I agree 100% with you. But what can I do? All I can do is "be there for her" if (when?) things dont work out.
It is all you can do. Perhaps when the time comes you can help her see her own value. She doesn’t for whatever reason. Walking away can be very tough, especially if the person is very attractive or you are very attached to them. But your own self respect comes first, always.
That is true abundance in action, the core knowledge that you are worthy and that if that certain person found you attractive so too will someone else, so get on with it.
About 2 weeks after meeting my husband he invited me to dinner. I met him, he seemed cagey. I asked him what’s up with the off behavior.
He said: I don’t like that you have kids and I don’t like that you travel for work……
I responded very calmly. I said: I understand. That means I’m not your girl and that’s Ok.
And I got up from the table, (very calmly) and I walked toward the door.
He practically lept out of his seat, ran after me and said: Wait! Where are you going?
I told him: I cannot change that I have children and I cannot change my work requirements because you don’t like those things. Those are structural realities of my life and there are other people who don’t see that as an impediment. So I’d rather not waste my time or yours….
He drew his breath in, sized me up for a moment and told me: That’s not fair to you, I really like you, I’ll figure it out (and he did). Not without some bumps in the road, but he knew he wanted ME, and he knew those conditions of my life are immovable and non negotiable. And I showed him a willingness to walk away, the ABILITY to walk away, with ZFG.
He understood because he observed my level of self respect and that raised, instantly, in that moment, his respect for me, even though he still wasn’t crazy about my situation, he was crazy about me (and remains so).
Nobody is going to be perfect. But you’ve got to love yourself first; respect yourself first. This comes across in your energy, your vibe. It is a ridiculously attractive quality to possess.
I’m pretty but I’m not the hottest girl on the planet, nor am I the youngest. But I LOVE me. It’s infectious and other people want to love me too.
This whole thread is about love yourself first; respect yourself first. You’ll cut so much BS out of your life by doing that and being true to that.