Brak86's Journal

[Agent Zero]

It seems like you are thinking too much right now. If you look at your last couple posts, they aren't field reports at all, they are just retrospective on your life. That's not a bad thing, but try not to overthink cause anybody who overthinks can always find something wrong with themselves or something they are doing wrong. Your homework assignment for the first week of school should be to do some approaches and feel that great feeling of an approach again.

 

[Brak86]

Tuesday September 4,

It's the first week back at college, so I've been extremely busy moving in and preparing for classes. I am living in an 8-man suite, so that should be crazyy. I've been at school for about 5 days, and I always get a bit nervous right before I start school, so I've been adjusting.

The good news is that since I've gotten back to school, I have already gotten 8 numbers (one girl number closed me). I used to be very afraid to ask for a number, but I have gotten a LOT better at doing so. I am not as afraid of a fear of rejection and I think it is showing. Also, I've noticed that I've become less self-absorbed and am beginning to relax and enjoy everything around me.

Also, I have met TONS of more people so far. Every time i am in an elevator, instead of being quiet, I immediately open whoever is in the elevator. I think I've met over 30 people just in this first week.

But all this good news does come with some bad news. One of my friends and wings Rockstar came in to visit me for a night(I haven't seen him since last year) and I was just out of my element. I drank too much, I was in my head, and I was being very insecure. I think part of me wanted to prove something to him that I've become a totally new person (which is funny, because he is my friend and i shouldn't try to prove anything to anyone, ESPECIALLY one of my friends). Also, I wanted to show him a good time and nothing happened that night so I felt the burden that it was my responsibility.

I honestly think that this was just the pressure that comes from the beginning of the year. Nevertheless, I'm really excited about this year.

 

[Brak86]

Saturday, September 15

I've gotten two KCLOSES the past two weekends here at college (both are from the same girl, HB7.5). It's a long story, but to put it shortly, I went and met everyone on my floor a couple of weeks ago. Last Saturday the 8th, my roomates and I then threw a party in our dorm suite, and the girl came (she lives on my floor). We ended up playing like 5 games of beer pong together. I told her I wanted to show her something, so I took her to my room. She told me earlier that she used to play guitar, so I told her to show me her stuff. She didn't know how to play anything at all so I gave her a lesson. I had her sit down while I showed her how to play simple riffs. I got of KINO in, but before I was going to make a move, one of her guy friends came into my room and made up some BS lie that the RA's were going to break up the party soon, so she ended up leaving. F*cking ****block.

However, I saw her later that night and went back to her apartment with her. She and her roomates took me into one of their big closets, because they wanted to show me how they wanted to turn it into a small "boom-boom" room (i dont know what the f*ck a boom boom is). Her roomates left the closet, but before HB7.5 could leave, I pulled her back, shut the door, pushed her against the door, and made out with her.

That was last week.

On Thursday September 13th, I invited her over after classes because I wanted to show her a "surprise." My brother just got his picture in a magazine, so I wanted to show her that. I planned on hooking up with her again, but the whole thing went badly. I was extremely uncomfortable, and she was too. She left after 5 minutes. I was pissed at myself. I didn't plan well and I thought I screwed up any further chances with her.

But this weekend (Friday, September 14), my roomates and I threw another party. This is where I had new breakthroughs in my game.

I sent HB7.5 a text just in case, because I didn't want to throw in the towel yet. I've learned to be a lot more PERSISTENT over the last few weeks. HB7.5 showed up with some friends. I played a few games of beer pong with her again and then we separated for a bit. I sent her a text saying, "I want to tell you a secret." But she never responded. So when I saw her again at my party, I asked her if she got my text. She said yes, and asked me what the secret was.

Huge breakthrough in my game right here: I leaned close to her and whispered, "I'm kinda embarrassed to say this, but I really want to kiss you right now." She responded by saying, "that's a good secret." A huge sticking point of mine has been heavy sexual escalation. I have trouble laying heavy sexual stuff on girls, for example picking them up, putting my arm on their waist, talking dirty to them before I hook up with them, etc. So to say something as daring as this really made me proud.

Regardless, this time the RA's DID COME and they broke up the party. HB 7.5 obviously had to leave. ****blocked once again! I was a little perturbed, especially since I got in trouble with the RAs. But that didn't stop me from having fun.

HB7.5 sent me a text an hour later saying, "are you ok?" To which I responded, "I'm having a great time! Let's meet up." She responds with, "come to our room."

I go there and there a lot of her roomates there and a couple guys who are friends with them. A total of about 12 people are in the room, including 2 of my roomates who came to wing me (great guys). Sh*t. These logistics are bad. HB 7.5 puts on Donnie Darko and as it is playing we all are talking and shooting the sh*t. I knew it was going to be hard to escalate, especially with so many people around. However, Hb 7.5 left to her room to check her mail for a second and I knew this was my chance. I knew I had to grab my balls and be daring once again. I walked into her room, so it was just me and her. I pulled her towards me and KCLOSED her again. She told me that we had to stop, cause her friends would notice, but right before we went back into the main room, I pulled her back for one more kiss.

I ended up staying there until 3 in the morning, but I didn't get to hook up with 7.5 again because she left at aroiund 2:00 and never returned. I waited for her, but then I left, because I didn't want to be an AFC and wait around. I sent her a text at around 4 AM saying, "Where'd you go? I wanted to say goodbye." She responded by saying, "I know but I was really nervous." I responded with "haha you don't have to be nervous around me."
She sent me a text this morning saying that she left her camera somewhere. I'm gonna try to hang out with her again tonight. I have no expectations, however. I am just going to let whatever happens happens.

Honestly, you really have to make your goals and your improvements more impiortant than the one girl herself. That is what I am trying to do. My self-improvement in game and confidence is more important than getting a single girl. This has really helped my game out. Last night I was a lot less timid, more honest with my intentions, and more daring. That is why I got a KCLOSE again.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

braks gettin some action!!!! Nice to see you overcoming some of your problem areas from before. Being persistent is hard as hell coz you sometimes feel like an AFC chasing a chick but in acutality the AFC thing to do is to give up on her prematurely.



o and btw:http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=boom+boom+room
so a room you fvck people in.

 

[Brak86]

Tuesday, September 25

On Friday, September 19 I took another step forward this weekend with the same girl whom I have been hooking up with the past couple weekends. To make it short, I was at one of my buddies' rooms for a little get together when I get a text from one of my roomates. My roomate tells me that my target (HB 7.5) is in our room (it's pretty clear that she's there for me). I stay at my buddies place for a little while longer and then I come back to my room.

But HB 7.5 is no longer in my room. She went back to her room (which is only a few doors down from mine ). So I, along with some of my roomates who kindly winged for me, went to her room and hung out with her and her roomates. However, yet again, the logistics were terrible, since (as I have mentioned before), all sophomores live in 8 person suites. That does not bode well for isolation.

I wasn't really talking to HB 7.5, I have trouble just thinking of stuff to say to her. I try to think about more things to say so I can talk to her, yet nothing comes to my mind. It's quite frustrating.

But a little while after, someone invites everyone out to smoke weed. Since I don't smoke, I stay in HB 7.5's room with one of her roomates. I end up chatting with her roomate for awhile, getting on her good side so she supports me in case 7.5 asks.

HB 7.5 comes back with the group, and she has pretty blazed and drunk. She goes to the bathroom, and once again I get up and go near the bathroom. When she comes out, I pull her into the room and hook up with her. (As a little side note, as I pull her into the room, she says, "my nose gets stuffy when I'm high." since she knew we were gonna hook up. It was kinda cute). As I am kissing her, I take her dress off (I had just a tiny bit of trouble getting it off). She pulls away and says, "you know we aren't doing it tonight, right?" I act as if it is no big deal and say, "that's totally fine. No big deal." And we continue hooking up. I kiss her neck, kiss and lick her breasts, passionately make out with her, etc. (Another side note: While making out, I sometimes like to pull away and have the girl try to kiss me again, while I pull back only further. This time, however, HB 7.5 says, "Why do you always pull away?"

I have her down to her panties, and I'm down to my boxers. She asks me to turn the light off and I do. We continue hooking up. She gives me a terrible hand job (literally yanking on my penis, ouch). So eventually i have her stop.

When I try to finger her, she suddenly gets ASD. She says that she has to wake up early and that I have to leave. I say ok but shrug it off and we continue hooking up. But she brings it up again. We stop and at some point she mentions that she has "trust issues." And she also implied that she doesn't know if I like her for who she is (she didn't say this explicitly, she only implied something along these lines).

I foolishly try to logically convince her that I like her for who she is. While I do think she's a real cool person, logically convincing girls almost never works. I say AFC, very transparent, stupid sh*t, which only further makes her want me to leave. I eventually leave but I give her a goodnight kiss.

Saturday, September 20

I ended up hanging out with HB 7.5 again (she came to my room again with her friends). I was not on my game at all. Its just so frustrating to try to overcome very hard logistics every time I see this chick. Nevertheless, when I go to bed, I realized that there were a couple moments where I could have isolated this girl, but I never even thought about these moments until after the fact. Very frustrating. But on the good news, I think that HB 7.5 either a)forgot about what I said when we hooked up on saturday or b)remmebers but doesn't really care or c) both.

We have texted each other a few times since the weekend.

I'm planning on inviting her out (wednesday) to go for a walk. I will build more comfort and try to lose my virginity. We'll see what happens.

 

[Brak86]

Thursday, September 27

I made a frustrating mistake last night with HB 7.5. Looking back on it, it was quite stupid and supplicative of me, but I truly believe that mistakes are the greatest teachers. When I f*ck something up, especially when its a big f*ck-up, then there's a lot better chance that I won't make that same mistake again.

So as you all know, I've been hooking up with HB7.5 the past 3 weekends in a row, but they've all occurred when we were both drunk. Regardless, she was still interested in me and texted me a lot. But I felt that I needed to hang out with her and talk to her more while we were both sober to have sex with her and to develop the relationship.

This is where a huge problem of mine lies: I don't know how often to stay in contact with a girl, whether I want her to be my friend, my girlfriend, or my **** buddy. I rarely ever call girls (or even guy friends, for that matter) to just talk and see what's up. I just don't like using the cell phone. I only usually call people in order to set up a time to meet them IN PERSON. I really just don't understand what social people do in regards to how often they call and get in touch with people. Maybe I have a tendency to isolate myself too much, because I have a hard time returning phone calls, even to my good friends. I'm just so into my school work, my guitar, my spanish, my game, etc. and I want to do extremely well at these things that I just don't call people that often.

Anyways, back to the story. Last week, I actually did invite her out during the week to hang out, but she was really busy with exams. I know it wasn't flaky, because she still texted me a lot and we hooked up last weekend.

But last night I texted her, here's how the text conversation went:

Me: Hey what are you doing right now?
Her: Watching antm (I dont know what antm is)
Me: I'm about to take a study break. Spanish is kicking my brains ass. Wanna go on a walk in a bit?
Her: If there's a commercial i'll let you know.
Her (5 minutes later): commercial
Me: Meet me outside of our dorm at 845
Her: I can't i'll miss the end of antm! (I don't understand what the hell she was thinking here. If we were to go on a walk, it would take longer than 2 minutes. Did she expect us to go on a 2 minute walk until her show came back on? She texted me back, yet what did she think we were gonna do?)
Me: ahah you dork, when is it over?
Her: At 9 but then gossip girl starts at 10
Me: K cool we'll just do it another time
Her: It's done at 10 (this made me believe that she actually wanted to hang out)
Me: I can do ten, can you?
Her: What did you wanna do
Me: Go on a walk

She never responded after that. It was weird. I asked my roomate for his opinion afterwards and he said that asking a girl to go on a walk is so sketchy. I agreed with him. Walks are fine, but the meeting should not be centered around the walk. There needs to be a specific destination. He said that girls find a "walk" to be really pressure-filled.

As great as it is to learn from my mistakes, I'm frustrated. I feel a lot of pressure to play this one out right, because 1)this is the closest I've been to losing my virginity to a girl who isnt trashy and 2) I don't have many other great options.

As soon as I realized that I had a good chance with this girl, I acted differently. I'm still being bold with her, but I am playing it too safe, as if I'm trying not to lose her. I need to live my life normally, according to my own goals and passions.

I'm also a bit frustrated because I haven't been pushing myself enough. I can strike up random conversations with strangers all the time now, which is great! But with girls, I am not pushing the interactions. Also, even though I can open really well now, I am too inhibited and too safe in my interactions. I need to be a lot more expressive, playful, and sexual. My conversations with strangers are usually too boring--they are just like other people's conversations. I need to introduce more roleplay, cold reads, disqualifications, kino, etc. into my interactions, especially with girls i have just met. I started to become really good at playful, interesting interactions at the end of last year, but I've lost some of that skill.

On a side note, I'm planning on asking all of my wingmen here in boston what they think my biggest flaws are. A huge part of the game and self-improvement in general is letting go of the ego. I want to hear what criticisms they have of me. So far, I've only asked Doc Holliday, who said that I don't give myself enough credit. He said that I have so much going for me, but I just don't see it yet. My confidence is low for being such an amazing person. Basically what he meant was that I need to truly understand my value, because when I do that, my game will be air-tight.

 

[Agent Zero]

Hey brak, sorry you aren't getting many replies lately, but I think it's because of all the girls you are gaming, most guys don't have the experience to give you advice, myself included. I have some advice on this FR though. I agree with your friend that a "walk" is very sketchy. I know you were thinking of it as a romantic thing, but even I am here thinking you are gonna walk with her and nobody else is outside, then you try to start making out, etc. I don't think any girl is going to agree to that, ASD and all. What you could have done was suggest walking to a coffee shop or something if your campus has one or just go get some food with her. From my experience I would say you should NEVER suggest anything romantic to a college girl until you are in a relationship with her. They want fun, not romance so sell her on the idea of just "meeting up" for some food or hot chocolate or something. I know it is probably frustrating, as I am frustrated myself with how girls like to act completely immature so much until they are about 25. Good luck, though, and I'm sure your wings in Boston will help. I'm going to try to get into a lair myself in a few months when I'm back in a major city.

 

[Brak86]

Hey brak, sorry you aren't getting many replies lately, but I think it's because of all the girls you are gaming, most guys don't have the experience to give you advice, myself included. I have some advice on this FR though. I agree with your friend that a "walk" is very sketchy. I know you were thinking of it as a romantic thing, but even I am here thinking you are gonna walk with her and nobody else is outside, then you try to start making out, etc. I don't think any girl is going to agree to that, ASD and all. What you could have done was suggest walking to a coffee shop or something if your campus has one or just go get some food with her. From my experience I would say you should NEVER suggest anything romantic to a college girl until you are in a relationship with her. They want fun, not romance so sell her on the idea of just "meeting up" for some food or hot chocolate or something. I know it is probably frustrating, as I am frustrated myself with how girls like to act completely immature so much until they are about 25. Good luck, though, and I'm sure your wings in Boston will help. I'm going to try to get into a lair myself in a few months when I'm back in a major city.

Hey man, thanks for the response. I don't really mind the lack of responses. This thread is more like a blog...i've created it mostly for myself. However, I am happy if others gain from my experiences. No matter if people are more or less experienced, however, I ALWAYS listen to constructive criticism. Every man is my superior in some way, and I will gain from everyone in at least some way.

Guess what, though?! Even though I messed up by asking that girl to go on a walk, I ended up hooking up with her again on Friday September 28th. Once again, the logistics were terrible, and I had to isolate her under very hard conditions. I did something new, too. I asked her to leave her room in front of all of her friends. I was scared to do it, and it came across pretty weak, but she agreed to come with me.

Even though we hooked up again, she got LMR after about 10 minutes. I think she starts getting the LMR when her pu**y starts getting wet. I thinkl this has to do with the "trust issues" she mentioned to me a week ago. I'm pretty sure she's worried that after we have sex, I'll leave her. This probably has something to do with her past.

What I've also noticed (and this has happened to me a couple times before), is that she now sometimes gets a little *****y towards me. On Saturday September 29, on multiple occasions she disagreed with me just for the purpose of disagreeing with me. I mentioned a song that I liked, or a tv show i liked, etc. and she said that it wasnt good. It was kinda in a joking manner, but I don't understand why girls sometimes do this. Maybe she's trying to force herself to not get too attached to me.

 

[Agent Zero]

Yes, I'm familiar with that kind of disagreeing. I have to take a different opinion than you though. I think she is actually interested in being your girlfriend, but she's doing those **** tests to see if you are man enough not to let her control you. From what I read here, I think you have to make a decision if you want her as a girlfriend or if you just want to fool around.

Also, I just wanted to say next time she disagrees with you about something, bust her on it. Playful fights are very flirtatious so tell her she has no taste or she's boring like "omg you're so boring, do you sit around and watch the news all day or something?" or another good one is "really???" and just look at her like she's strange for not liking that show or song. "you're the only one who doesn't like that show, what's wrong with you?" ...you get the idea. It should come natural and be flirtatious, but like I said I think she wants to be your girlfriend. You even said she was kinda joking so she is giving you the opportunity to joke back.

 

[HoneyHitter]

Is she testing me when she asks to turn off the lights?

Tuesday, September 25
She asks me to turn the light off and I do.

This is one of my sticking points now. I WANT the lights on. I feel like I'm supplicating when I agree to turn the lights off. Can anyone share some insight on how to COMPLETELY dominate this kind of situation. Next time I will simply ignore it to see how that works out.

Is it only a matter of the girl's insecurity about her own body? Or is there something else going on when she suggests to turn the lights off?

 

[Brak86]

This is one of my sticking points now. I WANT the lights on. I feel like I'm supplicating when I agree to turn the lights off. Can anyone share some insight on how to COMPLETELY dominate this kind of situation. Next time I will simply ignore it to see how that works out.

Is it only a matter of the girl's insecurity about her own body? Or is there something else going on when she suggests to turn the lights off?

I feel you, man. But I also feel that too many times a guy wrongly thinks that just because he is doing something that a girl asks, he is supplicating. The fact of the matter is, girls have the final say. They are ultimately the choosers. We can't deny that. I was so obsessed with being non-supplicative and "alpha" that I used to try to phrase my text messages as suggestions instead of questions. For example, I felt like asking a girl, "do you want to watch a movie with me?" was less alpha than saying, "you should come over and watch a movie with me." It was pretty foolish of me.

What I'm trying to say is that, just because you are doing something that she asks, does not mean that you are supplicating. She is uncomfortable with the lights on. Maybe this is because she is still getting used to hooking up with you, maybe it is because she is uncomfortable in the initial stages of hooking up with a new guy, maybe she is uncomfortable with her body. It's not a big deal. Maybe she'll turn into a kinky wildebeast that wants to screw in dressing rooms as she trusts you more.

Yeah, we'd all like a girl who's totally confident in herself and in her body, but that doesn't always fall into our laps. If a girl is initially uncomfortable, I empathize with that and it's fine by me.

 

[saber]

dude lemme break this down for you as simply as I can from reading what I have and being extremely bored at work...

****ing a girl is like running a race..the more you practice the faster you will reach the end with any girl. My 2 cents on your situation is you are so inwardly involved you only HEAR her words and do not consider what state she is in mentally to say them for example...

for example...with the texting...

if i imagine that was me watching tv and a smokin hot girl texting me i would not go for some bull**** walk!!!
I would want to invite her over to watch tv and touch the mommy daddy button. Because all I wanna do is get down!

SO to sum up
you need more practice and to not get so caught up with one girl who could easily be railing 10 other guys

Pay more attention to her...ASSUME SHE WANTS TO FVCK, and escalate kino

also you should nevber take my advice lol

 

[Brak86]

Thursday, October 4

Well guys, I'm finally gonna do it. Starting tomorrow, I'm going to be doing the 30-day challenge with 5 wingmen of mine here in Boston. Yes, I'm going to go out and approach for 30 days in a row. Jeez. My brain gets tired just thinking about that. But i hear that it usually takes around 3 weeks to internalize a habit. The crazy thing is, I have never really done anything, let alone approaching, for 30 days in a row. I haven't even practiced guitar for 30 consecutive days, and guitar doesn't require me to go out and face rejection.

But I've always believed that drastic changes come with intense, consistent, sometimes painstaking work. Hopefully, all 6 of us guys will stick to this challenge, but who knows what will happen.

I'll briefly lay out the parameters of the 30 day challenge and what sticking points I plan to blast through:

Parameters:

Even though we will have to make sacrifices for this 30 day challenge, we are all busy guys who have our professions/schoolwork to do. So we all only have a limited amount of time each day. Therefore, we will have to make use of our time very well. We can't just walk around for 30 minutes between sets.

We didn't set a specific number of girls to approach each day, because if we approach 20 girls one day and immediately eject, we wont really improve that much. Improvement will not come from the number of girls we open, but how far we get with each girl and how far we push the envelop. For example, getting a girl to go on an Insta-date with you takes a lot more skill than asking 20 girls an opinion opener. That being said, if you are just starting out, approaching a lot of girls to get rid of AA is what you should be doing.

Regarding daygame, we are planning out on going out in two's or at most in three's. This is because 1)Our schedules are all different and 2)you can't have six guys walking around together in a mall at the same time :crazy: .

Night game definately counts towards the 30 day challenge. As long as you go out and approach every day, its legit. Unfortunately, both Doc Holliday and I are under 21 while the other 4 guys in the group are over 21. This means that me and Doc Holliday are going to have to primarily do day game (with the exception of weekends, of course). I know I'm in college, but BC is not a big party school, and even though I know a lot of people, I have a hard time finding legit parties even on Fridays or Saturdays. The guys that are over 21 really want to do a lot of day game, and I hope they do. Night game, while it probably requires more skill, is less pressure-filled than day game. It can be nerve-wracking to approach during the day.

I'm not planning on doing much of this 30 day challenge on campus, because I do NOT want to be that sketchy creep on campus. Although BC is relatively big, I see a lot of the same people every day, and I cannot afford to have a bad reputation. After all, I am going to be screwing up big time during this challenge, so I'd rather keep it away from my college and instead keep it within the city of Boston.

We are going to set daily goals. For example, tomorrow (the first day), I am going to work on getting back into the groove of approaching.

I'll post my daily goals and how I did after each day. Unfortunately, I probably won't remember exact conversations, so the details of my interaction might be somewhat vague.

Goals:

I want to become a guy that's always "On." I don't want to have to turn on the switch when I see a hot girl. I want to be a naturally fun, flirty guy. Right now I feel as though I have to turn something on inside me when I want to flirt with a girl. It can be draining to do this. I want this to be a natural part of my self.

While my attraction material is still pretty decent, I have gotten back into the habit of having too many of my conversations be boring. On campus, when I see a girl that I know, I want to stay away from the mundane topics like, "how was your test." I want my conversations to be fun, flirty, and interesting. Stuff like roleplaying, disqualification, cold-reads all make the conversation more fun. Most guys stick to the bland, "normal" conversation. I don't want to be like those guys. I want girls to be enamored with me when I talk to them because I finally take them to a better place: a temporary escape from their normal routine.

I want to really push the envelop and be comfortable flirting heavily with girls. Some of my natural friends are shameless when it comes to hitting on girls. No, I don't want to be the creepy guy that whistles at girls. But I want to do sh*t like pick girls over my shoulder, spank them, throw my arm over their shoulders and steer my conversations to a more sexual vibe. And no, this stuff does not creep the girl out if you do it right, with the right frame, and at the right time.

I want to get out of my head when I'm conversing. I am very, very bad at this. I over-think and I get too worried. I become very inhibited with what I say because I am worried about shame, public embarrassment, and awkwardness.

I want to get more comfortable opening indirectly. As some of you may know, I'm pretty good at opening directly. It isnt that much of a problem for me. I want to be comfortable flirting with a girl without explicitly stating my intentions.

Alright guys, it's getting late. That's all for now. The first day of the challenge starts tomorrow!

 

[Brak86]

Friday, October 5

From now on, since I won't remember exact conversations, I will post a "HIGHLIGHTS OF THE DAY" section of each post, which will be things that happened in my interactions that I specifically remember.

DAY 1:

Ok so day 1 of the 30 day challenge was geared towards getting reacquainted with opening. I went out with Doc Holliday, who's always a great guy to go out with. We each approached 5 sets, and we went direct on every one except the last. We stopped girls walking on the streets, stopped them walking through the mall, stopped them at stores...

All of my sets opened pretty well, but like always, it's a matter of my game AFTER the opener. First of all, I need to understand and accept the fact that what I'm doing is out of the ordinary; therefore, girls will be uncomfortable and wary in the beginning. My job, as a confident guy, is to make them more comfortable. The only problem is, in order to make the girl feel comfortable, I have to be comfortable myself. If I am not comfortable, how the f*ck am I supposed to make her comfortable in my presence?

I got 2 or 3 of the girls in good conversation, but I ejected. They were both cuties, too. I like COLD READING...it gives a good base to start conversation and they are intriuged because they want to know why you thought of them a certain way. Doc and I didnt get any numbers during the day, however, I went out at my college later that night and got a solid number. I still need to be more sexual. I could have at least made out with this girl, she was all over me. But I'm too hesitant to hold a girls hand or put my arm around a girl's waist when I'm around other people. I need to get over that stupid sticking point.

Another girl opened me at a party, and she was drunk as balls. Too often, I get stuck in the structure of the game, and feel as though I need to always attract, comfort, and seduce a girl before we hook up. But in college game, if the girls drunk as hell, and I see the IOIs, I need to dump the structure and hook up with the girl.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THE DAY

1. I COLD READ one girl in the Prudential Mall. I guessed that she was from california, but she was actually from New Hampshire. When she told me she was from New Hampshire I said, "Ohhh, so you're like one of those lumberjack girls."

2. I opened a girl on the street and even though she opened pretty well, she kept on walking. So I walked down the street with her for like half a mile, just talking to her. At one point she told me she was from Conneticut. Here's a little snippet of our conversation:

Her: I actually just moved here.
Me: Me too, where are you from?
Her: Connecticut
Me: Jeez, it seems like everyone in Boston is either from Connecticut, New York, or Massachusettes.
Her (In a teasing tone): well, i mean you ARE in Boston.
Me: ahah thanks smartass.

3. When I was back on my college campus, I went to my friends room because he was having people over. As soon as I walked in, the girls there came up and started talking to me. Yes, they were drunk, but that didn't happen nearly as often as before. I think I am radiating a more confident and relaxed manner when I walk into a party.

4. What is also huge is that whenever I introduce myself to girls, I always make a really warm SMILE. This, I think, is pivotal. It really sets up a good first impression and lets the girls know that you are not uncomfortable/intimidated in their presence


That's Day 1 for you all. Day 2 updates will be coming soon.

 

[Brak86]

Day 2: Saturday, October 6,

I got my first insta-date today!!! I'll talk more about it later, though.

Doc Holliday and I went to Harvard Square and we each got a number. The thing is, we are both only using direct openers and we are also only opening single sets. While single sets probably provide the best chance for success, I see way too many cute girls with friends. I feel that I should start opening groups in addition to single sets. Nevertheless, it's only day 2, so we are still just trying get get back into the groove of approaching.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THE DAY:

I approached one girl on the street and, like many girls do, she kept on walking after I approached her. But I said, "will you just stop for a minute?" And she complied! I immediately picked up and accent and she turned out to be from Greece. Unfortunately, when I told her I was 20, she said I was too young for her (she's 25). However, before leaving, she KINOed me on the arm. At least she respected my approach. She was intrigued by me.

I was on Harvard Campus and I spotted a cute girl sitting against a tree studying. When I opened her with direct, she commented on how sweet it was and we got to talking. When I asked her for her number, this is what happened:

Her: welll...will you go buy me ciggarrettes first?
Me: Buy you ciggarrettes??! how old ARE you?
Her: I'm 17
Me: ahaha no I wont go buy you ciggarrettes (right then I paused and reconsidered).
Me: I'll tell you what, i'll buy you ciggarrettes if you come with me. You have to give me money, too.
Her: Ok!

Unfortunately, the insta-date did not go over well. I was too nervous and too in my head. I got her number but it wasn't a solid number.

I'm CONSTANTLY in my head while im gaming, or even socializing in general. The thing is, even though the game is supposed to provide you with material and a few lines to work with, material will not provide you with a whole conversation. In fact, 90% of an interaction with a girl is fluff. And by fluff, I don't mean boring conversation. What I mean is that regardless of having knowledge of the game in your head, you're still going to have you use your own social skills to carry the interaction. The thing is, I am relying too much on "game material" to FILL my conversations. So even just normal conversation is hard for me. I don't understand the concepts behind good conversation, and learning tools like BANTER, DISQUALIFICATION, and C+F will not do all the work for me. These are just tools to help spice up the conversation, so that you can get the girl intrigued. What doesn't get mentioned that much in the game is that most of an interaction is conversational topics that you and her bring up. If you keep thinking in terms of the game, you will run out of things to say. I guess that is why I need personal stories and opinions about things that I can relate to.

I'm not really giving myself enough credit, here. I think that if I wasn't in muy head so much my conversations would be a lot better. Now I'm pretty darn good at attraction material now, and I'm great at delivering it. But this is because I am now quick at using the right BANTER/DISQUALIFICATION lines, in almost any situation.

I think I just need to stop thinking about game related things for now and just trust my social skills. After all, I've always been a pretty popular, social guy. It's just around girls I get all messed up.

Anyways, that's day 2 for you all!

 

[Brak86]

Day 3: Sunday, October 7

The whole 30-day challenge group went to an outlet store outside of boston. I opened a really cute graduate student and got her number.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THE DAY:

She asked me where I was from, and I told her to guess based on my clothing. She guessed European! I made fun of her for it, but now I think about it, I guess it is a compliment. When I told her I wasn't European she guessed Canadian! I busted her butt for that.

This girl found out that I was an undergraduate student and she still gave me her number. Too bad I can't take her out to get drinks. My friend Big joked that I can still show her around my dorm (I live in a suite style dorm with 7 other guys).

I got her number by simply saying: "I actually have to get going, but you seem cool. We should hang out sometime."

Unfortunately, the place wasn't packed with great sets, so that was the only approach I did. I shouldn't make excuses, though.

 

[kidkoala]

don't get messed up around girls dude. Just trust yourself your social skills are enough as they are. they are better than most peoples just remember that and don't force things IMO.

 

[Brak86]

Day 4: Monday, October 8

I went to the prudential mall with Big, Funkfish, Entropy, and Mr. Awesome. Upon entering the mall, I immediately opened a HOTTT girl. She's also about 5 inches taller than me. I went up to her and opened her with direct game. I number closed her and had her put her number in my phone. I called her numbher and i told her to put me in her phone as Dan Texas (since i'm from texas).


HIGHLIGHTS OF THE DAY

Here's a snippet of our conversation:

Her: This has never happened to me in my life.
Me: Is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Her: Well, you're not creepy so its a good thing.
Me: ahaha well I'm glad.


When I first saw this girl, she was behind me. In order to to make the approach seem natural, I ran about ten yards and then turned around, so that it seemed like I was walking towards her when I "first" saw her. However, after I opened this girl and while we were in conversation, she TOTALLY busted me on this. She saw what I did but she didn't care! From this, I learned 1)how good girls are at observation and 2)how flattering direct game is DURING THE DAY (nightgame is a totally different story).

I forgot her name when I got her number, but I just asked. Too many times, I try to pretend that I'm not nervous and that I remember the girls name, but sometimes I forget. But this time, instead of trying to sneak by and not let the girl know that I forgot her name, I was just honest. I told her I was a bit nervous when I approached her and said I forgot her name again. She didn't care.

One thing I must mention. Direct Game should not be delivered with nervousness. Obviously, when you are first starting out, you will be nervous and that is TOTALLY FINE. But since I've done Direct so many times, I don't think I've gotten one boyfriend objection right after opening since I've started this 30 day challenge (I have gotten the boyfriend objection when I went for one girls number, but not right after opening).

Direct Game is kind of ironic in a way. You want to be SINCERE and EXPRESSIVE and GENUINE; however, you do NOT WANT to be NERVOUS. Contrary to popular belief, you can be the former without being the latter. Although being nervous might show that you were genuine, it would not show that you were confident. But at the same time, you don't want to be the guy that goes up and says how hot she is. In conclusion, you don't want to be the NERVOUS guy, but you also don't want to be the guy who recklessly hits on girls by commenting on their looks. You want to be the GENUINE, BALLSY guy.

My favorite opener is, "I know this is totally random, but I saw you and I had to come meet you."

Or

"I know this is totally random, but if I didn't come meet you I would be kicking myself all day."

No, this is not AFC behavior unless you deliver it weakly. If you deliver it with a smile on your face, and in a relaxed manner, the girl will be pleased. She will be comfortable if you are comfortable. Too many guys try to be too ALPHA and think that showing Genuine interest and being expressive is AFC. But its not as long as you are confident. For example, you don't have to lean back to look "relaxed" and "powerful" when you go direct. When guys try to force alphaness, they just look tense and retarded. Girls will pick up on this and become uncomfortable themselves.

 

[Brak86]

Day 5: Tuesday, October 9

Wasn't a great day for approaching today. I approached two girls and both didn't go anywhere. I need to approach more girls and not laze around. I can't waste so much time lollygagging.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THE DAY:

I approached a very sexy romanian girl. In the middle of our conversation she pulled out her card and gave it to me! She's actually a psychic. I told her that I wanted to hang out with her sometime, and she laughed and said she was married.

The other girl I approached was in a bookstore. An older lady and a dude my age heard the whole interaction. I saw them staring at me while I was talking to the girl. I was nervous because other people were watching me. I didn't open well and the conversation was not that great.

In case you guys have been wondering about the girl I have been hooking up with, she was out of town this past weekend, so I didn't see her. But she posted on m facebook wall asking me how my weekend was without her. I'm gonna bust her .

 

[Brak86]

Day 6: Wednesday, October 10

Frustration. This is the theme for today. Wow, it's so funny how one day everything goes so well and then a few days later it seems like everything goes wrong. Today was a day that everything seemed to go wrong. I did no approaches today because I invited the girl I've been hooking up with over. And because I called two girls whose numbers I have recently gotten.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THE DAY:

Let me first make it clear that all of these "highlights" are not really "highlights" per se, because my results were NOT good; in fact, they were bad. However, I feel as though the greatest things often come from failure, struggle, and pain; therefore, these things that happened to me I consider as highlights. They will help me in the long term, so I will still deem them highlights.

I called the really hot 5'11" girl whose number I got at the pru the other day and she didnt pick up.

I called a red head whose number I got over last weekend and she also didnt pick up (although she friended me on facebook).

I THOUGHT I was going to watch a movie with this girl who I've been hooking up with (she even messaged me on facebook yesterday asking me about it), but when I texted her later, she was being noncomittal. She agreed to come, but when I asked her if 10:30 was a good time for her, she didnt text me back. So at 10:00 I texted her saying, "so are you coming or not?" She texted me back saying that she and her roomates are watching knocked up and she invited me to come over. Now I was perturbed, because I thought I was going to watch a movie just her and I.

To top it all off, I got a 76% on my biology test, which actually made me more upset than all the other things that happened. I studied my a** of for that test, and I usually do well in school. I was planning on doing well on all of my exams so I could rest easily and do the 30 day challenge with not many other preoccupations. But now, on top of the 30 day challenge, I have to worry about the next biology test.

I suddenly got very frustrated and cried some. I didn't cry just because I got a bad grade, or because some girls didn;t respond to my calls. But these things triggered my already-existing frustrations within me. When a multitude of unfortunate things all happen to me at once, I focus on the negative to an extreme event. I then think about other sh*tty things. For example, I wondered how one of my wings, whose sets have not opened as well as mine have, already got a date with the only girl that he number closed while I am still stuck in frustrated desperation. I get into this stupid pity mode, but I've jolted myself out of it.

I ended up calling the girl who I've been hooking up with and telling her that we will do the movie another time, because I wanted to hang out with her alone, not with her roomates. I said it weakly, but I just wanted to say what was oon my mind.

I keep things in my head too much. I want to be uninhibited, to be FREE in ACTION and FREE in SPEECH. I want to not give a f*ck and just say whatever is on my mind. I really don't want to care about other people's reactions to my statements, I just want to be FREE.