corruptrelic
Senior Don Juan
I agree with Apocalypse since I've had a lot of success with online dating as well.
Of course people lie that happens anywhere you go anyway.
The only problem I've met with online dating is weight, a lot of women lie about it. (They might say "145" but end up being 180.)
The Edge isn't building up your confidence the way to win the dating game? By any means necessary?
Its not a matter of just ONE woman, its a matter of every woman you meet.
For example if you are a shy guy and havent had much success (or havent even tried) approaching women before, by some miracle are you going to get lucky? Without confidence of course not. Following the "hi" program of course helps but you shoudn't be afraid to use any means available to you to get confidence. So you meet girl 1, you are shy when you meet. You talk to her with no expecations (meaning you really dont care what the outcome is, "rejection" is just a word) she sees your shy and says she just wants to be friends.. if shes fat or unattractive, take her up on the offer.. but if shes fine and you like her, better to let her go than stick around with someone who you dont have a chance with. (Thats not a good situation hanging out with a girl who you want to be with and she doesnt feel the same way.)
After you meet her, you realize this is just an every day girl, why cant you do this in person instead?
After a few girls you slowly begin to build confidence and arent so worried about meeting girls anymore, you stopped caring about the outcome and you feel good meeting new people, if you meet a fat girl shes going to give you an ego boost since you're pretty much the first time in her life.. "You're so hot!" Even from a fat girl that's the kind of fuel you need for more attractive women. If a girl doesn't like you, her loss.. you have plenty more in line.
The point of that is that was me, over a year ago. I met almost 20 girls (lost count) last year, I also signed up with match.com - but I went with the numbers.
I emailed EVERY girl in south florida. Even the ones without pictures. Some of them lied sure, but thats why you set the date ASAP. You dont stick around as chat buddies and "just talk" and wind up being friends without meeting first.
I had a good profile, had 3 pictures up, and out of the 500 or so women I emailed, about 100 of them replied. Out of that 100, I met about 20 in the real world. Some turned out to be fat (who cares, its just practice!) and I never spent more than $3.00 on any of these dates.
So why didnt I get a girlfriend out of all of this? Well.. lol I got something even worse, one-ites. Since I never found this site before I really figured I was just meeting and not getting any emotions involved, until I met someone who I really clicked with.
Thats for another story but because of her, the women I met before and after her I just coudn't give chances to because I only wanted her.
More to the point of all of this is, now, over a year later, I dont feel uncomfortable at all approaching a woman who I've never seen before. Sure sometimes the old shyness kicks in usually when its a 9+ but I dont let that stop me. Its just walking up and saying "Hi" and seeing where it goes from there. I'm back to meeting girls online, in person, and from mutual friends. That's 3 ways and I dont stick to just one of them. But I know for a fact that if I hadn't tired online dating, then I'd still be living in a cave. Its online dating that opens the door to the real world, but you have to be careful and keep emotions out of it. Like Apo said dont think a girl is "the one" just from emailing her. Dont think that ever actually.. let her be the one to think that.
Ownerofalonelyheart (it might be good for your self esteem if you change your handle , no offense meant but if you keep thinking something long enough, even if it isnt true, you create this false image in your mind that it's true. everything is in your mind, so why not change your handle to "happyheart" lol sounds stupid but hey.. if I went around posting everywhere with lonelyheart, I really might start to believe in and then feel depressed - just a suggestion) about the girls you meet online dont "just talk" send a few emails that are ****y & funny and be romantic (in a fun way) with them. Get them to WANT to meet you. If a girl doesnt want to meet you, then tell her she's wasting your time and you're going to go meet someone else. She'll either accept that or if you caught her attention online, she'll change her mind and meet you.
The last girl (about 2 weeks ago) who said it was "too soon" to meet I asked her if she believed in fate, if certain things were meant to be. Considering almost all women believe in fate she said yes, blah blah.. (done over the course of about 3 emails - no instant messages I keep away from them) always talking to her in the "you" terms.
I was curious if you believe in things like fate, that certain things are just meant to be. You know, where you meet meet a guy for the first time and everything feels right?
Talking like that is MUCH better in person since you cant be using kino on her as well, but if its to get her to meet you, you have to make her want to meet.
When the girl said she believed in fate I replied by saying I gave it my best shot to meet her but I guess this just wasn't meant to be because if it was, she would want to meet. But no worries I'm talking to a few other women, we can still be online buddies and we were never meant to be anything more than friends.
She changed her mind in the next email and said she didnt want to be just friends but she understood what I meant, but she hoped I would still meet her maybe this week and hoped it wasn't too late.
Since I'm broke I coudn't meet her (ran out of money for even gas! I went without work for almost 2 months) and so I haven't replied to that email yet, she sent another one asking for anohter chance but as you can see, its giving her plenty of time to think and miss me, even though we haven't met..
So owner like apoc said stick with the numbers, you cant email one girl and wonder if she might reply or not.. thats putting all your hope into one woman.
Since you paid $25 for a month of access, why not get your moneys worth? Email EVERY girl in your local area. Who cares if they dont look good? Practice.. dont tell them that but however you look at it, women who dont look good aren't used to having a guy being interested in them. You could tell a fat girl shes beautiful in person and she'll fall in love with you just because you're the only guy in her life who said that. I had a fat girl (250 pounds!) fall for me because of that, but I used her (among others) as practice.. and when you feel confident (however you get it) you look it as well, and people see that in you.
Good luck and there really is NOTHING wrong with online dating! Just set the date ASAP so you dont end up being online chat buddies.
Of course people lie that happens anywhere you go anyway.
The only problem I've met with online dating is weight, a lot of women lie about it. (They might say "145" but end up being 180.)
The Edge isn't building up your confidence the way to win the dating game? By any means necessary?
Its not a matter of just ONE woman, its a matter of every woman you meet.
For example if you are a shy guy and havent had much success (or havent even tried) approaching women before, by some miracle are you going to get lucky? Without confidence of course not. Following the "hi" program of course helps but you shoudn't be afraid to use any means available to you to get confidence. So you meet girl 1, you are shy when you meet. You talk to her with no expecations (meaning you really dont care what the outcome is, "rejection" is just a word) she sees your shy and says she just wants to be friends.. if shes fat or unattractive, take her up on the offer.. but if shes fine and you like her, better to let her go than stick around with someone who you dont have a chance with. (Thats not a good situation hanging out with a girl who you want to be with and she doesnt feel the same way.)
After you meet her, you realize this is just an every day girl, why cant you do this in person instead?
After a few girls you slowly begin to build confidence and arent so worried about meeting girls anymore, you stopped caring about the outcome and you feel good meeting new people, if you meet a fat girl shes going to give you an ego boost since you're pretty much the first time in her life.. "You're so hot!" Even from a fat girl that's the kind of fuel you need for more attractive women. If a girl doesn't like you, her loss.. you have plenty more in line.
The point of that is that was me, over a year ago. I met almost 20 girls (lost count) last year, I also signed up with match.com - but I went with the numbers.
I emailed EVERY girl in south florida. Even the ones without pictures. Some of them lied sure, but thats why you set the date ASAP. You dont stick around as chat buddies and "just talk" and wind up being friends without meeting first.
I had a good profile, had 3 pictures up, and out of the 500 or so women I emailed, about 100 of them replied. Out of that 100, I met about 20 in the real world. Some turned out to be fat (who cares, its just practice!) and I never spent more than $3.00 on any of these dates.
So why didnt I get a girlfriend out of all of this? Well.. lol I got something even worse, one-ites. Since I never found this site before I really figured I was just meeting and not getting any emotions involved, until I met someone who I really clicked with.
Thats for another story but because of her, the women I met before and after her I just coudn't give chances to because I only wanted her.
More to the point of all of this is, now, over a year later, I dont feel uncomfortable at all approaching a woman who I've never seen before. Sure sometimes the old shyness kicks in usually when its a 9+ but I dont let that stop me. Its just walking up and saying "Hi" and seeing where it goes from there. I'm back to meeting girls online, in person, and from mutual friends. That's 3 ways and I dont stick to just one of them. But I know for a fact that if I hadn't tired online dating, then I'd still be living in a cave. Its online dating that opens the door to the real world, but you have to be careful and keep emotions out of it. Like Apo said dont think a girl is "the one" just from emailing her. Dont think that ever actually.. let her be the one to think that.
Ownerofalonelyheart (it might be good for your self esteem if you change your handle , no offense meant but if you keep thinking something long enough, even if it isnt true, you create this false image in your mind that it's true. everything is in your mind, so why not change your handle to "happyheart" lol sounds stupid but hey.. if I went around posting everywhere with lonelyheart, I really might start to believe in and then feel depressed - just a suggestion) about the girls you meet online dont "just talk" send a few emails that are ****y & funny and be romantic (in a fun way) with them. Get them to WANT to meet you. If a girl doesnt want to meet you, then tell her she's wasting your time and you're going to go meet someone else. She'll either accept that or if you caught her attention online, she'll change her mind and meet you.
The last girl (about 2 weeks ago) who said it was "too soon" to meet I asked her if she believed in fate, if certain things were meant to be. Considering almost all women believe in fate she said yes, blah blah.. (done over the course of about 3 emails - no instant messages I keep away from them) always talking to her in the "you" terms.
I was curious if you believe in things like fate, that certain things are just meant to be. You know, where you meet meet a guy for the first time and everything feels right?
Talking like that is MUCH better in person since you cant be using kino on her as well, but if its to get her to meet you, you have to make her want to meet.
When the girl said she believed in fate I replied by saying I gave it my best shot to meet her but I guess this just wasn't meant to be because if it was, she would want to meet. But no worries I'm talking to a few other women, we can still be online buddies and we were never meant to be anything more than friends.
She changed her mind in the next email and said she didnt want to be just friends but she understood what I meant, but she hoped I would still meet her maybe this week and hoped it wasn't too late.
Since I'm broke I coudn't meet her (ran out of money for even gas! I went without work for almost 2 months) and so I haven't replied to that email yet, she sent another one asking for anohter chance but as you can see, its giving her plenty of time to think and miss me, even though we haven't met..
So owner like apoc said stick with the numbers, you cant email one girl and wonder if she might reply or not.. thats putting all your hope into one woman.
Since you paid $25 for a month of access, why not get your moneys worth? Email EVERY girl in your local area. Who cares if they dont look good? Practice.. dont tell them that but however you look at it, women who dont look good aren't used to having a guy being interested in them. You could tell a fat girl shes beautiful in person and she'll fall in love with you just because you're the only guy in her life who said that. I had a fat girl (250 pounds!) fall for me because of that, but I used her (among others) as practice.. and when you feel confident (however you get it) you look it as well, and people see that in you.
Good luck and there really is NOTHING wrong with online dating! Just set the date ASAP so you dont end up being online chat buddies.
