Do you actually enjoy approaching women #2025 (YES I DO!!!)

[jhonny9546]

How impressive that you get approached in spite of your short height. Totally invalidates the idea that you need to be tall to do well with the ladies.

It's impressive because it's contradictory.

When they see a contradiction they want to know why it works.

 

[GoodMan32]

Yes i do, and its a reminder, this is a statement i fully agree with it, and i believe it applies to men more than women, if you're a guy, the World is never coming to save you, but it is the opposite for women. Like one guy said, the world is not gonna change in the sense to adapt to your autism.

Yeah, that also only adds fuel to fire in which people and society, the world, they just expect us men to have common sense or the social intuition, for knowing how to be 100 percent creep-proof or weird-proof when interacting with women, and when a guy does mess up or have an embarassing interaction with a woman in which he does creep out the woman or makes her uncomfortable and he is sadly not aware of it until he see's her reaction, thats the painful embarassing part, it can easily make guys not want to bother to interact with women ever again, but at the same time, if a guy does that, thats a death-sentence to guarantee he won't have any women in his life.

Because the unfair reality is that, if a guy never interacts with women, he won't get them, but if a woman never interacts with men, she will still get men.

Sometimes i have had the mindset over the years that, women, not men, are the only gender that are owed a relationship, men are never owed anything from women, but it's like men owe women, but women never owe men.

Ok, hearing you have ASD explains a lot. It explains why we share some similar struggles (One common struggle being the fact we're both paranoid about coming across to a woman as creepy. Autists are prone to coming across as creepy without trying...and without even knowing what exactly is "creepy" about our behavior)

Neurotypical posters will never be able to fathom the unique struggles we face. Many neurotypical posters basically tell us to snap out of it.

That would be like if a man who's in a wheelchair vented on this forum about the unique struggles he faces in getting a woman, and I were to lecture him on how being in a wheelchair really doesn't hold him back, if I were to tell him "all you need to do is approach more gals," etc.

The difference, however, is I would never lecture a wheelchair-bound man like that. One, it would be insensitive of me. Two, being in a wheelchair comes with struggles I'm unable to imagine (and hopefully I never find out). So it really isn't my place to act like I know what it's like to be in a wheelchair.

You're damn right about how only a woman is owed success romantically/sexually; not a man. Which is all the more reason it pisses me off when male autists get accused of feeling owed. No, we don't feel owed success in the lady department. We simply want success in the lady department (and are angry about not getting more success)

One more thing I should mention: If I recall, you said you've had 3-4 instances where a woman came onto you.

All that means is there have been 3-4 instances you've been aware of. If your looks are good enough there have been 3-4 instances you know of, chances are you've had more instances where a woman came onto you; your ASD just caused you to miss the clues (same goes for me; I've probably had lots of opportunities I wasn't aware of)

 

[Gamisch]

Ok, hearing you have ASD explains a lot. It explains why we share some similar struggles (One common struggle being the fact we're both paranoid about coming across to a woman as creepy. Autists are prone to coming across as creepy without trying...and without even knowing what exactly is "creepy" about our behavior)

Neurotypical posters will never be able to fathom the unique struggles we face. Many neurotypical posters basically tell us to snap out of it.

That would be like if a man who's in a wheelchair vented on this forum about the unique struggles he faces in getting a woman, and I were to lecture him on how being in a wheelchair really doesn't hold him back, if I were to tell him "all you need to do is approach more gals," etc.

The difference, however, is I would never lecture a wheelchair-bound man like that. One, it would be insensitive of me. Two, being in a wheelchair comes with struggles I'm unable to imagine (and hopefully I never find out). So it really isn't my place to act like I know what it's like to be in a wheelchair.

You're damn right about how only a woman is owed success romantically/sexually; not a man. Which is all the more reason it pisses me off when male autists get accused of feeling owed. No, we don't feel owed success in the lady department. We simply want success in the lady department (and are angry about not getting more success)

One more thing I should mention: If I recall, you said you've had 3-4 instances where a woman came onto you.

All that means is there have been 3-4 instances you've been aware of. If your looks are good enough there have been 3-4 instances you know of, chances are you've had more instances where a woman came onto you; your ASD just caused you to miss the clues (same goes for me; I've probably had lots of opportunities I wasn't aware of)

If a man in a wheelchair is on Runnersforum.com spamming the board with questions then yeah, at some point people will get upset with it and ask him to shyte or get off the pot.

If a war breaks out tomorrow nobody cares who got what and every man gas to find ways to survive. Dating ain't no different. It's a (gender) like war without rules. Every man regardless of his flaws must fond ways to make it through.

Short black Indian Asian white no diploma arab fat poor nice guy ASD ect. We ALL fight for the same spots.

 

[H8CourtshipWithAPassion]

Ok, hearing you have ASD explains a lot. It explains why we share some similar struggles (One common struggle being the fact we're both paranoid about coming across to a woman as creepy. Autists are prone to coming across as creepy without trying...and without even knowing what exactly is "creepy" about our behavior)

Neurotypical posters will never be able to fathom the unique struggles we face. Many neurotypical posters basically tell us to snap out of it.

That would be like if a man who's in a wheelchair vented on this forum about the unique struggles he faces in getting a woman, and I were to lecture him on how being in a wheelchair really doesn't hold him back, if I were to tell him "all you need to do is approach more gals," etc.

The difference, however, is I would never lecture a wheelchair-bound man like that. One, it would be insensitive of me. Two, being in a wheelchair comes with struggles I'm unable to imagine (and hopefully I never find out). So it really isn't my place to act like I know what it's like to be in a wheelchair.

You're damn right about how only a woman is owed success romantically/sexually; not a man. Which is all the more reason it pisses me off when male autists get accused of feeling owed. No, we don't feel owed success in the lady department. We simply want success in the lady department (and are angry about not getting more success)

One more thing I should mention: If I recall, you said you've had 3-4 instances where a woman came onto you.

All that means is there have been 3-4 instances you've been aware of. If your looks are good enough there have been 3-4 instances you know of, chances are you've had more instances where a woman came onto you; your ASD just caused you to miss the clues (same goes for me; I've probably had lots of opportunities I wasn't aware of)

yeah, thats why it is very enraging when people say to guys or men "don't be creepy or weird then", well okay, most guys are not specifically taught as to what is creepy/weird/uncomfortable behavior when interacting with women, thats another reminder on how people and society just expect us guys to naturally "get it", for knowing how to NEVER be creepy or weird, or never make women uncomfortable when approaching/pursuing/making advances on them.

 

[GoodMan32]

If a man in a wheelchair is on Runnersforum.com spamming the board with questions then yeah, at some point people will get upset with it and ask him to shyte or get off the pot.

If a war breaks out tomorrow nobody cares who got what and every man gas to find ways to survive. Dating ain't no different. It's a (gender) like war without rules. Every man regardless of his flaws must fond ways to make it through.

Short black Indian Asian white no diploma arab fat poor nice guy ASD ect. We ALL fight for the same spots.

The difference is I've gotten dates/free sex before. So I know I'm capable.

The wheelchair guy will (unfortunately) never be able to run.

 

[GoodMan32]

yeah, thats why it is very enraging when people say to guys or men "don't be creepy or weird then", well okay, most guys are not specifically taught as to what is creepy/weird/uncomfortable behavior when interacting with women, thats another reminder on how people and society just expect us guys to naturally "get it", for knowing how to NEVER be creepy or weird, or never make women uncomfortable when approaching/pursuing/making advances on them.

And while neurotypical men will likely be pretty good at learning what's "creepy" if taught, we (autists) will always run into the problem where our instinct is prone to "creepiness" (Yeah, we can learn about a few specific behaviors that are creepy, and thus refrain from said behaviors. But there are thousands of instinctual behaviors that can never be trained out of us)

 

[Gamisch]

The difference is I've gotten dates/free sex before. So I know I'm capable.

The wheelchair guy will (unfortunately) never be able to run.

I think that after four years your dating history gets erased.

That's makes you a virgin by now.