I edited the previous post to suggest weekends. In my situation, my shift hours are actually 2-10p, and one can say that nobody can have a life with those type of hours as I don't even have evenings free. In fact, last week I remember coming home and hitting the sack after just changing my clothes and waking up the next morning. Plus I have to take care of the chores and manage bills in the home all of which are time consuming in their own right.
However, if you weren't escortcelling, do you think you would feel more motivated? The fact that you are getting your needs met twice a month, or once every three months with that "lady" could be killing your motivation since you've boxed in that need, within your spectrum, into a nice and tidy resolution. You might need to cut that completely out in order to find the motivation you need to cold / warm approach women. I've seen this in other posts on escort sites how single guys lose their motivation to deal with women (ie unless it's really easy (ie they are throwing themselves at you or making it ultra-easy) because they are engaged in that habit.
Have you thought of pausing that habit for 6 months/1 year and see if that helps you find the motivation? I mean if things are that hard for you, but you are getting your needs met by women you are attracted to, then why would you want to meet women and deal with the hassle, drama, ghosting, and potentially poisoning the well (if at work).
Maybe the truth of the matter is you don't want to deal with women, have found a happy comfort zone that you are content enough to be the way you are, say you are in the spectrum so you have a "rubber stamp" by society to be that way, and why would you want to change all of that? I've read this book from amazon called "How to not give a f****", and the insights on that book, is subconciously, we might want to fail because there are hidden reasons inside us that want to maintain the status quo. Maybe yours boils down to a choice to kick a bad habit as a token of how bad you really want to be the type of man that's successful with "free" women.
An analogy I can think of is watching a movie in cinema compared to watching a pirated version at home. If you watch a pirated version, then the motivation to want to watch it properly in the cinema will be compromised. You miss out on the big experience, but are content enough having already watched it, that you don't have that extra umph to get out to watch it. It might be like that with "free" women to you.