Did you bang her? I hope so if she spent the night, otherwise you likely came across pretty AFC if you spent the whole night talking MUSH to her, then cuddling, and waking up and talking 2 more hours of MUSH.
Other than that, you are doing things right with her, playing it cool, acting as a DJ. Now you need to cut the cord. You've got to learn to think and act on your own. You don't need to post here 25 times a day, asking about every little detail. Your NEVER going to learn to think on your own, if we hold your hand through everything.
You have to make mistakes and learn from them, thats the only way your going to grow. I'm not saying stop coming here, but don't ask us to analyze every single detail.
As for the coffee date, don't be a jerk and not reply, look how you were jumping in circles yesterday wondering if this girl was going to show up, until you finally sent another msg to confirm. Karma baby, treat others how you want to be treated. If for no other reason, that to keep this current girl off the pedastool, keep spinning plates, however your so attached to this new girl, that your already writing off the potential of this second coffee girl, who could be an even better match for you but you'll NEVER know because your going in with the attitude that she can't possible be as great for you as this current girl.
Be a man, live your life, do you really want us to hold your hand all the way through this?