Jayer's 100 Approach Journal (Will Finish 100 approaches no matter what)

[darkme_legendary]

Why do you need to do 1000 approaches?
I hope not mostly for getting rid of Approach Anxiety..

 

[daygameguy]

Ok updates on current plates, past plates and an approach I did yesterday.

The Airline girl is back in her home state. I texted saying I'd call her Wednesday but I didn't nor did she text me the whole day. So yesterday around 6:30pm I called but for the first time I got her voice mail (she used to always answer) ok so I wait a bit and no call back. So like a few hours later I text her "hey tried calling, hope you are having fun back home" Well she texts me back a bit later "hey sorry about that i have a weak signal here. im havin a blast how are you" I reply back a bit later "never better sweetheart" She responds back "thats good guess where i'm at, drinking lol i couldnt stay away" I responded back saying "yea well guess where i am" she's like "where" I said "your town where we met" she responded back "of course" I then texted her a bit later "the food is better here where you are" There was no response.

I won't contact her again until at least next week if she doesn't contact me. I'm surprised she didn't call me back and I don't buy that weak signal crap because the phone rang fine and didn't go right to voice mail. Still with the amount of times this girl travels and the fact that when she's home she's always out with her friends; this isn't going to be easy.

Ok so onto the girl that's "seeing someone" So like I said I didn't text, email, or call Wednesday. In the past unless I did something she didn't really contact me. But to my surprise I get a text around 7:30 on Wednesday "sorry about last nite, tonight 4 sure" Well I respond back like an hour later "should i hold my breath lol j/k" She responds back like 40 mins later "yea u should funny guy"

Well this time she did call and I picked up. I asked her about the weekend she emailed me about and actually did a lot of talking this time (maybe more than I should have aka the wind bag from AOS) but she got me telling her stories of unique experiences I've had in my life. Anyway when there was a moment of pause I interjected "it would be cool to get together sometime" She said thats a good idea but that work is crazy for her until the end of next week. She said she'd be at her beach house this weekend but since I'm not going to be in that area I'm not going to see her. And next week is crazy and I found out via a follow up text the next day she is having a girls night out next friday which is only going to leave me going down to the beach area with my friends the following weekend waiting another week!

Too much time is passing here but there's not much I can do. I guess I'll see if I still have any IOI after this weekend with her and try to plan something. I'm just not sure if I should meet her in a club with my friends next weekend or wait another week and try to set it up solo.... the clock is ticking here....

So yesterday I was out at this bar watching the Laker/Celtic game... some girl stood next to me so I iniaited convo

Me: so who you pulling for?
Her: Celtics, I went to school in Boston so I have to
Me: thats cool where did you go study, work etc....
blah blah

Well anyway since it was the end of the game I couldn't do my usual number close and bail... so I actually stood next to her silently for a bit.... as crowds of people moved in she eventually started looking at another tv screen that was away from me.... So I basically wasn't sure if it was worth reengaging but for the heck of it I did. When there was like 10 seconds or so left in the game and i knew the Celtics couldn't lose, I went up to her again

Me: So this tv over here is better
Her: yea i just kept getting pushed and bumped into I wanted space
Me: thats cool.... listen I actually have to go find my friends, it would be cool to talk to you more though, let me get your # I'll give you a call
Her: awwwwwwww I can't......
Me: What do you mean you can't (smiling, laughing)
Her: I have a boyfriend
Me: So you're not allowed to talk to people? lol
Her: well I can talk to people
Me: thats cool thats all I want to do is talk
Her: ohh ok
Me: So what is it
Her: xxx-xxx-xxxx

I also joked about her name which I've done saying she spells it right and I said that as I put it in my phone. I told her I'd talk to her soon kissed her on the cheek and walked out.

My friends were outside so I stood with them and she eventually came out to smoke and I know she saw me but I pretended I didn't see her. I texted her later that night saying "Hey it was nice meeting you, Go Celtics!"

No response. The number might even be a fake. Probably not even worth my follow up anyway but we'll see.


On the past plates... I end up texting the sorrority president girl yesterday saying "is your phone working today lol" She responds back a bit later "yea lol" I then tell her I'm going out with my friends to a trendy part of town and ask if she wants to bring a friend. She responds back asking where I'm going and what time. Then says she isn't sure she could make it. She texts me and asks me how I've been. I decide to call later and she picks up but is with people and said she is going out to some place more local since she has to work. She's like I'll call/text you later but I hate texting . The convo was like literally a minute. I texted her later just for the heck of it "I dont like texting but yours I don't mind " She responds back instantly "haha same here "

The HB 7 Arab Plate I also invited out via text but she said she had to work. I texted her saying "it would be nice to see you one of these days " No response after that. These are past plates that never amounted to anything anyway so I don't really care. Plus these girls go out all the time and seem to care more about going out with their friends than establishing a relationship.

What are you going to do right?
For now

Approaches 73
Numbers 45

I'll adjust if it ends up being fake not that it matters

I haven't followed your journey but as of now it seems that you still lack great game. Its cool that got rid of AA, and have a better idea of game, but up your game now. If my aim was to get numbers alone, I'd probably get 1 every now and then. But that doesn't help. Dates and girlfriends are the aim here.

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

Me: So this tv over here is better
Her: yea i just kept getting pushed and bumped into I wanted space
Me: thats cool.... listen I actually have to go find my friends, it would be cool to talk to you more though, let me get your # I'll give you a call
Her: awwwwwwww I can't......
Me: What do you mean you can't (smiling, laughing)
Her: I have a boyfriend
Me: So you're not allowed to talk to people? lol
Her: well I can talk to people
Me: thats cool thats all I want to do is talk
Her: ohh ok
Me: So what is it
Her: xxx-xxx-xxxx

This was a really good one, man.
And good work on following through with this--and keep it up.

The "you're not allowed to talk to other people" line is a good one--I've used before myself. It doesn't always work, but most of the time it does.

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Good ****.. 1 ? Tho if some1 can answer this...

When u count ur approaches. Do u count the ones that when u try sayin how u doin or wateva n the girl just ignores u n doesn't talk bac. Or are we supposed to count the ones that we actually get to have a conversation. Cuz I say how u doin or wateva to a lot n sometimes I count that but they don't say nothing bac so im wondering if that should count for an approach or not....

 

[Reyaj]

Good ****.. 1 ? Tho if some1 can answer this...

When u count ur approaches. Do u count the ones that when u try sayin how u doin or wateva n the girl just ignores u n doesn't talk bac. Or are we supposed to count the ones that we actually get to have a conversation. Cuz I say how u doin or wateva to a lot n sometimes I count that but they don't say nothing bac so im wondering if that should count for an approach or not....

I am counting the approaches where I attempt to go for a number. I've had a lot of girls I've said random things too who didn't give me any IOI so I just moved on.

Thanks all for the support. I called the girl that gave me the BF line yesterday privately and it turns out the number is legit. She didn't respond to my text the same night so even though she gave me the digits her IL is probably low. Still for the sake of this experiment I'll give her a call. I guess I should play the friends angle.... we'll see what happens.

Lets see what else...... I sent some stupid random texts to plates that never were responsive and thats about the same.

The Airline girl... well I got a random text from her late Friday night saying "what's up hot buns" I reply back hours later saying I was out and asked whats up. She didn't respond. The next day she texts me saying she feels like crap and later goes on to tell me how drunk she was..... Well today I texted her late saying I hope she had a nice fathers day with her family. She texted me back fast saying same to me. I texted her back asking when she was coming in. She said she is supposed to come in tomorrow but doesn't want to leave yet. I texted her back saying to call me when she gets a chance and she said she would call me later (which I aint holding my breath)

The girl with the BF thats been actively communicating with me when I iniate.... well no word from her this weekend and none from from me either. I'll follow up this week and see if there's a pulse. I hate that so much time has gone by without getting her out.... but with her schedule I really didn't have much of a choice. We'll see if external factors screw me out of this one or if I still have a shot.

stay tuned...

 

[Reyaj]

Ok updates... first the minor ones.. I texted HB 7 arab plate and HB Sorroroity out state college girl plate randomly yesterday "its a beautiful day " Well the HB 7 arab plate responded back like 4 hours later saying "itss too hot lol" I didn't respond after that. The HB out of state college girl responded back quick saying she was stuck at work and then we traded a few texts back and forth. Finally I asked her what her week looked like and she responded saying she worked everyday and had a wedding on Saturday. I texted back a bit later "the wedding sounds like fun. we should get together after work one day this week" Well she stopped responding...

So like 3 hours later I texted her "or not lol...." She then responded back "sorry my battery died. yeah what does your week look like?" I texted her back a bit later saying I'd be free after wednesday but she never responded. I stopped texting too. Clearly her IL is low and she is just being nice.

Ok so I decided to call the Airline girl late yesterday like around 10pm... she actually answered but said she was at a friends house but would be leaving soon and asked that she call me back. I said that was fine. So hours passed and I didn't get a call back. It was about midnight and I was going to sleep where I got a text from her saying "hey are you still up" Now part of me was about to not respond till today to show I wasn't waiting for her call... but the other part of me did want to try and set up plans with her... so I texted her back saying "yeah I'm watching my favorite baseball team" She responded back "I will call you in 1 minute" Well 1 minute was more like 20 minutes... but she called and I accidentally ignored the call cause I was texting at the same time. She texted me right away "i got your voice mail. I am going to bed cause i have to be up early tomorrow" Well I texted her back "good night"

That was that. So today I don't know if I should follow up with her or hope she contacts me.... the problem is almost a catch 22 here though.... if I call I may look desperate like I'm trying too hard at this point. If I don't more time may go by without making plans to see her.... I guess we'll see what happens

I never did call the girl with a boyfriend from last Thursday. I feel it would be pointless but maybe I'll give it a shot for the heck of it if I'm in the mood. She clearly said she has a boyfriend to me... but when I told her I just wanted to talk to her she gave me the digits.... not sure what that means...

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

The out of state hb--you seem to be doing that one very well, with what you have. I am very impressed with your progress thus far, though it did take a while. At least you have the will and the guts to go all the way through with what you intend(ed) to do when you first started this thread.

For the hb w/bf; it seems like she was just being nice to you. I wouldn't expect anything at all at this point, not even a fz issue.

Good work!

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

Ok here it goes.... The first step to the hardest thing I think I would have ever imagined doing. Inspired by Pugsley I think doing cold approaches takes the most amount of $*$8 there is. I'll be honest I never would have imagined myself doing this. I was always the shy kid in school that sat by himself and didn't talk much. But being that I just got out of a serious relatinship I need to get myself back in the game.

I think having the support of this board and being able to come back here for feedback will help me in this exhibition. Now unlike Pugsley, I intend to finish the 100 approaches no matter what. I will also not limit them to book stores but will try and go to several public outlets.

Here are my 2 biggest fears about this.

1.) Im scared her boyfriend will be around and give me trouble. So many times I have thought a girl was alone, only to see her greet her boyfriend a few minutes later. I definitely don't want to deal with this.

2.) Im scared the girl will feel like I'm harassing her. I know most girls should feel complimented no matter what, but every so often some girls are so stupid. I don't want her to cause a scene.

I will use the line "Excuse me may I ask you a question" if she says "yes" I will say "Are you single" and then ask for the digits.

I hope to start this this week and will keep a log of it on this thread. I think cold approaches are the best way to build confidence and really learn first hand what its all about. I just hope I do go through with this.

Jayer; you said your two biggest fears in the first post you posted in this thread. My question to you is this: Are they still your two biggest fears? Why or why not? Just to give the readers some insight as to how you have developed.

 

[Reyaj]

Jayer; you said your two biggest fears in the first post you posted in this thread. My question to you is this: Are they still your two biggest fears? Why or why not? Just to give the readers some insight as to how you have developed.

I'm glad you brought this up. Well to answer completely honestly... I still am careful about the boyfriend... meaning I won't exactly go up to a girl that's with a guy and sometimes even wait out my approach on single girls to make sure they aren't waiting for someone. Still I'm definitely less paranoid that I was and if I find out they have a boyfriend or there man is in the vicinity I usually back out gracefully. Although recently I'm not taking that boyfriend line for face value and am countering it. Now in the day game which I plan on making some approaches soon I am more conscience of this.... and I really want to make sure the girl is alone before approaching. We'll see how that pans out so stay tuned.

Regarding the girl freaking out.... well for the most part I have found even if a girl isn't into you.. she is either polite or just cold.... I've had a few potential freak outs... but I basically just left the situation before it escalated. However I have been getting pretty ****y at times and making remarks to girls that give attitudes... so we may have a situation coming up.. as with everything else I'll post about it on this thread should that occur

As for updates here it goes......

First the Airline girl... well on Tuesday I basically was on the fence about reaching out to this girl... but at night I did receive a random text from her saying "What's up" So I responded back a bit later saying I just got back from playing sports but that it was ironic cause I was thinking about her. She texted me back saying she was stuck at the airport and may have to work... we traded some texts back and forth.. and finally I texted this "well whether you stay or you go I think we should make definite plans to do something" Well she took her time before texting back but she finally did and it read this "sounds good but you seem like a busy guy yourself are you sure you are going to have time for me?" Well I was surprised but I took my time and texted her back this "lol.. don't worry I'll squeeze you in " She responded back with "thanks I think..." I then texted her asking if she was leaving etc.... to my surprise she actually called me a bit later and we talked on the phone. She said she had a bday party for her roomate today....so yesterday when I got home from work I texted her "are you going to be around tomorrow" Well like an hour or more later she texted me back "yeah I think so" I texted her back "I'd like to see you" This time it took like almost 2 hours but she texted me back "sounds good" This time I waited and I texted her "so tomorrow night then. Ill call you tomorrow form work to confirm what we're doing" She responded back with "lovely..."

Thats where it is now. I'm about to call her. Lets see if she flakes or not... if she does or has something else she is doing... my IL in her is going to go down... but whatever...

As for the girl thats seeing someone.... She responded to my email saying she would like to see me too but she is busy all week and basically outlined day by day what she was doing... she said she is going to be at the beach this weekend but if I dont go down we could plan for next week when her schedule is more free. I responded back yesterday saying that I might be at the beach but won't be going to the same club she goes too so maybe next week is better. I also mentioned i like her emails.... Well usually she responds the same day but she hasn't responded.... but I guess the email was more imperative so she doesn't need to. I'm not sure how to play this one either.... but we'll see whats up.

Time to see where I stand....

 

[Reyaj]

quick updates...

I texted the girl with the boyfriend today.. the one that clearly said she had a boyfriend.... she never responded to my same night text last week but anyway I texted her hours ago saying "Hey how are you today" No response and don't expect one. I didn't want to call cause I felt it was pointless so whatever.. that one is done...

So anyway I called the airline girl who didn't answer. I texted her right after saying "are you sleeping lol..." Well she texts me back saying she just got out of work. I then text her "so were u planning on calling me back" She texts me "you called me, when?" I texted her saying I did before I texted her and she said she didnt get a missed call. (The phone rang when I called so it seemed legit but whatever) SO I texted her "So is 8 too early for you to get together" She responded back after a bit "no 8 is fine" I just texted her telling her I'd call her again. We'll see what happens or if this goes through tonight.

 

[DonGorgon]

SO I texted her "So is 8 too early for you to get together" She responded back after a bit "no 8 is fine" I just texted her telling her I'd call her again. We'll see what happens or if this goes through tonight.

Sounds good so far remember to keep up your confident energy... tell her its 8 dont then ask if thats ok.. She is semi interested but you need to make her feel that she is doing the right thing by being interested...

I think sometimes you allow these women to be text buddies.. try and take more control be more assertive/funny/****y.. say more radical stuff to get them fantasizing about you cause that is when they will make seeing you a priority...

 

[Reyaj]

Sounds good so far remember to keep up your confident energy... tell her its 8 dont then ask if thats ok.. She is semi interested but you need to make her feel that she is doing the right thing by being interested...

I think sometimes you allow these women to be text buddies.. try and take more control be more assertive/funny/****y.. say more radical stuff to get them fantasizing about you cause that is when they will make seeing you a priority...

You all aren't going to believe the BS that went down yesterday. I honestly don't know how I've kept as much self control as I did..... I'm going to post about it in a bit. Women can be very cruel...... you have to really be strong and tough mentally......

 

[izza]

I am counting the approaches where I attempt to go for a number. I've had a lot of girls I've said random things too who didn't give me any IOI so I just moved on.

Thanks all for the support. I called the girl that gave me the BF line yesterday privately and it turns out the number is legit. She didn't respond to my text the same night so even though she gave me the digits her IL is probably low. Still for the sake of this experiment I'll give her a call. I guess I should play the friends angle.... we'll see what happens.

Lets see what else...... I sent some stupid random texts to plates that never were responsive and thats about the same.

The Airline girl... well I got a random text from her late Friday night saying "what's up hot buns" I reply back hours later saying I was out and asked whats up. She didn't respond. The next day she texts me saying she feels like crap and later goes on to tell me how drunk she was..... Well today I texted her late saying I hope she had a nice fathers day with her family. She texted me back fast saying same to me. I texted her back asking when she was coming in. She said she is supposed to come in tomorrow but doesn't want to leave yet. I texted her back saying to call me when she gets a chance and she said she would call me later (which I aint holding my breath)

The girl with the BF thats been actively communicating with me when I iniate.... well no word from her this weekend and none from from me either. I'll follow up this week and see if there's a pulse. I hate that so much time has gone by without getting her out.... but with her schedule I really didn't have much of a choice. We'll see if external factors screw me out of this one or if I still have a shot.

stay tuned...

I think the best way to play the "friends angle" is to hit on her a lot on the phone - get her laughing. Or even better, joke that she's trying to seduce you. In my experience, if a chick wants you but is taken, she will fulfill her wish by setting you up with her friends. That's pretty cool. Plus chicks like that make great friends.

Love,
Izza

 

[Reyaj]

posting what happend yesterday and today is paining me! Because I'd rather not go through it again... however a promise is a promise stay tuned. There are some really messed up girls out there guys!

 

[Reyaj]

ok here we go... This is what went down on Thursday night... women can be so cruel as I said..... So I had plans with the airline girl as said per my last update. So I call her when I get out of work which was like 6ish..... she answers and I say that I'll come by her at 8. She starts saying she is in a really bad mood, that her car got towed yesterday and she owes like 800 bucks and blah blah blah blah.... and she went out drinking for her friends bday and had to work early blah blah blah THIS girl always drinks and is out at some bar with her friends btw! Now her story didn't really make sense because I asked her how it all totaled to 800 bucks and she couldn't tell me.... but whatever she keeps whining..... So I tell her not to worry and that I'll pick her up and we'll do something. She is like ok... let me get ready I'll call u back. I told her she didnt have to, I would just call her when I was at her place....


Here we go!!!!

So I get a phone call from her 20 minutes later and she's like this....... are you going to be mad if I bail??? I'm like what.... lol... She's like yeah Im sorry but I feel like crap today and I dont even want to get out of bed... I just talked to my mom too and she says I shouldnt go out with anyone when I'm like this.....

Ok well obviously I'm a bit upset here that's she's cancelling at the last minute but I tried to keep my cool and I said hey if you don't want to come out I'm not going to force you (although I was somewhat incredulous) she's like thanks for understanding. She's like I'm leaving Saturday.... Now keep in mind I haven't seen these girl for a week or so and its a mission to get her out by herself.

So even though you are going to say this was a mistake the fact that I never get a chance to see this girl I had to try. So I asked would you rather hang out tomorrow? She's like oh well tomorrow one of my friends from out of state is coming in and I haven't seen her for a long time so I need to see her.

Ok now i'm sort of mad here because I realize it isn't going to work with this girl. She has a chance to see me before even more time passes when we wouldn't get to see each other and she doesn't take it. So I told her ok well good luck feel better and I ended the call there....


So anyway when I hung up the phone I was soooooo bitter sooo angry. I was thinking should I curse this chick out.... what should I say blah blah blah..... I really don't know how i held self control.... but I ended up taking a deep breath walking outside and got a grip. Then a thought come to my head............ Since I know nothing is going to happen with this girl and nexting or cursing out will just result in another flake I'm like for the sake of experimentation let me try something different!

I decided I would LJBF her out of the blue to see what happens! So I send her a text that read "Hey I would like to be friends. I'll add you to my myspace, I hope you feel better" Well she responds back a little later "thanks for understanding, sorry again" I then text her back saying "n/p. maybe I'll see you out later ;" She responds back "no way Im staying home tonight what are you going to do?" I text her back letting her know I'll be in her area with my friends hanging out....


LOL

Here comes the great part... and the reason I love women because they are so honest and considerate... NOT!

So I'm out with my friends and I get a text from her around 10pm that reads "hey my friend just broke with her boyfriend so I'm going to get a drink with her"

So I'm thinking ok.... this is either a safety text in case I see her or a possibility for me to meet up with her. I was going to find out. So I texted her back "where are you going"

Now to this she did not respond... so I figured she didn't want me going where she was. So I texted her back a bit later saying "Hey I'm at this xxx bar, so make sure you don't come here " No response from her..... so when we left the bar I texted her again "ok we are leaving now, so you can come"

No response.

Here is the best part of the night.... so as I'm walking up the block full of bars and lounges with my friends, my friend taps me and is like hey isn't that her over there! I turn around to look at this bar and there low and behold she is... she smiles and starts waving at me..... I basically looked at her started laughing, shaked my head and just turned around and kept walking. This all happend instinctively. She probably thought I was going to stop and greet her like I always have but seriously this girl has some issues.

So the next day to my surprise she accepts my myspace request. She then posts up picture of the night before with her and her friends and these guys. She even changes the default picture to be her and a guy hugging. LOL its like she was trying to hide it that night but maybe after i dissed her or she saw my myspace social proof she decided to do the opposite. I was actually tempted to take her off or leave her with a mean comment.... but I'm going to try and act like it didn't get to me. I haven't heard from her since and honestly I don't want anything else to do with this girl beyond anything platonic. THe girl goes out and drinks with her friends everyday and apparently that was more important than seeing a good potential guy she was talking to. Its really not me but her and I'm not going to put myself down because the girl has issues.

So that was that lol!


The girl that said she was seeing somene... well we traded texts that same night which of course I iniaited. I told her I might be by the beach this weekend and she said we should meet up. The problem is she's going to be with her friends and i'll be with mine and they always go to this real packed trendy place which has PUAs and non isolation deterents. I texted her yesterday saying maybe we'd be better off meeting solo next week (putting more time ahead to when I'll get to see her" She texted back we'd play by ear. I texted yesterday saying we'd get down there later but maybe we could all meet at a less populated place beforehand. She never responded. I'll try calling her later.... this one might flake too who knows...


The HB 7 Arab girl from a while ago.... she has been responding to my texts.... but I basically never was able to get this girl out sucessfully alone and she's always out with her friends at a club or what not.......

I really think I need to change the places I pick up girls. These girls you find in clubs and bars basically live that kind of lifestyle that seems to trump everything.


Its quite discouraging at times..........

oohhhhh I did get a number on Thursday I got to say! Basically my friend started talking to this girl in the club and I went up to her friend and was doing a nice kinoing... unfortunately my friend left the set and I had to settle for the number close. I actually was going to try for more had I had the opportunity but whatever. She lives out of state and seemed surprised I asked for her number but she gave it. She is from Boston so I teased her about the red sox etc... I sent her a same night text saying it was nice meeting her but she never responded. Maybe her other CB'd or she just doesn't care. Probably a meaningless # like so many....


Approaches 74
Numbers 46

 

[Reyaj]

another sarging report coming from the weekend. I got hit hard....

 

[DonGorgon]

Yeh women are very cold... and we must be the same way... If everyone is cold no one will get hurt..

 

[macallik]

and no one will get pvssy either. Quit being so childish

 

[Reyaj]

doh again I typed in all this stuff and my browser froze.

quick recap

girl that told she was seeing someone - called over the weekend, no response, resopnded to text, traded some emails yesterday some she responded too fast some she respond to slow.... I will make attempt to my plans with her for this week tonight... if not I aint bothering much anymore

girl I closed last week from boston that I should have hooked up with - called yesterday... she answered had a dry tone said she was busy doing a paper and asked that she called me back. i said fine. no call back. i texted after i hung up saying "im holding my breath fyi " blah whatever

This weekend I did a 3 approaches and went 1 for 3. I went to a populated city atmosphere and got hit pretty hard. I did a bunch of random walk ups and had a few girls tell me I looked stupid to my face (which I replied to sarcastically) and even had one girl start yelling in my face to which I turned around and kept walking. Another girl was actually into me but her boyfriend was some gang banger and was prowling around the venue. But for the 3 approaches in which I attempted to go for the # this is how it went. The first girl I noticed was dancing with her friend on a little stage area. She was hot.... I mean I could be wrong but this girl looked at least a blonde HB 7/8. Well anyway I had been getting hammered all night that I actually didn't care. I noticed her friend got off the stage for a second which gave me some space. I just went in and made no bones about it, here's how it went down

Me: (walking right up to her on the stage, motioning for her to lean over and talk to me) Listen I'm about to leave I saw you and I had to talk to you. Whats your name?"
Her: (smiling) HB 7+ whats yours?
Me: Jayer nice to meet, where from?
Her: xxxx you?
Me: how do you spell that?
Her: xxxxxx
Me: good thats the right way
Her: thanks
Me: I'm from xxx I live about 20 minutes outside of this area. but listen I'm about to leave, let me get your number, I'll give you a call
Her: (pausing for about 2 seconds) ok
Me: (pulled out my phone) go ahead
Her: xxx-xxx-xxxx-
Me: ok great it was nice meeting you i'll give you a call (kissed her on the cheek and walked out)


I ended up texting this girl a bit later "it was nice meeting you hope to talk soon -Jayer"

I did not get a response. From the experiment I've done on this thread usually when I've gotten a response I've had IL from the girl and when they don't I haven't... hence the boston girl but whatever I'll try this night... This will be the 3 day rule which I usually don't follow... we'll see what happens


Other 2 approaches... There was a 2 set standing on the street outside of the club. I decide to go up to one

Me: Excuse me do you know where I can get a cab out of here?
Her: lol.... are you serious they are all over the place
Me: I know.. but they all are full where can I get one
(meanwhile one of my friends attemps to talk to her friend but is shot down fast)
Her: (mocking me) is that some kind of pick up line... where can I find a cab lol
Me: please... you give yourself too much credit
Her: whatever (meanwhile friend is telling her we gotta go)
Me: Listen how about you send me a text message
Her: ummm I dont have my phone
Me: ok give me your number I'll text you
Her: ummm just write yours on a piece of paper (clearly a rejection)
Me: I have my cell no paper. give me yours
Her: (her friend starts walking away and kind leading her) I have to go
Me: yeah yeah... its your friends fault by the way have a good night

Now I played that one sloppy I know.... I was drunk whatever.... When they have that C blocking friend its always a challenge. I should have tried to close while she was distracted I guess whatever


Ok so I end up walking up that same street and I see a 3 set standing (looked very drunk) laughing and giggling. I decide to move in... I use the same line

Me: excuse me do you know where I can find a cab around here
Her: laughing (all her friends) are you serious... look this is how u do it (sarcastic tone)
Me: They all seem full though, where can I get a vacant one.....
Her: (puts her hand on me and playfull pushes) here follow me

So she walks up to the street and tries to hail a cab. I decide I better try and # close

Me: listen I'm just going to walk up a little further and get one... whats your name (smiling)
Her: (sudden shocked look on her face) Goodbye!

She ran back to her friends...

blah whatever


Approaches 77
Numbers 47

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

Me: please... you give yourself too much credit

Golden