gosh this thread has turned to garbage. a girl asks for help and it starts flame war 5000? come on guys, ur actin like 7th graders.
to the original poster. i'll give my take on the situation
from wat ur tellin us u r atleast decent looking if not a total dime. If guys holler at u all the time then u must be attractive. that's not the problem.
from wat ur sayin and from wat i read, u seem like a cool girl that dont take sh1t, which is good and respectable. that's not the problem, and is actually a turn on to me, but thats not the point
from wat i read, most guys u talk to either wanna fvck u or treat u like a friend.
that could be part of the problem.
some of ur guy friends might like u alot, but are too afraid and AFC to make a move on u. most guys r like that these days, they think they can win the females over by beint here friends first, which is sadly not true, as good as it sounds. so the problem might be in them. maybe u can try to show some romantic interest or give them a few signals, to get them goin and let them know it's ok to be alittle flirtacious wit u. try flirting more with men.
as for the other guys that holler at u. dont waste ur time with them. they are wimpy jus like the other guys, only from a distance, and are prolly jus gonna hit and quit it. ignore these guys.
the other part of the problem could be u. maybe ur personality turns guys off. maybe ur negative ( i cant stand negative chicks). idk. idk enough about u to frame that part completely. but be more flirty with men. we dig that from a chick. also be more sexual. sexuality is attractive to men. u dont gotta to be all slvtty with it, but be suggestive. dont be a all uptight with him.
men also like self respect. now, u can have sex before a relationship (which is probably better), but have self respect too. dont put out unless u really like the guy and deem him trustworthy enough for a relationship. u dont need sex to start a relationship, but it helps alot. like others said, if u r gonna make him wait too long, he might look for it elsewhere.
that's my take this from wat i was givin. I could help more if i knew wat u like in men, ur standards. and maybe a bit more about ur personality. the type of people u hang wit. how u carry urself. alittle more info please