There are many refreshingly intelligent posts on this forum, I am pleasantly surprised. I want to reply to more posts, but I only have time for replies to a few things that were mentioned.
Few men will agree with my statements to that effect, even if they are demonstrably true. ;-) Women choose who will provide the genetics with which they will mix their own, to produce unique offspring -- and yes, this is a very wise idea. Men may think they are in control, but they are not. Men will generally mate with whatever female presents herself. Women on the other hand are very choosy, selecting just the right men to satisfy the "selfish genes" which they are attempting to both replicate and improve. Women therefore are generally ruled more by instinct than by logic -- which explains why there are vastly more male as opposed to female Scientists. Would women, if primarily logical, actually choose to produce screaming, drooling poop factories? I think not, and thus another species goes extinct. Essentially, we are all nothing more than slaves to our genes -- which are the true masters guiding our destiny, by seeking through trial and error, ever higher and higher levels of survivability, regardless of what "package" they are carried in.Okay when some half drunk girl starts rubbing up on me in the bar wanting to dance and it's obviously going to end in an easy lay, but instead I turn her away, was I not choosing to turn her away wanting a different girl or was she rejecting herself for me? I think I'm offended at being called a mindless automaton who can't pick my own women. I pick her. She picks me. What OTHER possibility is there? We don't just line up naked for them in a line and they walk down the line and pick one of us out.
I had the same fate in High School -- years too young to date the girls in my grade class, yet intelligent enough to be their "secret friend". They would cry on my shoulder whenever their Jock boyfriend wronged them, then go right back to their Jock boyfriend at the first, even slight indication of remorse. I never understood this behavior, but it must have something to do with survival of the fittest -- Darwin's law of Natural Selection. Even my best friend in Junior High dropped me as a best friend, even humiliating me publicly in front of her "new" friends, simply because I was a nerd. She also went from straight A's in Science to a D- (opting instead to read jewelry catalogs in Science class). Puberty really does a number on most girls.dude, google up the term "intellectual wh0re" (replacing the "0" with an "o" of course)and then read laddertheory.com and you will find yourself as the prototype of what this term refers to. For your own sake, get the hell out out of that ****ty relation you have with her. You are her b*tch and are only f**king yourself over. Trust me.
That my friend is an extremely sad state of affairs indeed. :-(There is an exception to this. Some women, especially the control freaks among the female gender (whose numbers are disproportinately increasing) are intimidated (fearful) of men that can mentally outmaneuver them. Most women operate in this AFC-ridden world where women with few redeeming characteristics nonetheless receive an excess of male attention. This gives them a certain attitude with men that can only be described as spoiled. When faced with a challenge, these women generally become intrigued, having finally come across a man who doesn't grovel for her attention. Some of these women, however, enjoy the power they inherently have over an AFC. When women become older, more jaded, etc., they begin to have the attitude of the latter category. In any event, this latter category of women is a kind you want to avoid anyhow, unless you happen to like being emasculated/castrated. Men often seek women less intelligent (or experiencd) than themselves for the same reason: it confers a degree of control that, for many men, is an aphrodesiac and adds a degree of comfort.
An eloquent expression of exactly where I am right now! Will I remain here for life? Time will tell. However I have my work success, such as interplanetary space research, to give meaning to my otherwise meaningless existence -- even if I never find a wife, or father children (the meaning found in most mens lives).Unlike the crystalline world of ideas, numbers, principles, etcetera, the social world is dominated by people. People are fickle, emotional, and generally irrational creatures. For the systematizing mind that likes to categorize and deal with abstractions, it is hard to understand people the way one can understand ideas or create mental abstractions
Thanks, but the initial inquiry was to see why women reject intelligent men, not "how can I win with women and influence people". I'm a lost cause in that department I'm afraid. I'm just holding out for that one in probably MORE than a million who clicks, and finds me to be charming. In lieu of success, I'm very much resigned to a life of solitude, if that's how things end up. It's not that bad really, I do have broadband after all. ;-)If you are of the 130+ crowd, I suggest you stop what you are doing and go buy "How to win friends and influence people."
The book is sort of "gamey" and "manipulative", so I'll save you a few bucks and summarize: