Getting with older women

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The oldest Millennials were born in 1981-1982. So the earliest Millennials will be turning 45 in 2026-2027.
Which is right around the corner.

The last 10 years have gone by in a flash.
 

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“But yeah... older women are better. Women in their mid-30s and lower are just too much chaos and BS.”

True that!
The woman I went on my last date with (I made a thread about her at the time) was 37. Agreed; a woman her age and younger=bad news.
 

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All women are in some way 'chaotic' and the level doesn't go down with age; drama queens become grumpy harridans, but the level of chaos doesn't really change.

I met level-headed 25yo and crazy 45yo. Age didn't have to do much with mercurial temperaments.

Also, you should not control her chaos. She should control her chaos for you.
The best sex I've ever had was with a 45 year old married woman who hadn't gotten her husband's banana in 2 and a half years.
 

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The best sex I've ever had was with a 45 year old married woman who hadn't gotten her husband's banana in 2 and a half years.
That is a pointless marriage. No idea why either person stayed in that marriage. You got some pussie and the husband didn't. You made him a cuck.
 

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When I was in my teens and early 20s, there were women in their 30s/40s who I found attractive. It's common to be physically attracted to an older woman.

Having sex with a substantially older woman is a decent experience once or twice earlier in life, so long as it is a casual sex arrangement and it doesn't prevent you from getting with a woman near your own age. Older woman-younger man arrangements tend to be shorter term. There might be a way to seduce a 35-42 year old woman as an 18-23 year old man.

In life, time is finite and it's difficult to attract big age gaps. Women are at their physical peaks between 18-25 and it is easiest for a man to attract these women while he's under 30.

If you really desire sex with 30s/40s women, the best time in life to do that is during your 30s/40s. Have sex with 30s/40s women who are slightly younger than you are. As a 37 year old man, it is easier to have sex with a 34 year old woman than a 21 year old woman.



There are women who will find it validating to have sex with a man young enough to be her son. It makes them feel better about themselves. There are 35-54 year old women who are very into sex with 18-25 year old men. Find a way to find them. They are more difficult to find as the typical 40-45 year old woman isn't seeking sex with a college aged man.
I agree that as a rule of thumb, age gap escapades tend to be shorter-lived.

That being said, the longest-lived sex arrangement I had was with the 45 year old married woman I mentioned on my last post. I was 23 at the time.

On the other hand, other than escorts, every 20-something woman I've had sex with was a one night stand.

I lost my v-card at 20. The last time I had free sex, I was 29. In other words, the non-escort sex I've had all took place during my 20s. My free sex included:

Two 22 year olds.
A 48 year old.
A 54 year old.
A 24 year old.
A 35 year old.
Two 42 year olds.
A 45 year old.

Even in my 20s, a majority of my free partners were over 30. Sounds like I missed the boat (as far as getting with a lot of younger women when I was under 30).

I totally agree a 37 year old man would have an easier time getting with a 34 year old than getting with a 21 year old. But here's the thing: Even at my current age of 32, I don't exactly desire a 34 year old woman (I'd take sex from one if she offered, but I prefer 45 and up).
 

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I've dated women that were 21 that were immature teenagers.

I've dated women that were 71 that were immature teenagers.

The vag is still there. The crazy is still there. Older women play games too. If any of you had a chance to get with a older woman who was attractive or spend 5 more hours playing Crash Bandicoot, you'd all go for the woman, especially if you were gonna smash. Let's not kid ourselves.

I met with a woman on Bumble who was 64, receipt included. I lied about my age since she likely wouldn't have given me the time of day otherwise. But she kept my dik harder than diamonds!

I prefer older chicks. I just don't like their games. Some are still attention wh0res and flakes and ghosts. Sometimes I regret not buying a Mercedes or a Tesla.
Hmm, lying about age to get with an older woman; that's not such a bad idea. Despite being 32, this one poster on here (I forget who) said I looked late 30s when I shared a picture. If I were to say I'm 38, I'd likely have a better chance of getting a 45+ year old woman than if I admitted to being 32.
 

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That is a pointless marriage. No idea why either person stayed in that marriage. You got some pussie and the husband didn't. You made him a cuck.
They stayed together for the kids. Or so I was told. I only heard one side of the story (I don't even know the husband).

The whole thing doesn't make one bit of sense though. Even my 23 year old wood was interested in her, yet her 50 year old husband preferred jacking off over having sex with her. A 50 year old man should be thrilled if a curvy 45 year old woman wants sex with him (especially if he's married to her)
 

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It has been said that for every beautiful woman in the world, there is a man that’s tired of having sex with her.
And then his turn is over and the next one in line can get busy.
 

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I've actually found it more difficult to get with older women than younger. Despite being middle aged, I've had better results with younger (18-30) than older. Older women seem more cautious and skeptical. I get the impression they think I'm running some 'game' on them. Younger ones just seem less defensive and more 'giddy'.
Your SMV is too high right now. It sets off alarm bells.

Similarly, I had my share of 40+ y/o cougars in my early 20s. Soon as I hit 30, no woman over 40 would even talk to me.
 

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It has been said that for every beautiful woman in the world, there is a man that’s tired of having sex with her.
This is particularly true in California.
 

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On the topic of older women:

I have a coworker who's 55 or 56. I managed to get a peek (without getting caught) of her backside this morning. She's wearing tight jeans which show off her nice backside (if you only saw a picture of her backside, you could easily believe she's half her age)

I don't get the repulsion a lot of men feel toward older broads.
 

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I have a coworker who's 55 or 56. I managed to get a peek (without getting caught) of her backside this morning.
Did you see her bare butt? It doesn't sound like it. Her skin elasticity on her butt will likely be reflective of an older woman.

In a pair of jeans, some older women's butts can look competitive.

I don't get the repulsion a lot of men feel toward older broads.
It's hard science and biology. It also goes back thousands of years, when keeping the species alive was very important. Men are programmed to be most attracted to a woman's youthfulness and fertility.

A woman's fertility peaks in her late teens and first half of her 20s. That's why women in this age range are the most desirable women.
 

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I think they might find younger guys attractive, but some might have mental hangups about going forward with a hookup or FWB with that younger guy.

Sort of like… “I don’t do that anymore” or “I shouldn’t be doing that at my age.” In others words, they might talk themselves out of it.
I think there are plenty of middle aged women (35-54) who find guys 10+ years younger than them physically attractive. Most will have some sort of mental hangup about sex with a much younger guy. Middle aged women in general have strong ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) and aren't that keen to get sexual fast. They display this both with men near their own ages and younger men. However, a small percentage of 35-54 year old women will get massively turned on by attractive younger guys (often the Chad 6'0"+, fit/muscular type, but not always). If a younger guy can give a strong sexual frame announcement to an older woman AND she's the type who doesn't have hangups about younger men, then there might be a match (generally a short term match). It's very inefficient for a younger man to make the effort to find these women.
 

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Did you see her bare butt? It doesn't sound like it. Her skin elasticity on her butt will likely be reflective of an older woman.

In a pair of jeans, some older women's butts can look competitive.



It's hard science and biology. It also goes back thousands of years, when keeping the species alive was very important. Men are programmed to be most attracted to a woman's youthfulness and fertility.

A woman's fertility peaks in her late teens and first half of her 20s. That's why women in this age range are the most desirable women.
No, I unfortunately didn't see her bare backside. You're right, it is possible she has elasticity issues (but no guarantee)

I've been with multiple 50-somethings. I've been with one 60-something. And I've been with many 40-somethings (a decent amount of which were in the 2nd half of their 40s)

(OK, this is hilarious. The coworker I posted about just walked by as I was typing this message :rofl:)

Back to my train of thought, I only recall elasticity being an issue with 2 older broads:

A 54 year old I banged when I was in college.

A 65 year old I've been banging since she was 57. Elasticity wasn't an issue with her in the beginning. It only started to become a problem once she reached 63-64 or so.

I suppose you're right about the biological/fertility explanation. It's funny how even a man like you who doesn't want kids is drawn to the most fertile of broads (but yeah, I understand a man's individual preferences won't overpower a biological instinct thousands of years in the making)
 

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I think there are plenty of middle aged women (35-54) who find guys 10+ years younger than them physically attractive. Most will have some sort of mental hangup about sex with a much younger guy. Middle aged women in general have strong ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) and aren't that keen to get sexual fast. They display this both with men near their own ages and younger men. However, a small percentage of 35-54 year old women will get massively turned on by attractive younger guys (often the Chad 6'0"+, fit/muscular type, but not always). If a younger guy can give a strong sexual frame announcement to an older woman AND she's the type who doesn't have hangups about younger men, then there might be a match (generally a short term match). It's very inefficient for a younger man to make the effort to find these women.
What's interesting (and I've mentioned this before when the topic has come up) is @AmsterdamAssassin said the total opposite (as far as anti-slvt defense goes). He said older broads have reached the age where they no longer care about getting judged for hopping into bed too soon.

As for the Chad thing, I recall you saying before that an older woman might settle for a merely above average younger guy if unable to get a younger Chad.
 

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@SW15 To expand upon the idea that evolutionary instincts are why men flock to younger broads (in other words, the most fertile broads), I fully admit I'm attracted to younger broads (even if I have my reasons for preferring older when it comes to sex)

That being said, I wouldn't necessarily say I'm most attracted to younger broads. Hell, I've reached the age where a lot of 18 year old broads look like children to me.

Perhaps I'm proof that the base biological desire to pick a broad when she's at her most fertile is slowly eroding.
 

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Young women can't take a good d!cking to save their life, including my GF

I actually tease her about that all the time
Yet for some reason, you picked a young woman (who, per your own admission, struggles to take the pipe) for a girlfriend. Interesting.
 

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Yet for some reason, you picked a young woman (who, per your own admission, struggles to take the pipe) for a girlfriend. Interesting.
Well, she doesn't really have a choice...I don't take it easy on her. Sometimes she tries to tap out but that doesn't stop me.

I just tell her to take it like a good girl and start talking sh!t to her in her ear and fvcking her harder.

To be fair most women try and tap out but the few who haven't have all been late 30s to mid 40s.

I really don't usually date younger women but she was a rare exception.
 
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