Plutoman said:
You are unable to accept any viewpoint but your own, and any agreement to it.
That is an ego, and that is arrogance riddled with insecurity. You can't even accept that it's an issue, and immediately jump into 'I don't understand', 'I do this this and this, so that should be right', and only agreeing/thanking/accepting the viewpoint of the one person who agreed with you.
It's fairly simple - stop thinking of yourself as better than others. Not only that, but you are judging everyone else before knowing them. My two best friends aren't nearly as successful as I am - does that matter? I don't judge them for it, I merely am friendly, we have fun, I have my success and they have their limited success determined by the effort put in. That doesn't mean they are bad people, and deserve to be looked down upon. They've simply made different choices and were born with different genes. I don't care if you work out more, if you work harder at a career - you are assuming that all that work there translates into not having to work to get a woman.
Tough luck man, but you still have to work to get women. You can only slack off and snatch women up that are below your league. If you want women in your league, you'll have to work for it.
Be friendlier, yes - talk as an equal to people, not as a superior. Confidence is understanding your own value, accepting it, and not judging others for being higher or lower than you. Arrogance is trying to place yourself above everyone else.
If really, all you want is women - then keep the arrogance, but work to get a woman, rather than assuming they'll walk up to you. How do you approach? You walk up and talk to them. After you do that 100 times with various women, you'll learn which ways get you into their pants and which don't. You need to experience the failure to learn success.
I did state i have a very big ego, didn't i? I don't understand those things that are basic to you because i have never done them.
Knowing that i am better than others is ingrained in me. It's something that i have just learned to accept. I tried to change this by being nice and all the things people suggested, but i found that i can't change who i am. A lot of people have told me that even though i may be arrogant and ****y, i have the right attitude to succeed and trounce everyone in the process. You are who you surround yourself with. If you are around friends who are simply underachievers, you won't realize and achieve your full potential. I have never snatched a woman that was below my standard. That's the sole reason i don't approach women and reject the ones that come up to me who aren't worthy. However, you are right that if i want a certain woman i would need to go up to her and approach her. I do talk to people like they are equal. They simply interpret it as if i'm superior, which they aren't mistaken. I don't place myself above anyone. It's simply too obvious for words and people realize it.
I don't want a relationship. I have no time to care about someone else so much. If all i want is this, i keep the "arrogance", right?
Just to get it clear. It doesn't look right to me that the better dressed person walks up to the other. Am i wrong? I feel like i am dressed so well compared to her and that it's just not going to look right. I also get told that when i talk to people i have this arrogant and ****y tone, which will probably be a downfall when i talk to her. I'm not trying to be arrogant or ****y, it is simply the walk i talk to people.
@Scott: There are too many things that make me better.
I'm not like everyone else. I have the drive and determination that most people would never comprehend.
I can do anything i set myself to ALL the way. I don't stop midway or slow down when i reach it. I go full force onto anything, which is why i come off as ****y or arrogant. I simply could care less about others when i'm trying to get what i want. It is a very "in your face" approach. It leaves the other person feeling like " I was trying to say something, but damn i got nothing". I intimidate people into second doubting themselves. Everything YOU THOUGHT you were doing right will be put to the test when you see me. I have the ability to change the world. I have it all. Whatever i do, good or bad, i will be pretty damn successful at it. I will set the standard for all to follow. I have the mind, the body, and the soul. My young years betray all that i bring, which is why i hang out with people that are 5+ years older. Every girl that has talked to me tells me that i am full of myself, ****y, arrogant, but they always mention how driven and determined i am. When i step into a room, it's like i'm flexing when i'm not. I exude everything people could/want to envy. There isn't anything that i DO that i'm not good at. Everything people tell me i can't do, i end up doing it better than them. The scent of success follows me everywhere. I know it is hard to understand when you aren't at my level, but it's a feeling that makes you naturally better than everyone. I don't try to be, it simply shows. However, it does hinder a lot with women, especially approaching them, which is my problem.
@Captain: I get into those clubs because i am friends with the bouncers and i know the manager well. I know A LOT of people, which i use to my benefit. The girls that go there are 21-23+. I look a lot older and simply fit in the crowd. My friends, whom i go out with, are some of the bouncers from the same club. However, i only hang out with 1 friend most of the time. This guy is my best friend, who is 23, and knows the bouncers as well. It is just us 2 most of the time. My best friend is a pretty successful guy and that is why i hang out with him so much. In that aspect, i agree with you 100%. I speak money. I'm passionate about anything that has to do with making money and more money. I find i don't work well with others, which solely makes me rely on myself. I do go to REAL upside clubs. This club charges 35$ cover just to get in. The drinks are also the most expensive in the city. I HIGHLY DOUBT anyone can mentally challenge me, especially a woman. Au contraire mon ami, i would school them.
