I don't know why so many people seem to be against online dating. I've had a lot of success with it so I recommend it and still do it myself.
I'm just the opposite of what was said though, after getting the experience from online dating, I came to realize that the same people online were the same people you see every day. The same girls who are waiting for guys like us to approach them.
Point is, online dating can be a great way to meet new people and it's definitely something that will give you the confidence you need for real world approaches.
Since I met around 20 girls from the internet last year (from online to in person) I have no complaints against it.
The main thing you should do is work on getting the girl from online to the real world ASAP - forget about the online "chat buddies" BS, you'll wind up in the friend zone before you even meet her since she gets plenty of time to get bored of you talking online. (Where you can' apply kino and be physical at the same time as the getting to know.)
I agree with the edge that this does sound kind of desperate and that's dangerous because if you do meet a girl and she expresses a little interest in you, with that kind of attitude you seem like you'd jump all over her and probably end up pushing her away instead. (Thus, one-itis.)
So if you do meet a girl stay true to everything you've learned and don't jump in so fast or you'll probably end up getting hurt.
Some free online dating services:
www.matchdoctor.com
www.love.org
www.datingclub.com
www.blinddatetv.com
The male to female ratio is about 2999932532509280953280598 go 1 so a good personal and picture help.
All the emails sent? Just out of curosity, how many was that? It took me emailing 500 girls (cut&paste of course, impressive email) and out of those 500 about 100 replied. Out of the 100 I ended up meeting 20 of them in person. (Last year.) I joined yahoo personals, which if you want to try online dating you should probably sign up for a month of service from something like match.com or yahoo personals. On the free sites most women there get so many emails they dont have time to even read half of them. Luckily my profile stood out a lot so they still replied.
If you get one month access (yahoo gave me 2 months free) be sure to email EVERY girl in your area, it doesn't matter.. it's just practice and you're getting your money's worth. Is it worth $20? For me definitely.
Even if the girls dont have pictures email them anyway. Cut & paste like there's no tommorow.
Come the next day you'll have a ton of emails to sort through and can decide which ones you want to meet.
For a personal as crazy as it sounds, AFCness tends to work. (Before you judge it, try it!)
In real life be a challenge and follow the DJ "rules" but online, you can change things so you stand out.
If I posted my personal ad here (which by the way, I've had over 30 women email me first and about 50 put me on "interest") the way it LOOKS to a guy is "AFC".
But in a woman's eyes (online) it's exactly what she wants to HEAR. Do the same kind of stuff in person and you'll probably get LJBF'd but online you're looking to win her trust, and for her to see you as a good guy she'd like to get to know better - in the real world - which is exactly where you want to get her so you can start the kino immediately.
Just as examples words like "honest" "romantic" and "affectionate" get a LOT of attention. Trust me on that, when a woman sees something like "True romantic looking for an honest relationship" or something similiar, it stands out amongst the rest. Again anyone doubting this just simply TRY IT! I'm not just making this up since I've experimented with online dating for over a year now and have a pretty good feel for what works and what doesn't. And describing yourself as an honest, romantic, affectionate guy will work wonders.
On the actual personal page you always describe feelings for her - using words like "you" so it's like you're talking directly to her.
"Destiny" and "meant to be" are popular as well since a lot of women believe it was "meant to be".
Whether it's true or not or even if you're just looking for a ONS, that's the kind of online talk that stands out.
Once you get a basic trust established online (where she feels comfortable meeting you - shoudn't be more than a week, if it is, then you let her know you're life goes on, either meet in the real world or say good bye - most will choose to meet once they see you're willing to walk away) you can joke around about the first date, when you're setting it up for the first time you can say things like "So did you want to get a hotel? (Or would a motel be cheaper)?" online at least, you aren't in LJBF land. In person anything is possible, maybe she liked your picture but in person there's no chemistry. Maybe she weighs 400 pounds more than she said she did. Who cares? It's just practice and it's fun. The whole point of online dating is to have fun, and to practice for the REAL WORLD, which is where the same women are who you are meeting online. (Once you see this and see that most women will say they like to be approached by guys in the right way - and learn not to take rejection personally - it'll be a lot easier to start approaching and start looking in the real world instead of online, or you can do both. I find both ways to be effective.)
Aside from online dating try starting interactions with fat and ugly women. You know you could tell a fat girl (who has probably never been approached by a guy in her entire life) "you look beautiful" and she'll be in love with you.
I've had a few incidents like that telling fat women they look so beautiful lol it's funny as hell how at first they roll their eyes but then they start blushing and are like "Really? do you mean that or are you just saying that?" Who cares what they think though? It's what YOU think and viewing every interaction, every date, every new girl you meet as PRACTICE for the real girl that will eventually come (after you've shedded all AFCness and are ready to be a challenge to her) you'll be having a ton of fun and not be saying you haven't met any new women lately.
As a last word I'd seriously rethink that attitude a little.. I know what it's like to go a long time without meeting anyone (then again if that happens to me, it's my fault, women dont come to us, it's our job to go to them) but keep your emotions away for the first few women you do meet. If you dont and you're worried about finding a girlfriend and the first girl that comes along likes you, being needy or acting like she's the first woman you've ever been with will definitely turn her off even though it seems like it should be the other way around. And if that happens, another poor guy suffering from one-itis because he treated the girl way too good and gave her too much time to get bored of him and lose interest.
Good luck and have fun with online dating .. if you're mind is set on having fun and not caring what women think, that's what you'll be like in person and in the way you present yourself. Everything is in the mind.
