"Alpha" and "beta" for humans depends on the social context. My boss at work is the alpha at work. He's a beta with his wife. Middle-managers at work, the "betas" are alphas in their social groups. They are also betas in social groups they're not as established in.
It's context-dependent. But generally, "alpha" is a man who behaves in accordance with high testosterone levels. It doesn't mean everyone supplicates to him, or that he's the leader of everyone.
So many white collar manager bosses are alphas in the context of their work but betas in romantic relationships.
As I've often said on this forum, a first date with a woman should never involve expensive wine 'n dine venues. It should be at a casual bar or lounge where costs can be moderated and it's clear that you're not trying to impress anyone. Don't take her to a dive. Just an unpretentious, nicer upscale bar, pub, or lounge. If the date goes well and it's clear that she's attracted to you, then you can take her with you to eat somewhere. If the date is not going well and she ejects after 2 rounds of drinks, you're out $35-40 tops. Big deal.
This is good advice provided that you don't have too many first dates that fail. Those $25-$40 failed dates will add up.
Swipe apps lead to the highest quantity of failed dates.
This is because...
- men can get more first dates from swipe apps in a lot of cases than they would from cold approaching because they can be in more places at the same time.
- interactions behind electronic screens are mostly useless. They can't predict anything about the in-person experience. A lot of men have good texting and possibly phone call sessions but the interaction falls flat in person. A 5 minute in-person interaction can save a bad date costing hours and $25-$40. Video calls can help with this which is why I don't oppose them. However, video calls are still less efficient than cold approaching.
- cold approaching is the most brutal thing out there. Swipe apps can pump you up with false hope but cold approach never does that. In cold approach, you are what you are.
The most common type of date from a swipe app is "one date, no sex, no second date". That's a complete waste. Men are better off going on fewer dates and avoiding that type of date. That type of date can happen from cold approach but in less volume.
There's a lot of post-feminist b!tching and moaning about paying the date tab on this forum, that women should pay half etc etc. THE MAN PAYS. He's not paying because he wants poon from her. He's not paying to impress her and simp. Doing either is a huge turn-off to women. He's paying because he's the man, and the man leads, the man takes care of people under this charge, the man is responsible. He takes care of his lady. Because he demonstrates that he is a masculine alpha man who protects, provides, and takes care of people, the lady is attracted to him. NOT because she wants his money.
I do not appreciate having to pick up tabs on early stages. At various points in my life, I have paid the tabs on dates for women with higher salaries than I had at the moment of the date. It is a bit of an outdated thing. With all of this said, I do it. Women's vaginas are in such demand that if I don't do it, the next guy will do it.
I don't fully agree with your premise. I think it's a combination of wanting to lead her and impress her. There's also the notion of "Whoever asks, pays" and most men are the askers for dates.
taking care of a woman on a date, which she agreed to attend because she is romantically/sexually interested in the man, is NOT THE SAME as a man hiring a professional skank to touch his d!ck. Not in any way. The only similarity is monetary expenditure, which you need to do in order to pay your rent, eat, get to work, fill your car with gas, copay a doctor's visit, whatever.
This is like saying "banging a hooker is no different from making a mortgage payment, because you have to spend money either way." Spending money on dates, and spending money on hookers, are not the fvcking same. In any way.
There are a lot guys on this forum who I very much doubt have any interest in actual pickup and seduction. They want to complain about women and Chad, and justify why it's better to bang hookers than to learn social skills with women.
It depends is the answer to most of this quote.
There are instances when "professionals skanks" are physically attracted to a client. I agree that taking a woman on a traditional date indicates that the woman is considering the man for sex.
Men pay for sex in every instance of sex. They either pay directly or indirectly. We're evaluating how direct a man is with his payment for sex.
You're correct that this forum needs to be pickup and seduction focused. Social skills and indirect payment seductions of women are difficult skills to gain. A guy who pays directly has a high cost per bang. It's always going to be high. Guys who pay indirectly are more likely to achieve a lower cost per bang if they can get a good grasp on social skills and charisma.