BananaSmile
Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 8, 2009
- Messages
- 129
- Reaction score
- 1
Its ok i think to let him have this one
Just take turns in picking like wingmen.
Just take turns in picking like wingmen.
Lol its not somethin big to worry about regarding the vocabulary. I guess thats just how teens talk these days...obviously when ur older tho and in a business environment its important to clean up ur vocabulary (my dad always says how everyone at work looks down on ppl that curse alot).BongDuy said:12.21.09
So I actually didn't really do anything interesting here. Infact I wasn't going to post anything, but Lately I've been seeing this thread as a Self improvement or just a general Journal where I place my thoughts on things, and it just happens a lot of it revolves around women lol.
Today I did my cardio, which im picking up because ever since swim season ended, I've been gaining some fat. Just 20 minutes + jogging or walking to keep my heart rate around 100-170.
Vocabulary
So I noticed that When I talk, I sometimes say certain things that probably aren't the best. Like I tend to say " Yo " Often. For example:
"hey yo, whats the deal with that girl over there, yo?" * I know ridiculous *
I also Tend to replace words with "Sh1t" like " hey, when are you going to let me copy that sh1t". It's not a big deal, but It's not the most classy way to talk, plus i kind of do it excessively so im going to try and improve on that.
haha thanks, I feel the same way =)Ice882 said:It seems like this has run its course. Great job on all your improvement, Duy.
BongDuy said:12.23.09
So i wake up really early, around 8 for whatever reason. I figure I'd send Jackie a text message around 11:00 ish to tell her to meet me at the mall around 12, because I wasn't sure when she would be awake.
It was 10:40 ish, im just surfing the net and still waking up. All of a sudden I get a text message from Jackie, that read " No candy store today?"
me: haha im going around 12. You should come
her: with who?
me: just me
her: why not 1130?
me: why 1130?
her: nvm 12 is good lol
me: alright cool.
She texts me while im out doing my cardio saying that she can't get a ride, so i tell her im going to pick her up. I pick her up around 12:20 PM whatever, and we drive off to the mall. Theres no awkwardness, as we immediately begin to talk. When we get to the mall we walk around and talk some more. That's basically all we did. There were a few factors that Came into play, I ran into some friends here and there, and i'm not sure if they knew Jackie, but Maybe I should of introduced Jackie to them, instead of greeting and hugging them while Jackie Just stood there. Jackie Ran into an old friend of hers ( Im guessing not very close ) and she didn't introduce me to him, but maybe its because they are just aquatints.
tease
So for whatever reason, im scared of getting rejectedahh come on man, ive explained this to you a few times. Like i said before, you cant be afraid of rejection, you have to be willing to accept it cuz it does and will happen. And like i always say, "regret is much worse than rejection" so i don't hold her hand until near the end of the whole mall scene. We walk around and look for stuff for our family and whatnot and we just talk. Maybe I teased her a bit too much, jokingly teasing her for being short and mexican.ehh id be very careful about this...girls can be very sensitive about their height or ethnicity. kinda like teasin a girl about her wait; you just dont do that at all cuz no girls like to joke about their weight. but she doesn't SEEM to take offense, but she teasded me too. the conversation wasn't too bad in my opinion, there was always something to say. She would take effort in the convo, which was good and we lasted.
Her parents.
Okay So I handled this situation pretty awkwardly. She gets a phone call and says its from her mom. I say something along the lines of " oh great, let's meet them another day." as we walk around. because I have no clue what they look like, we eventually bump into them. It's just her mom and her sisters. I walk around and pretend that i don't know jackiehaha, like an idiot, and I eventually end up saying " Hi. " after we leave, I ask her " So what did your mom say?" Jackie Replies " She said " When is he going to come over and say hi?" and I told her that He was just shy".
Yeah def not the smoothest thing. Me and Jackie walk around more, while Jackie's mom goes wherever.
kino
So there was kino here and there, Sometimes my hands would be on her shoulder as i playfully walk her forward so she would keep moving instead of eye fvcking some shirts. When I would see a store that I wanted to go to, I would hook arms ( Yeah I should of grabbed her hand, but I do that later)ya id def grab her hand instead of put my arm around her shoulder/waist and pull her towards the store and it stays hooked for only a second or two before I break the kino. There was one point where we were in this Girly store, So after a minute or two of that, I say " Let's gooo" as I hook two fingers against her hand and begin walking, but she is just really into that shirt. She ends up only buying boots for her cousin, and that's it. I buy nothing.
While we are walking through Macy's I accidently brush my arm against her but and she says " Jeez, Duy thats like the hundreth time you touched my ass today!" and I respond" okay honestly, that was like the first." and she goes " nuh uh, that was atleast the 2nd"hahah i wouldve teased her sayin "ohh you know you like itt" or sumtin im not sure what happen after that but we walk more. I think i burned atleast 200 calories walking all over the mall, im exhausted.
I eventually sum enough balls to hold her handthink of how that sounds. you have to sum enough balls just to hold a girls hand?! That sounds pretty pathetic to me ( I know im just as surprised, it just seemed that when we were in the mall, her interest levels were low or something, so it just made me a bit nervous)When your hangin out with a girl, try to avoid thoughts like "ohh i wonder if shes interested" "oh i wonder if she likes me", stuff like that. Dont think about her interest level in you. Instead, you have to try convincing yourself (or at least telling yourself), that shes definitely into you. "I KNOW this chick wants me". I say that all the time. And it helps alot because your game is gonna be much better on a girl who you know is interested rather than one you dont think is interested We are walking out of a store, and shes lagging behind a bit. I say " Keep up, you're so slow" and I grab her hand. She pulls away, and says " No, I can keep up just fine by myself"
Cueing my exit, because shortly afterwards I say " I should be heading home now." Im guess is either two things.
1) She isnt interested i think your overanalyzing a bit here. Just because she pulled away doesnt mean shes not interested. Instead, you should stop rushing so much, and walk close next to her rather than have to sort of drag her along with you
2) She's interested, but doesn't want her mom to see her holding her hand,was her mom still with you guys? like right behind you two? A LOT of girls feel very weird about touching guys in front of their parents.
We walked side by side, very close. I Guess I would of grabbed her hand sooner if she didn't have her phone in one hand and her bag ( With the shoes she bought) in the other. That played a bit of a factor.eaglez1177 said:Instead, you should stop rushing so much, and walk close next to her rather than have to sort of drag her along with you
No, but she could of been anywhere, We didn't know where to be exact. She was walking around with her other sisters.eaglez1177 said:was her mom still with you guys? like right behind you two? A LOT of girls feel very weird about touching guys in front of their parents.
yeah you're probably right, I probably should of tried to talk about other stuff more, but Im just gunna work on this.eaglez1177 said:ehh id be very careful about this...girls can be very sensitive about their height or ethnicity. kinda like teasin a girl about her wait; you just dont do that at all cuz no girls like to joke about their weight.
BongDuy said:12.27.09
Last night
So Last night, I had the worst feeling ever. I read this thing on facebook called 102 things girls wished Guys knew, and it had some AFC things on there, but there were some "Romantic" stuff I read and that just set me off the edge. It reminded me of the Ex girlfriend, and for some reason, it struck me hard last night. I remember trying to sleep around 11:30, and I was rolling around with my eyes closed for what seemed like forever. When I looked at my phone, it was 1:30 AM and I just kept playing these scenarios in my head. Just Dates with the ex, and how I could of did things differently. I felt like I had the strongest feeling of one itus, but it didn't make me cry or anything. I just felt awful about the whole thing. I ended up on the computer, just listening to music and thinking.
I remembered reading something on sleep aid, that when your mind is full of thoughts, like overwhelming thoughts, it helps to write down whatever it is thats on your mind, and that's what I did. I did this for 30 minutes, and wrote everything that was on my mind, no holding back. It ended up being all about the Ex, and while im not going to go into detail, it ended up helping out a lot, because when I shut off my computer and fell back into bed, the next thing i knew i was in LaLa land, flying.You guys only went out for what? Two weeks? You gotta get over it man.
The mall
I got a call from kristina ( brute ) around 12:30, telling me to meet her and Edith (Mexican,braces, "Cali") at the mall around 2:00 pm. Well I started doing my Cardio around 1:30, and I ended up showering, and eating, so I got to the mall around 2:50pm, luckily for me, they were late too and came around 2:30. I met up with Edith first, and we walked around looking for other friends. I think im getting better with the small talk, because I never ran out of things to say, which was WONDERFUL, and not awkward at all. We joked around a bit, and we end up talking about me being 18, and her being 15, AKA Jailbait. She says to me " I bet you feel like a pedo walking around with me.", and i reply " Me? I look like im 13 haha" and we both laugh. She ends up kinoing me by poking at me, and bumping into me while we walk, and yeah Edith is cute, but she is too young. She gives me some IOI's from time to time, like following me instead of our other friends ( I'll mention this later)
we ended up finding three other friends, who were all guys. 1 of them was a good friend of mine,edith's and Kristina's. We will call him Karl. while the other two random guys were just there for our good friend. The two strangers were sophmores and immature as hell, like this kid had a shirt saying " I eat pvssy like A fat kid eats cake" for god's sakes. Who wears that crap?Lol wtf who wears a shirt like that??
It ends up being just basically being me and Edith, with Kristina sometimes being there, as we walked around. Karl ended up hanging out with the two immature guys, and we just roam around looking at stuff, since everything is on sale. I end up buying a pair of white Converses, old school baby . We end up entering JCPennys and we meet up with Kristina's Uncle, who is a pretty short guy. They start talking and I end up meeting them, and they all play paintball. Kristina ends up inviting me wensday to go paintballing with her, and I agree, even though it costs a lot (45$)haha.
The park
We end up leaving the mall together, and im not sure what we are doing. It's pretty chilly outside, around 78it was 29 today where I am, but i mention a pool, and at first they seem pretty into it. When we start walking to my car, they end up changing their mind, and I think of going to a park near my house, which just re-opened. We stayed there and it was pretty fun, although I can't imagine bringing a date to the park. It's much funner when there are more people, maybe a group date or something. We jump on the swings and laugh a bit, and I get some kino on Kristina when I spin her on those little chairs. nothing too serious here, she doesn't respond positively ( giving me kino ), or negatively ( slapping me in the face ). Just neutral
Anyways, They get a call from Karl ( Who we ditched, because he kept hanging out with those two immature friends of his) and Kristina says " I feel bad for Karl. I mean we invited him, so let's go back to the mall. you comming duy?" I tell them I won't go back to the mall, but i'll drop them off to meet karl, which is what I did. When they exited my car, they said " So you're not comming? aww we're gunna miss you." and I just drove off. I didn't want to be anywhere near that mall for more than 30 minutes, because I had been there so many times this week.You drove them all the way back to the mall just so they could ditch you and see Karl? Thats pretty sad.
In conclusion
-Edith. She's jailbait, but she keeps giving me minor IOI's, like she would say " I don't look 15, relax!" and she would kino me again and againshe really wishes she was older so she could be all over you. Maybe she is just flirtythis chick wants you, its pretty obvious. On our way to the park, we actually end up talking more about the jailbait thing and she says " Do you think i would be the type of girl to snitch or something?" and I jokefully reply " yeah when I don't buy you those diamond earings you want " and we all laugh.
-Kristina. She seems cold. It's like she isn't interested in any guy, because I've never heard her say " oh he's pretty hot." or anything. I would only get with Kristina over edith because Kristina is actually the Legal age lol she doesn't seem too interested in me though, but I can't say for sure. I ended up not spending too much time with her at the mall because she was with her uncle and her aunt bought her some stuff for christmas. I ended up spending more time with Edith, which kind of defeated the whole purpose of going to the mall, which was to see if Kristina liked me or not. Maybe another time.me.
lol. you florida people. i was nearto the hudson river yesterday and it was about 20 degrees. Felt like 10 cuz it was so fvcking windy. I couldnt breath sometimes. man up duy. lol.BongDuy said:12.27.09
It's pretty chilly outside, around 78,