How is being able to walk away an attractive quality?

[Gamisch]

Walking away is what losers do. You walk away and some new guy will be bustin nuts in her before you know it. The woman wont think twice about you if you walk away. Nowadays women have too many options to care about you. 20 years ago walking away mightve been cool but now with social media its your loss if you walk away.

Funnily enough there's this female ebony dating coach who said this as well. Her theory was in order to get her back you should stay in contact. I always remember this because its so different from any other advice.

Yet, i disagree. Its actually bs. You cant stop a woman from following her p00sy once she wants out. No amount of attention will stop her. You might prolong your own pain because the healing takss longer.

Being able to walk away is an invisible force, like being able to kill or murk a man, having a lotta money, having a good D , the dgaf mindset ect. Its felt without ever having to mention it if that makes sense.

 

[zekko]

Scared little men walk away from there problems. Do you pout like a little baby when you walk away too. I bet you do

I think you two are talking about two different situations. The OP is talking about being able to walk away. Not necessarily giving up at the first sign of a challenge.

 

[soulforge]

You arent special. Once youre gone she wont care. You can be the chump on the sideline getting none. I guarantee ive bedded more women then you. Im just spitting a nugget. Youre old school advice doesnt work in todays game. Women have 10 men on backup at all times. Btw youre assuming holding onto one means you dont have others on the side. Where did I say that I accept disrespect from a woman? You can still be in a relationship and in control and not walk away. Scared little men walk away from there problems. Do you pout like a little baby when you walk away too. I bet you do

The idea isn't that you walk away at the first sign of drama or some problem.

Obviously it's best to try work on things a little and. I tend to give maybe 2-3 chances for the relationship to get back on track.

If after multiple attempts and opportunities the relationship is still toxic/problematic then walking away is the only solution.

What else can you do, if things are heading south fast!!

 

[SW15]

Walking away means that you have mastered having a good frame.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #1

Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of who’s frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.

 

[soulforge]

You arent special. Once youre gone she wont care. You can be the chump on the sideline getting none. I guarantee ive bedded more women then you. Im just spitting a nugget. Youre old school advice doesnt work in todays game. Women have 10 men on backup at all times. Btw youre assuming holding onto one means you dont have others on the side. Where did I say that I accept disrespect from a woman? You can still be in a relationship and in control and not walk away. Scared little men walk away from there problems. Do you pout like a little baby when you walk away too. I bet you do

In the ideal world men would have several other chicks, aswell as his current problematic LTR, however the REALITY is, most average men are lucky to get a single date in a 6 month period.

There only option is the chick they are with and if she is treating him like crap, then walking away is all he can do.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Walking away is what losers do. You walk away and some new guy will be bustin nuts in her before you know it. The woman wont think twice about you if you walk away.

Who cares?

Honestly I WANT that to happen. Then she won't bother me any more.

 

[soulforge]

I think walking away can work but I am a believer in leaving doors open and not shutting them completely. I know some of you guys are firm on walking away and never talking with them again. I dont like that scenario because you spent time with this person and they were a part of your life. I dont like burning bridges. I get what you mean about some guys only having walking away as an option but if you are a d*ck from the get go then there will be less of a chance that she will disrespect you cause she knows your a d*ck and you can get p*ssy from other places if you need to. The boundaries have to be set early on the relationship though. Let her know you can do without her and that you have other options if she ever even thinks about disrespecting you. I have followed pooks and rollos advice for many years. Im not some guy that doesnt know how all of this works but sometimes I dont fully agree with some of these principles that are supposed to be set in stone. I think some of the player rules can be bent and you can still get great results.

Agreed when it comes to disrespect you gotta be willing to walk.. And the chick instinctively will need to know that you will Walk.

However the crazee ones will still try you and some will break those boundaries no matter what.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

You arent special. Once youre gone she wont care. You can be the chump on the sideline getting none. I guarantee ive bedded more women then you. Im just spitting a nugget. Youre old school advice doesnt work in todays game. Women have 10 men on backup at all times.

Wrong in many ways.

If you arent special to her, you need to walk.

If she can replace you by tomorrow, you are not good enough for her caliber.

If she has 10 men like you as backup, you made the fatal error of choosing a woman thats above your own sexual market value.

The REAL nugget:
The wise man chooses his woman amongst the ones that hallow the ground he walks on.


This of course is only important if you are considering the woman in question as GF/wife-material..... if she is just a sex toy, who gives a shyt anyway?

 

[soulforge]

Wrong in many ways.

If you arent special to her, you need to walk.

If she can replace you by tomorrow, you are not good enough for her caliber.

If she has 10 men like you as backup, you made the fatal error of choosing a woman thats above your own sexual market value.

The REAL nugget:
The wise man chooses his woman amongst the ones that hallow the ground he walks on.


This of course is only important if you are considering the woman in question as GF/wife-material..... if she is just a sex toy, who gives a shyt anyway?

Yes staying in constant fear that she will easily replace you will without a doubt keep you in the position of weakness in the relationship.

She will sense that weakness, and drop you eventually anyway.

The idea is, doesn't matter how many options she has, she MUST understand that you will walk either way, if her behaviour/conduct isn't acceptable.

If her bad behaviour continues, then it's time to walk away. Will she replace you?

Yeh more than likely, but who cares if she isn't worth keeping around for the long term.

Something I have learned from my current experience is, absolutely do not LTR these girls if there conduct is problematic or they are causing too much drama.

Keep them in the sex zone indefinitely or till they prove they are a positive force in your life.

 

[manfrombelow]

Wrong in many ways.

If you arent special to her, you need to walk.

If she can replace you by tomorrow, you are not good enough for her caliber.

If she has 10 men like you as backup, you made the fatal error of choosing a woman thats above your own sexual market value.

The REAL nugget:
The wise man chooses his woman amongst the ones that hallow the ground he walks on.


This of course is only important if you are considering the woman in question as GF/wife-material..... if she is just a sex toy, who gives a shyt anyway?

All basic common sense. Perfectly broken down.

 

[manfrombelow]

Yes staying in constant fear that she will easily replace you will without a doubt keep you in the position of weakness in the relationship.

The very last thing a person (no matter man or woman) wants to do with their life, is choose to stay in a relationship out of FEAR of losing that relationship. This should be taught to children before even maths or reading.

 

[soulforge]

When it comes significant disrespect.

It should be 1 strike & walking away.

If she comes crawling back, let her know your boundaries.

If hit happens again. Walk away permanently!

I know some of you guys believe it should be a Dumping on the first offense.

 

[Westminster]

When it comes significant disrespect.

It should be 1 strike & walking away.

If she comes crawling back, let her know your boundaries.

If hit happens again. Walk away permanently!

I know some of you guys believe it should be a Dumping on the first offense.

Sorry if I'm being naive but how would you define disrespect? Can you give some examples please.

 

[soulforge]

Sorry if I'm being naive but how would you define disrespect? Can you give some examples please.

I will give you a couple of examples that happened to me.

01. Had a date setup with my ex 5pm Friday. The night prior to the date, she went to a friend's house and began drinking alcohol, got absolutely drunk and slept through the entire day and didn't show up for the date.

She messaged me later in the night of the date, asking me how my day has been? No mention of the date, no acknowledgement that she didn't show up.. Absolutely no apology.

I ignored her text, and she lost her mind, called me 22x then showed up at my door wanting to speak to me. Only after I had to explain to her what she did, only then did she acknowledge any wrong doing and apologized.

02. Had a little disagreement with her.. She tells me to "Shut The Fack Up" I walk away from her, she sends a text message and ENDS the relationship. I agree with the break up.. She loses her mind, starts blowing up my phone, claiming she ended it out of anger and didn't mean it.

You can call this disrespect and or drama.. To me it felt like obvious Disrespect.

 

[Westminster]

I will give you a couple of examples that happened to me.

01. Had a date setup with my ex 5pm Friday. The night prior to the date, she went to a friend's house and began drinking alcohol, got absolutely drunk and slept through the entire day and didn't show up for the date.

She messaged me later in the night of the date, asking me how my day has been? No mention of the date, no acknowledgement that she didn't show up.. Absolutely no apology.

I ignored her text, and she lost her mind, called me 22x then showed up at my door wanting to speak to me. Only after I had to explain to her what she did, only then did she acknowledge any wrong doing and apologized.

02. Had a little disagreement with her.. She tells me to "Shut The Fack Up" I walk away from her, she sends a text message and ENDS the relationship. I agree with the break up.. She loses her mind, starts blowing up my phone, claiming she ended it out of anger and didn't mean it.

You can call this disrespect and or drama.. To me it felt like obvious Disrespect.

Got it. Thank you

 

[soulforge]

I got a relationship with this 'passionate' girl who liked to slapped me in the face during a quarrel.
I didn't give her the response she expected, I told her that physical violence against a loved one is always wrong and I was out.
I left her and she left messages on my answering machine (happened a long time ago) begging me to reconsider and give her another chance.
I had a stern talk with her about physicality. She claimed she had hit me because she was angry. I told her that she had to control those impulses around me, because if she ever tried to physically hurt me again, I would be out and not coming back.
Second quarrel she broke plates on the kitchen floor, but it was her floor and her plates, so I didn't care.
Third quarrel I was just in time to block a punch, so I walked out.
She blew up my answering machine with messages; tearful at first, then accusatory, then belligerent and angry, then offended screaming.
I never get back to her, but I found out that she has a history of domestic abuse against men. And most of these men were abused as children and didn't put up a fight. She had broken the jaw of a previous boyfriend with a crystal ashtray and the guy she had after me ended up in the hospital with a broken hip and leg after she pushed him down the stairs.

Sometimes 'passionate' means 'insane'.

Damn that is nuts. First sign of anything physical and I am out of the door.

Seems like was lots of quarreling? Also not a good sign.

 

[Westminster]

They seem like pretty severe examples, especially those described by AmsterdamAssassin but would you regard as being spoken to in a harsh or dismissive tone as disrespect? Personally, I do but I wonder if I'm too sensitive and should just roll with it a bit more.

In my last relationship the girl got into a habit of speaking to me in an offhand way, which started causing a lot of arguments and then she finished the relationship when I challenged her about the way she was speaking to me (which I did find disrespectful).

Partly, I blame myself because I seriously lost frame which, on reflection, may have caused her to lose respect but I also witnessed the way she spoke to her mother which could often be offhand and brusque.

Either way, I didn't like the way I was being treated but is this disrespect? It wasn't simply what was being said, it was the way things were said, which I really didn't like. But I dunno, maybe I am just too sensitive.

 

[soulforge]

I was younger then. I was attracted to 'passionate' women, but many of them were just 'bonkers'.


It's the tone that makes the music. If her tone is dismissive and she doesn't mean to be dismissive, she has to change her tone. If she means it, she's disdainful to you and I personally wouldn't accept that.

Yeh the delivery/tone is important.

If she argues nicely once a while, that's to be expected. If she has no impulse control & goes on a agressive tirade often, then that's a problem.

 

[soulforge]

They seem like pretty severe examples, especially those described by AmsterdamAssassin but would you regard as being spoken to in a harsh or dismissive tone as disrespect? Personally, I do but I wonder if I'm too sensitive and should just roll with it a bit more.

In my last relationship the girl got into a habit of speaking to me in an offhand way, which started causing a lot of arguments and then she finished the relationship when I challenged her about the way she was speaking to me (which I did find disrespectful).

Partly, I blame myself because I seriously lost frame which, on reflection, may have caused her to lose respect but I also witnessed the way she spoke to her mother which could often be offhand and brusque.

Either way, I didn't like the way I was being treated but is this disrespect? It wasn't simply what was being said, it was the way things were said, which I really didn't like. But I dunno, maybe I am just too sensitive.

I think the tone is important.

If it's something she does regular, then yeh at some point you will snap back and get angry at her.

I wouldn't recommend arguing with a woman, avoid it all cost, however some crazy chicks will drive you to an argument.

I had the same problem as you, when she went off on a tirade with anger in her voice and constant challenging, I would also question whether this is disrespect or am I being too sensitive.

 

[Westminster]

I think the tone is important.

If it's something she does regular, then yeh at some point you will snap back and get angry at her.

I wouldn't recommend arguing with a woman, avoid it all cost, however some crazy chicks will drive you to an argument.

I had the same problem as you, when she went off on a tirade with anger in her voice and constant challenging, I would also question whether this is disrespect or am I being too sensitive.

It's a bit of a conundrum really. Sometimes I think zero tolerance is the best policy, other times I just think it's better to ignore and/or avoid conflict. Problem is, a lot of women nowadays push their luck and then burst into tears when you have a go back. So, it's a difficult balance.