Getting with older women

[RickTheToad]

Most men on here appear to be into younger women.

I am in somewhat of the opposite position. Despite being 32, I prefer women in the 45-65 age range (I might even be willing to go above 65 on a case-by-case basis).

Is there anything different about the approach a man should use when trying to get a woman significantly older than himself?

Also, seeing as a decent chunk of that age range is old enough to be my mom, how do I get past the "I couldn't bring myself to do a bedroom session with a guy young enough to be my son" roadblock that a lot of older women have?

Why stop at 65? I hear there are some 80 and 90 year olds at the nursing home. You can take your pick!

 

[GoodMan32]

Most men have some level of disappointment as they age.

45+ men who find themselves dating again often find they have to drop their standards in order to get someone.

Many 45+ men are having sex with the same 45+ woman that they've been having sex with for decades. Those guys take some solace in the fact they had sex with her in the better looking years.



That would be true on one variable (age). When you're 50, 45-50 year old women are going to find you more appealing because you're in an age range that they consider acceptable. It's unknown how they'll perceive you at 50 on other variables. Income/net worth start to become more important in initial seduction and retention in later years.

Income/net worth being important as you age depends on the woman. My aunt, post-divorce, ended up dating a man who was then in his late 40s whose income/net worth was nothing special (in fact, he had quite a bit of debt). They're now married.

Then 4-5 years ago or so, I knew a man in his 50s who was technically homeless (slept in his car; showered at Planet Fitness). Even though he didn't get a whole lot of cooch, he got cooch easier than me. It even got back to me that he said (behind my back) I'm light years behind him when it comes to getting cooch.

I suppose I'm unique in the sense that even though my income is low, I have a decent net worth.

 

[GoodMan32]

Why stop at 65? I hear there are some 80 and 90 year olds at the nursing home. You can take your pick!

I don't find 80 or 90 year olds attractive.

I draw the line somewhere.

 

[RickTheToad]

I don't find 80 or 90 year olds attractive.

I draw the line somewhere.

Not hating. Here's a 103 year old that you may find hot and irresistible. You do you.

Woman, 103, credits this 1 fruit and special green juice for her longevity

Pearl Taylor has become a star on TikTok, where she gives her advice about happiness, love and healthy habits.

www.today.com

 

[GoodMan32]

Not hating. Here's a 103 year old that you may find hot and irresistible. You do you.

Woman, 103, credits this 1 fruit and special green juice for her longevity

Pearl Taylor has become a star on TikTok, where she gives her advice about happiness, love and healthy habits.

www.today.com

I don't find her attractive

 

[SW15]

Then there's the 65 year old I've been banging since she was 57. My attraction to her is fading. If it weren't for the fact I met her when I was more attracted to her, I'm pretty sure I'd cut her loose.

There are a lot of men (almost always married men) in their 50s/60s in monogamous, long term relationships who have been having sex with the same similarly aged to them woman for 20+ or even 25+ years. A lot of them aren't thrilled about having sex with their 50s/60s aged wife but they have had long shared history and met her when she was more physically attractive.

 

[GoodMan32]

There are a lot of men (almost always married men) in their 50s/60s in monogamous, long term relationships who have been having sex with the same similarly aged to them woman for 20+ or even 25+ years. A lot of them aren't thrilled about having sex with their 50s/60s aged wife but they have had long shared history and met her when she was more physically attractive.

Interestingly, I nailed said 65 year old yesterday.

I don't think I'm going to get with her anymore. My attraction to her is no longer there.

 

[GoodMan32]

Speaking of older broads, I mentioned on the forum that my next door neighbor gave critiques on how to redo my business cards.

When I ran into her the other day, I told her I took a better picture for the revised business cards. Then I told her "I'm glad I was able to get your input. When you're only slightly above average like me, a good picture is key."

My goal was to get her to tell me I'm more than slightly above average.

Even though she didn't verbalize it, she made an expression/noise that essentially said "Come on, you know you're more than slightly above average"

 

[Clockwerk50]

Speaking of older broads, I mentioned on the forum that my next door neighbor gave critiques on how to redo my business cards.

When I ran into her the other day, I told her I took a better picture for the revised business cards. Then I told her "I'm glad I was able to get your input. When you're only slightly above average like me, a good picture is key."

My goal was to get her to tell me I'm more than slightly above average.

Even though she didn't verbalize it, she made an expression/noise that essentially said "Come on, you know you're more than slightly above average"

Bruh, at least recognize that women communicate differently than men. If anything, the fact that she keeps talking to you probably means you're giving off good vibes. Women typically aren't as direct as men—they often communicate in a more subtle, indirect way.

That said, I wouldn't be surprised if you're the one who's lingering around, hoping to interact with her, instead of the other way around. But don't feel the need to argue with me—I’m not claiming to know exactly what's going on. I just want you to understand the point of the first sentence.

 

[Lean Baby Face]

Interesting how much we have in common. Per your profile, you're even younger than me. Yet you prefer the same age cohort I do.

I know what you mean about broads below 30 looking like girls.

Another thing we have in common is the fact we don't want a full time relationship; just a weekend smash-piece.

The coworkers I associate with the most tend to be much older female coworkers. I even had a mutually flirtatious dynamic with a 60 year old woman I worked with back when I was in my late 20s.

"Weekend smash-piece".

While that was quite funny, that is actually not what I want, despite still not wanting a full-time relationship. I still want a monogamous relationship, I just don't wanna share address (or maybe, who knows what the future will bring), be together everyday, or have big future plans, like the ones younger LTRs usually have.

I just want a nice relaxed relationship where you see each other when there's time for it, while still calling each other baby and do romantic things/have hot sex, and older women are the perfect match for that type of relationship, as they usually always want the same as I described. Just enjoying and living life together in the moment rather than worrying about the future.

 

[GoodMan32]

"Weekend smash-piece".

While that was quite funny, that is actually not what I want, despite still not wanting a full-time relationship. I still want a monogamous relationship, I just don't wanna share address (or maybe, who knows what the future will bring), be together everyday, or have big future plans, like the ones younger LTRs usually have.

I just want a nice relaxed relationship where you see each other when there's time for it, while still calling each other baby and do romantic things/have hot sex, and older women are the perfect match for that type of relationship, as they usually always want the same as I described. Just enjoying and living life together in the moment rather than worrying about the future.

I'd be down for what you're describing.

A weekend smash-piece relationship can still be monogamous

Like you, I'd like to do stuff (both sexually and non-sexually) when there's time for it (as opposed to a girlfriend my age/younger, who would want to be with me every second I'm not at work)

One piece of advice I have: Even if what I'm about to describe isn't exactly what you want, it might be worth a shot while you're holding out for what you really want. I'd recommend possibly finding an older married woman who's looking for a young guy to commit adultery with. I had one of those charades with a middle-aged broad when I was 23. Since she was married (and had kids), it's not like we could be together every single second (which is why such a relationship might work for you)

 

[architectintx]

I'm 47 and my last few hookups and lays over the last few have been with women 3 to 10 years older. It's hard to connect with women 10 to 15 years younger (atleast online)

where do you find them? cold approach? give me some pointers? I am 47 and its been a drag hunting for meat

 

[GoodMan32]

where do you find them? cold approach? give me some pointers? I am 47 and its been a drag hunting for meat

I'd be intrigued to hear his answer too.

 

[Clockwerk50]

where do you find them? cold approach? give me some pointers? I am 47 and its been a drag hunting for meat

How attractive are you, and what do you have going for yourself?

It shouldn’t be too difficult, unless you're married and having to pull off elaborate schemes and missions to keep your affairs hidden from your spouse.

 

[RickTheToad]

@GoodMan32 - I think I found the one for you. She's a latina and is 116!!! Enjoy my friend.

https://www.cnn.com/2023/01/26/europe/maria-branyas-morera-oldest-person-scli-intl/index.html

 

[GoodMan32]

@GoodMan32 - I think I found the one for you. She's a latina and is 116!!! Enjoy my friend.

https://www.cnn.com/2023/01/26/europe/maria-branyas-morera-oldest-person-scli-intl/index.html

Very funny. Maybe if she has a granddaughter, the granddaughter would be up my alley.

 

[jhonny9546]

They like younger men to validate them.

How, do you usually validate older women?

 

[GoodMan32]

How, do you usually validate older women?

Even though you weren't asking me, being the OP, I'm going to chime in.

Getting an above average (on the looks scale) 23 year old's wood validated the older married broad who had an affair with me back when I was 23. I was certainly a lot better than the sex life (or lack of) she had at home: A 50 year old husband who hadn't banged her in years.

 

[Lean Baby Face]

I'd be down for what you're describing.

A weekend smash-piece relationship can still be monogamous

Like you, I'd like to do stuff (both sexually and non-sexually) when there's time for it (as opposed to a girlfriend my age/younger, who would want to be with me every second I'm not at work)

One piece of advice I have: Even if what I'm about to describe isn't exactly what you want, it might be worth a shot while you're holding out for what you really want. I'd recommend possibly finding an older married woman who's looking for a young guy to commit adultery with. I had one of those charades with a middle-aged broad when I was 23. Since she was married (and had kids), it's not like we could be together every single second (which is why such a relationship might work for you)

I'd be up for an adulterous woman if it's an affair to satisfy her needs that her husband is unable to please, but if it's developing into a relationship I'd prefer her divorcing him first (which she probably should've done many years ago if she's thinking of committing adultery to begin with). I want my woman to be mine and not have connections with other men, even if that happened to be a former spouse. Call me entitled, but that's part of my standards. Be loyal to me and I'll be loyal in return.

Also, in case she's still married and in contact with her husband, there might still be the possibility of her still having occasional sex with him, which is big no-go for me. In no way can I deal with the thought of her getting penetrated by her husband's hairy viagra-fueled wiener, while another day lustfully being seduced by my clean-shaving angel penis, ough...

 

[jhonny9546]

A 50 year old husband who hadn't banged her in years.

I think penis size playis a big role but I think our biggest tool is in our brain.
And by the way, we are talking here of "years" of non having sex.
You don't have people saying, but eventually can read it in their face, that they don't have sex.