I think it comes from simply being attractive at a young age.
At a young age you either receive positive reinforcement or negative reinforcement, or in some cases, nothing at all.
If a guy is attractive to other girls in middle school or even high school, he will have women checking him out, smiling at him, guys inviting him to do stuff, and will have social proof. His social skills will develop naturally just by being present. He will likely get a girlfriend or two. He might get laid at a party. Whatever.
Those experiences early on will give him the confidence to continue having those experiences in college.
Without any of those experiences, guys will struggle and have to learn "game" because they never had those natural learning experiences in their youth. I think it's really that simple. It's all looks based positive reinforcement that allows guys to be low inhibition and figure out what works and what doesn't because they have the confidence to do so via external validation.
My close friend probably had more game that anyone on this forum by the time he was in his early 30s. Just an insanely charismatic/social guy who could read all kinds of people no matter the situation. It's really just simple social skills applied to women.
At a young age you either receive positive reinforcement or negative reinforcement, or in some cases, nothing at all.
If a guy is attractive to other girls in middle school or even high school, he will have women checking him out, smiling at him, guys inviting him to do stuff, and will have social proof. His social skills will develop naturally just by being present. He will likely get a girlfriend or two. He might get laid at a party. Whatever.
Those experiences early on will give him the confidence to continue having those experiences in college.
Without any of those experiences, guys will struggle and have to learn "game" because they never had those natural learning experiences in their youth. I think it's really that simple. It's all looks based positive reinforcement that allows guys to be low inhibition and figure out what works and what doesn't because they have the confidence to do so via external validation.
My close friend probably had more game that anyone on this forum by the time he was in his early 30s. Just an insanely charismatic/social guy who could read all kinds of people no matter the situation. It's really just simple social skills applied to women.