How to get your girl to lose weight

[Alle_Gory]

Of course now that i decided on all this she hurt her knee and has to rest if for a few days, her dr. said. There goes her exercise.

Because she's fat.

Then next week she goes to vegas for 4 days with 2 of her friends. Shell be eating junk, drinking like a fish, then having a late junk snack after drinking which shell def do on vacation. This sucks she gonna come back even fatter now.

I threw up in my mouth a little.

Honestly, its not worth hanging around someone who's not making you happy. She needs to know. You owe the porker that much. Tell her what's up.

i seriously dont need her i am a good looking guy.

But be warned, if you keep this up the same thing is going to happen to the next girl. Keep doing what works with the girls, and don't slack off and get into a rut just because you're living with one or seeing her on a regular basis. Look what happens, they leave you or in this case get comfortable and suuuuper lazy.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Because she's fat.



I threw up in my mouth a little.

Honestly, its not worth hanging around someone who's not making you happy. She needs to know. You owe the porker that much. Tell her what's up.




But be warned, if you keep this up the same thing is going to happen to the next girl. Keep doing what works with the girls, and don't slack off and get into a rut just because you're living with one or seeing her on a regular basis. Look what happens, they leave you or in this case get comfortable and suuuuper lazy.

Dammit, I was more blunt with her last night and it did not have the desired effect, i knew I shouldnt have gotten blunt. I brought up looking for gyms again, and again she said shes too tried when she gets home from work, which changed from the other day when she said yea maybe. So i said to her well im joining then if u dont want to ok. And she goes i know u think im fat thanks. I said no i just keep hearing u sayin ur trying to lose weight and i think it would work better if u worked out too, i hate seeing u starve yourself, when a lil working out would allow u to eat like anybody else. Then she started again with the fact that she has "chronic fatigue". I think its a load of bs, everybdoy and their mother thinks they have chronic fatigue syndrome. I think its just lazy person syndrome. If u eat crap and drink alot and never exercise, yea ur gonna be slugish all the time right? Doctors cannot really diagnose chronic fatigue, its really never a fact that u have that. I see her have energy when she wants to its a load of bull. She said her metablosim is slow too, to which i replied yea thats more reason to workout cuz burning fat a few times a week along with dieting works alot better than just eating less, it tones up your body more.

She then got a lil mad and just when i thought she was done being mad she went in the other room and i heard her start sobbing uncontrollably. I went in to console her and she was screamin get away from me over and over, i was afraid the people downstairs from us were gonna call the cops you woulda thought i was beating her she was screaming so loud and crying. It took her forever to calm down. I finally got her to calm down i told her i loved her no matter what and i was just tryin to help and i was concerned that maybe something was wrong. And then she erupted again when i said that. She was sobbing forever and started packing a bag to stay at her parents house and saying "i wanna go home where people love me and accept me for who i am" "u make me feel horrible about myself, sob sob sob, get away from me!" I finally calmed her down and explained to her my point of view that i was ok with her being a lil heavy when i met her, but now shes siginigantly heavier than that and i was just concerned that she didnt care or was unhappy. She finally calmed down and unpacker her bag and now we seem to be okay.

Now i dont know if this is a good thing or not. Now she seems terified to eat, i either got thru to her, or shes gonna become anorexic. I feel really bad, did i do the wrong thing here? She reacted like a psycho i didnt think i was that blunt geez. She outweighs me by 35-40 lbs. Was that really thaaaat mean? I think its unfair to put on 35-40 lbs right around the time you expect your bf to be giving u a ring, which she made it abundantly clear she expects this year, and i was planning on it, but i wanna make sure she is not gonna be fat forever first, cuz this latest extra weight is a surprise to me.

 

[pjtheman]

/\ Sorry but it sounds like you've got a BPD girl here, get the **** out of there before you get home and find her crying into a tub of ben&jerry's. seriously

 

[Alle_Gory]

Then she started again with the fact that she has "chronic fatigue". I think its a load of bs, everybdoy and their mother thinks they have chronic fatigue syndrome. I think its just lazy person syndrome. If u eat crap and drink alot and never exercise, yea ur gonna be slugish all the time right?

We better get you to a hospital babe. That's nothing to joke about. If you've got it, you need to let me know. *serious face*

She then got a lil mad and just when i thought she was done being mad she went in the other room and i heard her start sobbing uncontrollably. I went in to console her and she was screamin get away from me over and over, i was afraid the people downstairs from us were gonna call the cops you woulda thought i was beating her she was screaming so loud and crying. It took her forever to calm down. I finally got her to calm down i told her i loved her no matter what and i was just tryin to help and i was concerned that maybe something was wrong. And then she erupted again when i said that. She was sobbing forever and started packing a bag to stay at her parents house and saying "i wanna go home where people love me and accept me for who i am" "u make me feel horrible about myself, sob sob sob, get away from me!" I finally calmed her down and explained to her my point of view that i was ok with her being a lil heavy when i met her, but now shes siginigantly heavier than that and i was just concerned that she didnt care or was unhappy. She finally calmed down and unpacker her bag and now we seem to be okay.

Idiot!!! You should have just let her alone to vent for awhile. Can't you see that you're finally getting the reaction you want? She almost gives a sh*t now. Sometimes you NEED to do NOTHING.

Now i dont know if this is a good thing or not. Now she seems terified to eat, i either got thru to her, or shes gonna become anorexic. I feel really bad, did i do the wrong thing here? She reacted like a psycho i didnt think i was that blunt geez. She outweighs me by 35-40 lbs. Was that really thaaaat mean? I think its unfair to put on 35-40 lbs right around the time you expect your bf to be giving u a ring, which she made it abundantly clear she expects this year, and i was planning on it, but i wanna make sure she is not gonna be fat forever first, cuz this latest extra weight is a surprise to me.

Let her go home. If she cares about you, she will be back. It's better to be a **** and apologize later than to be a pvssy, like you keep showing us to be.

She's fat, she's disgusting and she doesn't need a hug, she needs some tough love.

 

[DJinTraining06]

We better get you to a hospital babe. That's nothing to joke about. If you've got it, you need to let me know. *serious face*



Idiot!!! You should have just let her alone to vent for awhile. Can't you see that you're finally getting the reaction you want? She almost gives a sh*t now. Sometimes you NEED to do NOTHING.



Let her go home. If she cares about you, she will be back. It's better to be a **** and apologize later than to be a pvssy, like you keep showing us to be.

She's fat, she's disgusting and she doesn't need a hug, she needs some tough love.

Well I think it may have worked although she's clueless about being healthy. She has been eating a fat free yogurt for lunch and dinner and thats it. Im glad to see i got thru to her but geez thats not nocessary. People need meat and vegatables and fruit. It's pretty ridiculous she doesnt get it. Just eat sensible meals, and workout regularly. but watever as long as she loses some weight.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Well I think it may have worked although she's clueless about being healthy. She has been eating a fat free yogurt for lunch and dinner and thats it. Im glad to see i got thru to her but geez thats not nocessary. People need meat and vegatables and fruit. It's pretty ridiculous she doesnt get it. Just eat sensible meals, and workout regularly. but watever as long as she loses some weight.

Clearly you know what you're doing. Show her how to do it. Not now, though. I would let things sink in for awhile. Don't forget to tell her how great she's doing and how awesome she is for making this change. She needs your support now.

BTW, fat free yoghurt is sh*t. The fat is replaced with sugar.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Clearly you know what you're doing. Show her how to do it. Not now, though. I would let things sink in for awhile. Don't forget to tell her how great she's doing and how awesome she is for making this change. She needs your support now.

BTW, fat free yoghurt is sh*t. The fat is replaced with sugar.

yea its all sugar, but if thats her whoile dinner hey 100 calories is alot less than even a healthy dinner.

 

[speakeasy]

Damn, this discussion is still going on???

I like Yoplait yogurt, the regular kind, not the fat free. Probably not super healthy or anything, but I just love the mix of sweet and sour taste and creamyness of yogurt, so I eat it. Sugar or not. Probably better than a bowl a of Haagan Daas. At least it has good pro-biotics in it.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Damn, this discussion is still going on???

I like Yoplait yogurt, the regular kind, not the fat free. Probably not super healthy or anything, but I just love the mix of sweet and sour taste and creamyness of yogurt, so I eat it. Sugar or not. Probably better than a bowl a of Haagan Daas. At least it has good pro-biotics in it.

All yoghurt has "pro-biotics" aka bacteria in it.

But yeah, get your girl to up the calories with healthy food and get her ass on a treadmill (or eliptical since its easy on the joints). Starving yourself thin does more damage than good. She's going to binge later blowing her waistline like never seen before.

 

[Trader]

Reverse the genders

Suppose you all of a sudden went broke and became really lazy.

You think the girl would let you *get away with it*?

You think the girl would softly try to let you know you need to change?

Guys put up with so much BS

 

[DJinTraining06]

Reverse the genders

Suppose you all of a sudden went broke and became really lazy.

You think the girl would let you *get away with it*?

You think the girl would softly try to let you know you need to change?

Guys put up with so much BS

I got her into a 30 minute sobbing and screaming fit, tellin me to get away from her a few days ago. What more can I do? It's like a hopeless cause. Her excuse now for not wanting to join a gym is that we might move to a new place or move back home to savemoney when our lease is up in 4 monhts. 4 monhts! She cant do any exercise for 4 months cuz she might b moving. Dont gyms let u pay month to month? Im getting the feeling she is resenting me now. 2 days after i caused her eruption she was super nice to me and was tellin me how she ate nothign all day then we had really great sex. But since then shes been weird i think she in her crazy girl head has the fact that she thinks i called her fat festereing in her mind now. Theother day i was eatign soemthing and she said id have some but im a fat cow i cant. I think she thinks that im a jerk now cuz i made her feel horrible abvout herself. yet she never stops to think, hey i am fat. Hey i outweigh my bf by alot. I dont know how to get thru to her. Is this hopeless? Ill see how she does with her lesser eating now, i doubt shell keep it up more than a few weeks. If she doesnt then shes gonna get a rude awakeing from me. I am not goin for dinner or drinks with her. No more ice cream places. No more sitting around. I am gonna do my own thing and ignore her if thats all she wants to do.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Reverse the genders

Suppose you all of a sudden went broke and became really lazy.

You think the girl would let you *get away with it*?

You think the girl would softly try to let you know you need to change?

Guys put up with so much BS

Honestly I don't think she would even noitce if i got really lazy. When i met her i was about 10-12 lbs lighter, i was going to the gym often and i had a pretty flat stomache, no six pack but flat enough and i was a lil ripped. I had some decent pecs, shoulders, arms thighs etc. I wasnt huge or super ripped but i was in shape. Now i've put on about 10-12 lbs, which is not bad for me cuz i wasnt overweight to begin with but i def look alot diff. I have a gut, my pecs are now soft like A cup t*ts, and everythign else is just soft now. Im not fat but im borderline stocky territory. I'm soft and geting towards pear shaped.

The amazing thing is that ive mentioned how i wanna get back into shape like i was a couple years ago and she actually says to me all the time i dont remember u looking any different! Shes like no offense i know u say u were more muscular then but i don't think u look much different than u did when i met u. i think u look pretty much the same.

Now this always irritates me, even though she means it as acompliment saying she likes how i look. I just cannot understand how on earth she thinks i look like i did 2 1/2 yrs ago when my body was firm and i had a chest and shoulers and back and flat stomache. it actually makes me mad, cuz i worked my a** off to get in shape like that for like 6-8 months. I was in a great rouitine and i looked great and was getitng more female attention than ever before and now she tells me the flabby guy i am now is the same as then? Makes me not even wanna bother working out. Do u think shes telling the truth on this? I wonder if she wants me to gain weight so she doesnt feel so bad and embarassed.

The only reason ive become like i am now in the first place is cuz of a hectic work schedule which will be changing in about 4 or 5 months and my life will go back to normal when i start thios new position. Ive mad eit abundantly clear to her that i am gonna be inm shape once this period is over. But the difference here is i wasnt overweight to begin with, i put 10-12 lbs on a body that was thin and muscular. She put 20-25 lbs on a body that was already 25-30 lbs overweight. So i dont wanna hear that she let heserlf go cuz i let myself go. Even tho im not working out i still use moderation i drink light beer and soemtimes healthy meals.

 

[Raikojo17]

reminds me of that episode of "My wife and kids" where Tisha Campbell gets fat after vacation and Damon Wayans is struggling to deal but can't

he ends up just being real. not harsh, but kind and real

he lets her know that he loves her, but he appreciated when she worked hard to look good for him. he also works hard to look good for her because he loves her

good episode. you should watch

 

[DJinTraining06]

reminds me of that episode of "My wife and kids" where Tisha Campbell gets fat after vacation and Damon Wayans is struggling to deal but can't

he ends up just being real. not harsh, but kind and real

he lets her know that he loves her, but he appreciated when she worked hard to look good for him. he also works hard to look good for her because he loves her

good episode. you should watch

Yea well the difference is that's tv and this is real life. I tried to have that conversation with her and she became hysterical crying and screaming like a maniac i was literally afraid the people downstairs were gonna call the cops thinking i was beating her. She kept screaming get away from me and sobbing so loud like wailing actually. Maybe its just my girl and other girls would react like tisha campbell, all i know is i cant even broach the subject with her in any form without her flipping a sh*t. Then she goes into her thing about how she tries and its hard for her and she has slow metabolism and this and that. I try to tell her that to lose 30-40 lbs u have to work out and diet together there is no way around it. It has to be hard work and some sacrifice. It has to be consistent also. I dont knwo if she deosnt realiz ethis or shes just too lazy to do it. I cant figure out what it is. Shes a smart girl, but noty about this apparently. She thinks buying sugar free snack bars and reduced fat tortilla chips is all she needs to do. Its ridiculous that stuff is nice but thats not what the dr ordered when u have 40 punds to lose. I would b happy with 20 lbs so she looks like she did when i met her at least. All i know is im usually around 150-155 cuz im not that tall and the past yr or so i went up to 167 and intend to lose that nd never be above 155 again tll im at least 45-50 years old. When i get down to 150 (which i will cuz this is out of the ordinary for mecuz ive had a really insabne period at work which is almost over), i will then weight 50-55 lbs less than my girlfriend and were ther same height. Why does she sob and go nuts if i bring uip weight? What girl weighs 50 lbs more than their man? None of her firends do.

Shes comign back form a trip where she just got wasted every night with her friends and laid at the pool, i bet she gained another 5 lbs. She is so in for a rude awakenign when she gets back in a couple days. I am flat out refusing to go out to dinner, go for drinks, go for ice cream, get snacks in the movies, and i am not buying any junk or sweets at all for the house, and if i do for myself sinc eim not obese and still want some, i am hiding them. I am gonna say listen we can hgave fun without eating and drinking, and we can take walks places and not sit on our fat a**es all the time. She dont like it then she can leave me, im 28 and i have my whole life ahead of me i dont need gf and prob future wife being a blob at age 26. I dread her at 36.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Shes comign back form a trip where she just got wasted every night with her friends and laid at the pool, i bet she gained another 5 lbs. She is so in for a rude awakenign when she gets back in a couple days. I am flat out refusing to go out to dinner, go for drinks, go for ice cream, get snacks in the movies, and i am not buying any junk or sweets at all for the house, and if i do for myself sinc eim not obese and still want some, i am hiding them. I am gonna say listen we can hgave fun without eating and drinking, and we can take walks places and not sit on our fat a**es all the time. She dont like it then she can leave me, im 28 and i have my whole life ahead of me i dont need gf and prob future wife being a blob at age 26.

I dread her at 36.

As does the rest of the galactic empire. Especially Han Solo.

Ok. Try this:

"I don't feel like sex tonight. Let's just watch some TV, I'm tired babe and I've got work in the morning."

No discussion needed.

If you do end up having sex with her at some point, just make her realized how absolutely BORED you are with her. In fact, don't have sex at all!

 

[DJinTraining06]

As does the rest of the galactic empire. Especially Han Solo.

Ok. Try this:

"I don't feel like sex tonight. Let's just watch some TV, I'm tired babe and I've got work in the morning."

No discussion needed.

If you do end up having sex with her at some point, just make her realized how absolutely BORED you are with her. In fact, don't have sex at all!

Im usually the one who initiates sex so it might takes weeks before she even realizes that im turning down sex. But that sounds like it might be a good idea. Of course then im punishing myself, no sex for weeks sucks but hopefully shell get the point then. Guess ill just joke the chicken for the next month or so and see if this experiement works. Funny thing is there's been several times in the past 6 mopnths or so where i cant keep it hard. At first i thouhgt it was me, cuz im attreacted to her, but now im questioning if she really turns me on anymore tho, alot of times she doesn't. Maybe i just initiate the sex cuz im horny, cuz lets face it any of uis can get off with a fat chick, once its in it still feels pretty good fat or not. Maybe im remembering her being better looking and liking it but then she really isnt. i dunno this is bumming me out tho, i see alll these think girls with great bodies now that its summer and it makes me sad, if i stay with herill never get to enjoy that. On the other hand i do love her. beauty is fleeting and 15-20 years from now most 25 year old girls will be fat and wrinkly also.

 

[Alle_Gory]

most 25 year old girls will be fat and wrinkly also.

If you let them. All they need is a little motivation to stay fit. I've seen older women that are sometimes hotter than 20 year olds because they take care of their bodies.

 

[DJinTraining06]

If you let them. All they need is a little motivation to stay fit. I've seen older women that are sometimes hotter than 20 year olds because they take care of their bodies.

I know alot of people say its cuz im an AFC and i let it happen and all that. But what about all the girls who are dating afc's and are still thin and in shape? I know plenty of chumps who are dating thin girls and they are whipped pvssies. Some girls just know alot about cooking and nutrtion and work out on their own, without doing it to get guys when theyre single or keeping thin in a relationship cuz their man is ALPHA.
They just simply like being in shape and are disgusted with being flabby. With alot of thin girls thats just them and has nothing to with motivation from a man or anything. She has no problem wearing a bikini at the pool on her trip, it prob looks awful but i dont think shes at all embarassed. Shes comfortable with fat. I dont get i cuz im not tlike that. If i have the slightest bit of a gut it makes me sick to look at my reflection in the mirror. Im young i actually want to look good just for the sake of looking good. I hope i can motivate her.
Im gonna try and lead her like some of u suggested. She will be afraid to do anything fattening in my prescence soon. Least I hope so

 

[DJinTraining06]

If you let them. All they need is a little motivation to stay fit. I've seen older women that are sometimes hotter than 20 year olds because they take care of their bodies.

I know alot of people say its cuz im an AFC and i let it happen and all that. But what about all the girls who are dating afc's and are still thin and in shape? I know plenty of chumps who are dating thin girls and they are whipped pvssies. Some girls just know alot about cooking and nutrtion and work out on their own, without doing it to get guys when theyre single or keeping thin in a relationship cuz their man is ALPHA.
They just simply like being in shape and are disgusted with being flabby. With alot of thin girls thats just them and has nothing to with motivation from a man or anything. She has no problem wearing a bikini at the pool on her trip, it prob looks awful but i dont think shes at all embarassed. Shes comfortable with fat. I dont get i cuz im not tlike that. If i have the slightest bit of a gut it makes me sick to look at my reflection in the mirror. Im young i actually want to look good just for the sake of looking good. I hope i can motivate her.
Im gonna try and lead her like some of u suggested. She will be afraid to do anything fattening in my prescence soon. Least I hope so

 

[user43770]

Spike her drinks with Ephedrine.