TheException said:
So my question to you guys........DO YOU HAVE A WOMAN LIKE THIS IN YOUR LIFE?
Dude, this is no big deal.....it's a nice gesture....I have plates that do/have done the same for me...it's common courtesy to do that...if you were using her kitchen would you text her everything that you did?
I have to agree with the others who say she is seeking approval......good people will do good gestures just because....they don't need to broadcast what they do.....one of my plates washed my truck one time....she never even told me....I noticed it because it was sparkling clean....she wasn't doing it just to seek approval
It's kind of like how you can determine the non attention wh0ring celebrities from the attention wh0res.....the attention wh0res broadcast they are donating a million dollars to a charity......the others do it privately behind the scenes not looking for attention
Sometimes the only reason people do things is for the attention....they want to be noticed.....otherwise they wouldn't even do it.....so that wouldn't define a high quality person
A high quality woman should be viewed overall as the actual woman who she is....not just for one act or gesture.....even low quality women can do a decent act from time to time
Later on that night she could get mad at you and b!tch you out for no reason......her act of cleaning was quality....not her as an overall quality person
I'm not saying that she is a low quality woman......but you can't claim high quality if her day by day actions shows something different
This was really the first positive experience that you posted about her.....the other two were not......just thought I would provide those other two experiences so you don't confuse a nice gesture for an overall high quality woman
TheException said:
Ill wrap this up with a real life example. My girlfriend and I were meeting some of her friends at one of their houses. The area in which she lived was retarded and the parking was atrocious. It was street parking in a heavily populated and commercial area. So my girlfriend wanted me to park at this open spot....right in front of a fire hydrant. I had no plans on receiving a fine or having my car towed so my search for a parking spot went on. She grew very p1ssed and annoyed because we were now late for the dinner party. She was irritated and blurted out "that we would have parked by now, and that I dont listen to her". I find a spot and we begin walking to the house which is a few blocks away and she is extremely b1tchy at this point saying annoying things like "oh great now we are like 10 blocks away" and general bratty things like this. Most guys have a tendency to want to tell her to shut the fvck up and yell. Me? I didnt say a fvckin word the WHOLE WALK. I let her run that bratty mouth. Once at the party I said hi to everyone and engaged in conversation and practically ignored her the entire time. It wasnt a hateful thing...or a "im mad at you so im going to ignore you" thing. I just had very little interest in dealing with her in that state....thats honest. Fastforward to the walk back to the car....and she states "im sorry I was being rude earlier...I just didnt want to be late". I respond with a very sincere "no big deal."
TheException said:
Heres a real life example:
Girlfriend was upset with her results from a test
Me: Its all good. Youll be fine.
Gf: Ya I guess.
I go over her test and start to ask questions in an attempt to help her find where she messed up
Me: You know you can always ask me for help.
Gf: Well you didnt say that! How am I supposed to know to ask you
Me: Im just saying, I can help is all.
Gf: Goes on some b1tchy rant and starts making me the bad guy
Me: Are you fvcking serious? Im here trying to help you and you're acting like a huge brat (said with a raised voice and stern look, looking directly into her eyes)
Gf: *Turns head away, stares straight, and begins to cry. Eventually apologizes after a couple minutes of crying on my shoulder*
A nice gesture is always good.....but is it worth it to put up with b!tchy behavior the rest of the time?.....that doesn't define 'high quality' just for one gesture when her normal behavior is not high quality
TheException said:
The way I see it.....a little clingyness in a girl is good. It shows she sees you as the dominant person in the relationship and that she "cares more". There is definitely a thing as "too clingy" though and it will completely mess up the balance of the relationship. As is.....although she has high interest in me, shes not OVERLY CLINGY
Clinginess is never a positive attribute in a woman.....it is a negative attribute that DJ's stay away from
Clinginess shows insecurity....insecure women will ruin a relationship and will eventually cheat on you
Clingy women should be easily spotted as soon as you start talking to them
You should never enter a relationship with a clingy woman....clingy women take up all your time....they are insecure and will become jealous....you will always have to reassure them how great they are.....and when you do tell them they don't really believe you....until the next time you reassure her again....they are always trying to please you because they feel that they are no good.....if you don't praise them enough they will get mad at you....they expect you to be mind readers to fix their problems....if they do something wrong and you do try to help them, they will take it out on you because they think you disapprove of them and they think of themselves as failures already...just like she ranted when you tried to help her with her test
Actually, clingy/insecure women is the dominant person in the relationship....you are always too busy tending to her needs while she is always the focus of attention....you are doing all the praising, thanking, reassuring that she seeks from you....if you try to take charge and put yourself ahead, she will get mad at you because her ego needs constant stroking from you....so you apologize and put her back at the forefront......like when she gets mad at you.....and you apologize...and tell her "no big deal".....she is the dominant person in the relationship because she controls your actions and emotions with her clinginess and insecurities.....she b!tched you out before the party and she controlled how you acted the rest of the night....she is the dominant force in this relationship
When she doesn't feel like she is the center of attention....she will look for other men to give her that attention she craves....then she will cheat on you....and then dump you.....always avoid these women at all cost because they are a pain in the ass!!
it's not that she cares more...it's that she doesn't feel good about herself.....so she does these things in order to seek your attention and approval all the time....simple tasks turn into giant AW'ing episodes
Insecure/clingy women latch on to betas/AFC's because they are easy to boss around....the chicks know those men are dumb enough to put up with their sh!tty behavior.....they are easy to dump later on and to cheat on as well