Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I basically told her off hoping to at least get a truthful answer about what turned her off about me when we met
It would be nice if it worked that way, but it doesn't. You can't be too hard on the girl for not explaining her feelings, because even she does not understand her own feelings. She feels how she feels; it is what it is. A woman's emotions are like the weather - changing, unpredictable, and maybe partially explainable, but it is a waste of time trying to understand them, or apply reason and logic. Once again, it would be great if the girl would just rattle off a tangible trait that you could change - your breath stinks, or you have eye boogers, whatever, but the girl probably doesn't even know exactly what she did not like about you, and even if she did, she's not going to tell you. She's only going to try to give you the answer that she thinks hurts your feelings the least - thus, the cliche'd 'it's not you it's me' line. Asking a girl what she didn't like about you is a waste of time; women will always choose the polite way out over brutal honesty.
Sometimes people just don't click; it's no big deal. There are plenty of other girls. And I agree with Izza, relax more and try to have fun.
It would be nice if it worked that way, but it doesn't. You can't be too hard on the girl for not explaining her feelings, because even she does not understand her own feelings. She feels how she feels; it is what it is. A woman's emotions are like the weather - changing, unpredictable, and maybe partially explainable, but it is a waste of time trying to understand them, or apply reason and logic. Once again, it would be great if the girl would just rattle off a tangible trait that you could change - your breath stinks, or you have eye boogers, whatever, but the girl probably doesn't even know exactly what she did not like about you, and even if she did, she's not going to tell you. She's only going to try to give you the answer that she thinks hurts your feelings the least - thus, the cliche'd 'it's not you it's me' line. Asking a girl what she didn't like about you is a waste of time; women will always choose the polite way out over brutal honesty.
Sometimes people just don't click; it's no big deal. There are plenty of other girls. And I agree with Izza, relax more and try to have fun.