I had a flirt session the other day. Ran into her again today. What to make of her behavior?

[AmsterdamAssassin]

A Brazilian is way more painful for a man than for a woman.

Or you're just more sensitive than a woman.

As for moving to places where you know no one, I've heard others say they wouldn't dare to.

I've done plenty of things that 'others say they wouldn't dare to', but that doesn't mean it was courageous.
See, this is your main problem: "I've heard other people legitimise my victimhood!"

I really don't think there's any curing a phobia that crippling.

You call it a 'phobia' and 'crippling' to validate your sense of how impossible it is for you to overcome.

As for the rejection thing, I (a straight man) would rather kiss a man than cross paths with a woman I got rejected by.

The thing is, you don't really want help. You'd rather talk here about how much easier for you to tongue wrestle a man than face rejection from a woman, but you're not gay. I think you might be in denial. Everything about you screams closeted homosexual.

 

[GoodMan32]

Or you're just more sensitive than a woman.


I've done plenty of things that 'others say they wouldn't dare to', but that doesn't mean it was courageous.
See, this is your main problem: "I've heard other people legitimise my victimhood!"


You call it a 'phobia' and 'crippling' to validate your sense of how impossible it is for you to overcome.


The thing is, you don't really want help. You'd rather talk here about how much easier for you to tongue wrestle a man than face rejection from a woman, but you're not gay. I think you might be in denial. Everything about you screams closeted homosexual.

I'm not sensitive about the Brazilian thing; men in general are. My waxing technician said a lot of men quit the Brazilian as soon as she pulls the first strip of wax.

I, on the other hand, was tough enough to go through with the Brazilian.

The extremely thin skin on the sack is what makes it more painful for men (according to the waxing technician)

The fact I didn't enjoy (and couldn't even get hard for) the experimentation with a man in college invalidates your theory that I'm a closeted homosexual.

Furthermore, if I was a closeted gay man, I certainly wouldn't have spent thousands of dollars on straight intercourse for nearly a decade now. Believe me; embracing my gayness (if I was gay; which I'm not) would be a lot easier than dealing with all the difficulties I deal with as a straight autist.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I'm not sensitive about the Brazilian thing; men in general are. My waxing technician said a lot of men quit the Brazilian as soon as she pulls the first strip of wax.

I, on the other hand, was tough enough to go through with the Brazilian.

The extremely thin skin on the sack is what makes it more painful for men (according to the waxing technician)

The fact I didn't enjoy (and couldn't even get hard for) the experimentation with a man in college invalidates your theory that I'm a closeted homosexual.

Furthermore, if I was a closeted gay man, I certainly wouldn't have spent thousands of dollars on straight intercourse for nearly a decade now. Believe me; embracing my gayness (if I was gay; which I'm not) would be a lot easier than dealing with all the difficulties I deal with as a straight autist.

 

[SW15]

I'm not reading 6 pages of this.

Either:

A. She was flirting and interested, but lost interest when you didn't reciprocate enough for her to feel like you were interested in her too.

B. She's a service-industry worker and it's her job to be nice to customers so they come back and/or tip higher.

In either case, this is why I always advocate for being direct. Saves you a lot of time and guesswork.

That's what I said on Page 1 and thought B was the higher probability answer.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

A Brazilian is way more painful for a man than for a woman.

As for moving to places where you know no one, I've heard others say they wouldn't dare to.

As for the rejection thing, I (a straight man) would rather kiss a man than cross paths with a woman I got rejected by. I really don't think there's any curing a phobia that crippling.

 

[GoodMan32]

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Call it gay if you want.

I'd say it simply illustrates how much I hate crossing paths with a woman I got rejected by.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Call it gay if you want.

I'd say it simply illustrates how much I hate crossing paths with a woman I got rejected by.

This needs to be addressed. Get off this site & seek professional help.

 

[GoodMan32]

This needs to be addressed. Get off this site & seek professional help.

I mentioned how crippling my phobia of rejection is to my therapist this past summer.

He didn't really have much to say. He just recommended I make a move on a woman I'm attracted to (but he also accepted the fact there's no way for him to force me)

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I mentioned how crippling my phobia of rejection is to my therapist this past summer.

you can whine some more about 'your' therapist, but smart people who encounter bad therapists just find a better therapist

He didn't really have much to say. He just recommended I make a move on a woman I'm attracted to (but he also accepted the fact there's no way for him to force me)

everybody here has heard that story too and advised you to find another therapist