Better than everyone else.

[Zarky]

I don't think OP's a troll. I do think OP is a teenager. Kind of the same thing

OP, you got a lotta learnin' to do. Glad I'm not in my teens or 20s anymore. Best of luck, keep pluggin.'

 

[Ronaldo7]

Damn... This is a shocking reminder of how I used to be. Got very similar remarks from all the guys, and even some girls. Not a good way to be. But its hard to contain when you get so much attention and admiration from the opposite sex. It pretty much creates this kind of attitude and persona. That's why so many "hot" people are arrogant, ****y, conceited, etc. It's also why everyone from the same sex hates them, and they spend all of their time with the other sex.

But underneath it all is a very insecure, approval-seeking, low self-esteem mess. Never fails. Had friends, and dated some women who were the same way. Running your existance off your ego is a bad way to live, IME. When you don't get that attention or admiration, you feel worthless and ****ty. Plus, everyone hates you, finds you annoying and shallow, and only wants you for sex. And you're always fighting with people; trying to prove how awesome you are; defending yourself at every turn. Too draining.

At least now I know why everyone hated me, tore me down constantly, etc. Same thing is happening to you. Just hope you're not sensitive, or take things personally.

So you understand me then. It's not that i feel worthless and ****ty, but i start wondering how they could possibly not be looking at me. A lot of people hate me and think i'm shallow, especially the girls i know. It also cemented my reputation when i told some girl, who liked me a lot, that she should hit the gym instead and forget about ever getting with me. What can i say? I'm a pretty honest person. I don't lie and i don't fake who i am. It does get draining having to contend with so many people at every turn, but what other choice do i have? I'm not sensitive and i don't care for much.

@NewAndImproved: I reallly am not a troll. I'm asking a legitimate question and i get called a troll? I understand my attitude may not be the best, but i am seriously not trolling. I found this forum because i want help in approaching women and also to learn from the many things presented here.

Do you even know what aspergers is? If anything i would be called stuck-up or full of myself. I present myself as who i am. I attract people naturally.

@Zarky: I did mention i was 18.

 

[Plutoman]

A lack of understanding of social interactions and repetition of certain negative behaviors?

Asperger's is sounding pretty likely.

Again, see a psychologist. Yes, I'm serious about that. You aren't going to find the answers you want here, because the answers you want don't exist. Just see a psychologist. The one I saw would offer a free hour before charging to see whether it was a good fit and whether you would want to go through with it.

 

[zinc4]

I have a very complex situation going on.

I have a very strong character and an unshakable self-confidence. I dress the way i want, do what i want, and have everything my way. I think of friends as short-term support to help you reach whatever you need to get done. However, i know a lot of people and have many friends, but very few of them are girls. When i go out to the club, i dress very formal and better than everyone else. I always wear a suit and a tie, while my friends wear very casual clothing. I know i'm better than everyone. I know where i'm going, what i'm doing, and when i'll get it. Most of my friends don't and i feel they are jealous of me when we go out. They seem to always want to know what i'm doing, why i'm doing it, and everything to it. I take very, very good care of my image and everyone notices when i step into the room. A lot of girls obviously give me looks and smile my way. I love for them to look at me when they think i'm not looking and for me to catch them in the act. Those looks just scream "I think you are incredibly attractive and i want you to approach me" and it maintains my ego at such a high level. I want a woman that can match my high level of confidence and i feel she should i approach me. I also feel that i'm better dressed and it would not look appropriate for the better dressed person to approach. If she doesn't have the confidence to approach me, it shows that she can't handle what i bring. I'm 6 ft 1 and 18, by the way. I also keep myself very, very fit by going religiously to the gym 4 days a week, which simply adds to my already high degree of attraction.

The problem: I find that my friends don't want to come out as much with me now since they think i destroy the vibe. I don't approach girls for the reasons stated above and they don't understand why i would get all dressed up and not approach any girls. Ironically, i also want to approach some girls that i am interested in, but i feel the way i'm dressed and the way i am holds me back from it. Girls look at me so much and the ones that have been confident enough to come up to me tell me that i am so attractive and handsome. Other random girls just tell me that if i looked more approachable, which I've been told i'm not, that i would get girls by the dozen. They ask why i look so arrogant and ****y and why i'm not dancing or moving. Last Saturday, i got 4-5 looks from so many girls and girls just standing in front of me just waiting for me to talk to them, as well as girls dancing behind me. I think its my ego vs letting myself be approached and approaching girls.

Any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated.

Holy crap you are gay as hell man. Obvious narcistic disorder going on if this isn't a troll.....it doesn't matter how good you look if you have this kind of attitude...NO ONE will want to hang out with you, woman or man. Hope you can change yourself.....seriously, quit thinking of yourself as so special...you dress up to go to the nightclub or everywhere you go and you really believe that makes you better??????? a better person????? oh my goodness....this is why everyone should study eastern martial arts or something related to spirituality....you just sound so incredibly empty on the inside.

And your friends don't want to hang with you because you are acting like a major self important douche bag and you are way too serious acting about YOURSELF in general.

 

[Trailboss]

Wow! I can't even read this 18 year old idiots drivel anymore! The arrogant, self-aggrandizing puke makes me laugh too hard! So..you were "taught" that you are better then everyone else? Interesting: a normal person would be "taught" (correctly)that nobody is better than anyone else! Everyone has value and your pathetic attempt to convince everyone that you, rightfully, believe you are better is, well...laughable! The bottom line is: you are terrified of women! You use this "I'm so much better" routine as a thorny crown that let's you keep from having to actually do anything about it and stand by the sidelines complaining that we don't get it!

Bottom line is: your an 18 year old moron who has a lot to learn about people in general, women in specific and your own self more then anything. Good luck "Ronaldo"! I think it's going to be a tough road for you...lol

 

[TheWolfMan]

OP, it doesn't matter if they're looking at you or not, what do looks from girls get you? NOTHING! I'm under the assumption that you believe women are just going to drop their panties because they see some chump in a suit. It's all about the attitude and you do not have it sir. Drop the entitlement bull, and actually approach the women. I've seen guys in jeans and plain t-shirts game decent girls. Copernicus called, you're not the center of the universe.

 

[Ronaldo7]

Does anyone know where i can see this "DJ Bible" and what it is?

 

[Trailboss]

Why dont you know where it is? You are so much better then everyone else and you can't see the link? Guess you are another clueless idiot...not special: just...common.

 

[ScottMustaine]

@Scott: There are too many things that make me better.

I'm not like everyone else. I have the drive and determination that most people would never comprehend.

I can do anything i set myself to ALL the way. I don't stop midway or slow down when i reach it. I go full force onto anything, which is why i come off as ****y or arrogant. I simply could care less about others when i'm trying to get what i want. It is a very "in your face" approach. It leaves the other person feeling like " I was trying to say something, but damn i got nothing". I intimidate people into second doubting themselves. Everything YOU THOUGHT you were doing right will be put to the test when you see me. I have the ability to change the world. I have it all. Whatever i do, good or bad, i will be pretty damn successful at it. I will set the standard for all to follow. I have the mind, the body, and the soul. My young years betray all that i bring, which is why i hang out with people that are 5+ years older. Every girl that has talked to me tells me that i am full of myself, ****y, arrogant, but they always mention how driven and determined i am. When i step into a room, it's like i'm flexing when i'm not. I exude everything people could/want to envy. There isn't anything that i DO that i'm not good at. Everything people tell me i can't do, i end up doing it better than them. The scent of success follows me everywhere. I know it is hard to understand when you aren't at my level, but it's a feeling that makes you naturally better than everyone. I don't try to be, it simply shows. However, it does hinder a lot with women, especially approaching them, which is my problem.

So why aren't you popular and rich and famous ?

You're better than everyone else in everything you do ?

What about c0ck sucking and being raped ?


I see it clearly now.

P.S. Kid, there's no way you can play faster , harder and with more melody than I can when it comes to guitar and music in general , that's for sure.

 

[perseverance]

than I can when it comes to guitar and music in general , that's for sure.

Steady on John Squire. God, what is it with 18 year little cretins filling up this forum with their utter nonsense. You and Ronaldo have a lot in common, you're both Barry Bellends.

 

[Ronaldo7]

What kind of upbringing did you have?

I only empathize with those that i have a use for.

I was born into a very rich family and i have everything i could possibly want. It taught me how the world works. Everyone has a price, you just need to find what it is.

@Trailboss: I'm clearly new to the forum and don't know where anything is.

@Scott: I'm rich. That's all i could care for. Fame and popularity come with the mantle of invading the privacy. I don't have time for that. I don't suck c0ck or get raped. That is a very dull and dumb example. I don't play the guitar or anything to do with music. You clearly didn't read what i wrote either. In my humble opinion, i believe that i am better than everyone else in everything I DO, not what you or anyone else does that i don't do.

@Perseverance: Ronaldo and i do have a lot in common. We both work hard to achieve our goals and strive everyday to become the best and even better than we already do. "If you think you are perfect already, then you will never be".

 

[HalfAddict]

I get it Ronaldo. I dress up, accessorize and clean up before I exit the house, pretty much every time I leave.

I feel the same way as you do in that I feel like the others around me are boorish and lack style. But I digress, dressing up and ensuring you look tip top shouts intent. Dressing like a man, and acting like a man gives off masculine energy which makes both women and the men who lack it uncomfortable which itself is not necessarily a bad thing either.

People will talk **** on you, but they are not necessarily jealous. I feel that those around me who do not know me are quite intimidated. I have had girls I know tell me they feel like they cannot touch me.

But you are not perfect and better than everyone, that thought will get you nowhere. There is always room for improvement.

 

[\O/]

I can do anything i set myself to ALL the way. I don't stop midway or slow down when i reach it. I go full force onto anything, which is why i come off as ****y or arrogant. I simply could care less about others when i'm trying to get what i want. It is a very "in your face" approach. It leaves the other person feeling like " I was trying to say something, but damn i got nothing". I intimidate people into second doubting themselves. Everything YOU THOUGHT you were doing right will be put to the test when you see me. I have the ability to change the world. I have it all. Whatever i do, good or bad, i will be pretty damn successful at it. I will set the standard for all to follow. I have the mind, the body, and the soul. My young years betray all that i bring, which is why i hang out with people that are 5+ years older. Every girl that has talked to me tells me that i am full of myself, ****y, arrogant, but they always mention how driven and determined i am. When i step into a room, it's like i'm flexing when i'm not. I exude everything people could/want to envy. There isn't anything that i DO that i'm not good at. Everything people tell me i can't do, i end up doing it better than them. The scent of success follows me everywhere. I know it is hard to understand when you aren't at my level, but it's a feeling that makes you naturally better than everyone. I don't try to be, it simply shows. However, it does hinder a lot with women, especially approaching them, which is my problem.

Clearly you have an inability to see yourself as the world sees you. Which in itself isn't necessarily a big problem, but you would be much better off with better and more realistic self-insight. People react to you because you stand out, probably in a weird way.

Having said that, the paragraph above (the bolded part), had it been written as positive affirmations in a post about motivation, people would be screaming DJ Bible material...

 

[ScottMustaine]

Steady on John Squire. God, what is it with 18 year little cretins filling up this forum with their utter nonsense. You and Ronaldo have a lot in common, you're both Barry Bellends.

-.-

Now sir, you got it wrong.

I did that on purpose to his response. Thanks for ruining my plans. If he is so great at everything he does, why doesn't he show us. I challenged him. Doesn't mean I'm the best.


And he replied.


@Ronaldoboy

So, why don't you kick my ass in my field. Oh wait. You can't. And since you can't , it means you are not above me. Plus I'm better with women.


So maybe you aren't good at music, since you don't have anything with it. But hey dude, we are in the same boat when it comes with women and I seem to do better than you do. How come? Didn't you tell us everything you do is better than everyone else ?





I hope something struck you in your head.



And no Ronaldoboy when he said we got something in common he meant me ( false Egocentric) and you ( you named yourself Ronaldo).

And not You and Ronaldo ( the real one)


Are you stupid or what ?

 

[perseverance]

Are you stupid or what ?

Yes, I thought that was obvious?

 

[ScottMustaine]

Yes, I thought that was obvious?

I'm confused. That question was not posed to you, but to Mr. Grand OP.

 

[floydb25]

Yea.. This sounds more like narcissism than anything else. Full blown NPD, even. Being raised in a rich / spoiled environment is one of the causes. Everything seems to match.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFgoGtt7wu4

Good thing I was never THIS bad. Actually cared TOO much about other people. Just bragged and was arrogant, mostly. There's definitely way too much "I I I, me me me" going on with this fella.

But there were a few people I knew who were just like this. Painfully shallow, arrogant, boastful, and conceited.. Always seeking attention, feeling entitled, looking down on those deemed not good enough, and going bat**** insane whenever things didn't go their way.. Unbareable to be around, or listen to. Everything was always about THEM. Always bragging, trying to out-do everyone, believing to be better than everyone, getting the best of everything and showing off. Some of the biggest AW's you'll meet. Plus they just used everyone as objects for their own gain.

What's interesting is that they don't do **** for anyone, or give a damn about them, but always expect for help from others - only to throw a ****fit when no one allows themselves to be USED, and treated / disregarded like nothing. They also only associate with those who "understand" them, and are deemed high class, or on their level. Everyone else is a scrub. Not sure if it's a good thing that I was "accepted".

Of course, even those deemed "good enough" are still never good enough in their eyes, and they'll soon turn on them, too. Discarded like nothing, and viewed as irrelevant, all the same. Only a matter of time before their extreme dislike and contempt towards everyone is directed towards them. They don't stick around with, or value ANYBODY. Nobody is ever good enough, and any little quirk is the end of the world. Most people are just used for attention / admiration / sex, or whatever.

Most people I knew like this were neglected / abandoned by their parents at a young age (especially the father) - then admired / spoiled / worshipped by everyone else (mostly of the opposite sex). Worst of both worlds. Men and women were like this.

The fake / shallow / status crowd is full of these people. Never going back to that **** again. :box:

 

[Night-hawk]

Kind of like this, OP.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=BLPM-P7mNQw

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Rly1ZZ076G8

 

[Groovy]

What is that fight club quote about loosing everything again? I wonder if that can fit into here, somehow.

 

[Ronaldo7]

I get it Ronaldo. I dress up, accessorize and clean up before I exit the house, pretty much every time I leave.

I feel the same way as you do in that I feel like the others around me are boorish and lack style. But I digress, dressing up and ensuring you look tip top shouts intent. Dressing like a man, and acting like a man gives off masculine energy which makes both women and the men who lack it uncomfortable which itself is not necessarily a bad thing either.

People will talk **** on you, but they are not necessarily jealous. I feel that those around me who do not know me are quite intimidated. I have had girls I know tell me they feel like they cannot touch me.

But you are not perfect and better than everyone, that thought will get you nowhere. There is always room for improvement.

If a fat person that went to the gym to get in shape and had the mentality that they were better than everyone else, they would easily accomplish their goal and not desist/quit overall or halfway through. Knowing that you are better than everyone is the key that differentiates the common people from the gems. Most people would never have that thought circulate their minds because of the backlash that would be brought along with it. They would lose friends, get told they are arrogant, and be hated. Life is all about survival of the fittest. The people who show their emotions, or weak tendencies, are the ones that get left behind. However, i'm glad you can see exactly where i come from.

@\O/: I don't care how the world sees me. I only care about how I see myself. If that were something to apply, there would be no such word as "driven" or "determination". I'd rather stand out in whatever way than be some nobody, who gets accepted, in the same crowd as everyone else. It isn't a big problem, others simply make it seem so. I hold no attachment to anyone, which is why i think i would be very successful if i knew how to approach women. Every prominent person, who has had a downfall, is usually down to them holding attachment to something and couldn't let go of it. When you have someone who only cares for himself and holds no attachment to anything, that would be a very intimidating person to compete against in terms of success.

@Scott: Au contraire mon ami, i never said you weren't better than me with women. However, i don't approach them, you do. It's basically like i don't play, so i can't be good or bad. I don't know how to, which was the point of posting this thread ASKING FOR HELP. This thread was meant to be for me to learn/get help in learning to approach women. I simply told a little background about myself and the way i am for a better understanding. False egocentric? I'll gladly be labeled with that if it means becoming the best at what i do. Ronaldo is the best at what he does and for you to compare me to him, even with the "False egocentric", is a greatly compliment. Thank you.

@Floyd: I wasn't neglected by my parents. I was raised by both of them very well. However, i was spoiled and admired by aunts, cousins, and everyone in general. What can i say? Everyone is destined/wants to be a part of me. I back up everything i say though. Your response is a bit harsh to describe too. Is it my fault that i'm simply better? No. It's like expecting an NBA player not to dunk the ball. It's something he knows how to do and will always do it. As much as i try to hide being better, it will always show through words, actions, or thoughts.