, I interrupted Old Acquaintance to tell Crush goodbye, with a flirty one liner for good measure. He smiled, and seemed to appreciate it, and I could tell that he took that as I was more interested in him, which I wanted.
When me and my girl left I expressed that I was kind of p!ssed at Old Acquaintance for messing up my game, and she said "well I know where Crush will be at." I looked at her, and she looked kind of uncomfortable. She told me that he would be at a popular after hours spot down the street, and that when I was talking to Old Acquaintance, that he asked what her and I were doing afterwards, then asked for her #.
She said that she felt uncomfortable, and hesitated, to which he made a joke, but she gave him the #.
This really upset me, and she seemed to be really uncomfortable once she realized what just happened. It upset me specifically more and more, when I thought about how it seemed like she had been making herself available to him, with the standing close, and the hanging around when I wasn't there. I didn't spell this out to her, the rest of our conversation was basically "damage control", and confusing. She admitted that she had never really had a girl friend before, so she doesn't seem to get the whole honor code thing.
Part of me thinks that when Old Acquaintance came over, Crush seen a great opportunity to save face by getting my friend's # as she had basically been making herself easy to him. (Whereas, yes, I was playing a little hard to get).
Another part of me hopes that he got her # just to get in touch with me.
This isn't the first time she has "captured the attention" of a guy that I was trying to get to know. Not that any of them really chose her over me, but they noticed her attention, and of course liked it. This situation just really brought all of it to my attention, and is really really upsetting me, to think she may be someone I shouldn't trust.
This just really p!ssed me off, because of how long I had been interested in this guy, and how perfect the set up had been this time around.
What do you all think? Do you think maybe she is a little competitive with me? I need perspective. I don't know if I explained it as well as I could, I will clear whatever I may have left out as you respond.
