This is what David Deangelo says on personals, and I think hes got it:
Let's talk about how to deal with women when
meeting them via the personals.
First of all, imagine what it's like to be a
woman who's running a personal ad.
1) She'll get dozens of responses a day, in most
cases.
2) Most of the responses are from desperate loser
guys who make it very clear that they are not at all
attractive.
3) Within a few days all of the guys seem to blur
together into one big mass of exactly what she
isn't looking for.
So let's play this out.
You're a woman who's tired of playing the dating
game, meeting guys at bars, or whatever... and you
think "Hey, maybe I should place a personal ad and
see if I can meet a nice guy." So you get online and
see an ad for a free trial at a personal ad site,
and you go for it.
The first day of your ad, you get 35 responses.
You're thinking "Wow, this is cool. I'm going to be
able to choose between all these guys... there HAS
to be a few good ones in here..." so you go to work
reading through them.
The first one says "I'm a DWM, 45, two kids,
looking for a SWF for a LTR...."
You're so bored that you delete it thinking to
yourself "I hope they're not all that boring."
Second one says "Hi, you're really hot. If you'd
like to get together for some "no strings attached"
physical fun, get back to me. I'm very into giving
pleasure..."
DELETE.
And on and on... and the next day there are 35
more full of the same stuff...
If you think that I'm exaggerating, just ask a
few women who have run personals. This is real world.
With that said, if you're going to work with
the personals, you need to do a few things to:
1) Get her attention and stand out.
2) Come across as something OTHER than a loser.
3) Get her to answer you, then get her on the
phone ASAP, before she tunes out from all the
responses.
To answer your first question, YES you should
be ****y and funny with personals! As a matter of
fact, you need to turn up the volume for this special
occasion...
Here's an example of something I might say:
"Well, you sound like you might be more than just
another pretty face. Something tells me that you're
probably getting about 50 emails a day from loser guys
saying things like "Hi, I'm freshly divorced from my
seventh wife, have 5 delinquent kids... but the good
news is that I have a good chance at finally getting
a job..." etc.
In any event, I'm 35, have my life together, and I'm
more than the usual amount of interesting and funny, so
you'd better like to laugh.
You sound like you might make an interesting friend,
so let's get together for a cup of something
delicious and some interesting conversation... if
you think you can handle it, that is!"
I can see it now... you're probably already going
out and signing up for ten online personal sites and
you're thinking "Hey, cool... I'll just cut and paste
what David D. wrote here and the chicks will bangin'
my door down."
Well, in fact that might happen. And I'd recommend
that you test this one out...
But here are a few more tips for you, based on a
LOT of experience:
1) If you're going to use the personals, you have to
STAY ON TOP OF THEM. You want to be one of the first
10 people to email a woman! Not number 293. Yes, this
means paying attention.
2) You need to do something to make it personal. Use
your ****y and funny skills to talk about something
she said in her ad. If she's into dogs, say "Hey,
let's go down to the pet store and see if we can't
get your pooch one of those extra-fancy chew toys
that are like Krispy Kremes for dogs." Use your
imagination, and stay ****y and funny.
3) Get her on the phone as soon as you possibly can.
Remember, even though she sounds like she likes you
in the first email or two, she's STILL GETTING 40
MORE GUYS SENDING HER RESPONSES EVERY DAY. If you
don't get her on the phone fast, you'll just fade
into the pool of losers in her mind.
Here's a little secrets: Personals are one of the
BEST places to learn and practice how to be ****y and
funny, because you can THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO
SAY! It's like a real world simulator. I love it.
