Originally posted by Plain & Simple
yeh i told my coworker at work, he is 59 yrs old and im only 20, he told me " Thats just a blessing from the sky" I asked him what he ment by that he said, that she breaking up with me is a gift that god gave me.
I love this site though, by each post i keep getting better and better.
I got one question though, its like every now and then i keep thinking about her, like for 2 hrs ill be good then for an hour I think and feel sad then again i feel good...etc... its like that back and forth back and forth. Only if I could get over this mood changes...., i know staying active helps and ive tried to stay as active as possible, but there is only so many things that i can do, even sometimes while im doing something and keeping myself busy, she comes in my mind, thinking "dang right now we would be having sex, or on the phone or etc..."
Well, in my honest opinion, the only thing that will get her TOTALLY off your mind, besides for TIME, is getting involved with other women, go on dates with new women, meet new women etc... Maybe even fall in love with a new girl? ... I was in love with a girl a few months ago, then some sh!t went down with her being an AW (attention wh0re) & all, so that kinda made me have to move on... and yes, I loved her, I would do anything for this girl, and even after a few months i STILL wasn’t over her, there were times that I just started crying in the shower while thinking of her, or when listening to a song she use to like... but then I just pulled myself together, started seeing other women, and like magic, I was able to get over the feelings that I had for her.
Right now, me and her are friends again, no attached feelings or anything, I am seeing other women, and she is seeing other guys, but the thing that got us to the point of getting over one another is being with other people. I see her as a sister now, rather than the girl I love, because we get along so well etc, just that certain things like her lack of maturity for a relationship, and her being an AW prevent us from being together as bf & gf, but that’s kewl with me, there are MANY MAAAANY other women out there to choose from and experience with.
You are only 20 years old, you can still afford to mess around and have your fun with women, my new outlook on a relationship is that unless ur planning on it leading to marriage, don’t get into a relationship, because it WILL lead to heartbreak.. if u like a chick, and she likes u, but ur not thinking marriage, then do whatever u want to with her, but don’t attach any feelings, UNLESS ur at the stage of ur lives that u are thinking of marriage... but that’s just my personal outlook
.. People might say that the experience of loving etc is worth it, well, I use to say the same thing, but I think that after u get burnt once and u HAVE the experience of being in a relationship, try keep away from then until a stage where u are BOTH serious about it, and both have the intentions of it leading to staying with one another till death do u part
anyways... all in all... go out there, meet women, have fun with them, and live it up man, u only live once, don’t waste ur time being sad about ONE girl, there are plenty more out there waiting for u to sweep them off their feet
Laterz...
