So again, unless I'm off and I'm not really a 7?
Yes. You are overestimating your OVERALL value.
If you're not willing to accept that, then not much will ever change for you.
You mentioned before that you deepest fear is being "put down" by a group of black men(people?).
THAT is not a characteristic of an attractive man. Women can smell that.
Women are genetically programmed to sniff out a man who can handle adversity. I suspect you project an image that you cannot. I don't mean adversity in upbringing, etc. I mean adversity IN THE MOMENT, particularly in SOCIAL SITUATIONS.
You have DEEP FEAR. And women can smell it.
You are not a seven.
But if you work on your inner issues, until that FEAR is gone COMPLETELY you will be.
But not now. Not even close.
And until then, no amount of money or cars of degrees or neighborhood will compensate for that.
If you were a chick, you'd be the loyal girl who has an awesome personality, loves kids, loves to cook, but is UGLY AS FVCK.
FOR MEN, INNER GAME TRUMPS ALL.
Inner game is MUCH MORE than making people laugh, or being the life of the party. It's very easy to fake, even to oneself.
TRUE inner game is inner STRENGTH. Deep self confidence and a belief that you can handle ANYTHING that comes up.
Not being the life of the party, but being the guy people naturally turn to when sh!t goes sideways to see what to do.
One with strong inner game does not fly off the handle as you mentioned several times you are prone to do.
Strong inner game is INSANELY ATTRACTIVE.
Yours is very weak.
The sooner you acknowledge that, the sooner you can fix it.